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Holly :)
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| 12/02/2008 5:41 PM |
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Ok...I have been friends with this guy for about three years now and I prefer him as a really good friend. The problem is that with knowing this guy for so long I now like him to the point where I get nervous and blush when he says hi and talks to me at school. My friends tell me that he's always flirting or being "smooth" around me, but I don't realize it. What should I do and what should I look for to realize that he's flirting. |
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Derek
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| 12/02/2008 10:44 PM |
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just curious, why do you get more nervous the longer you've been with him? it seems like you would be more comfortable. do you like him? in more than a "friend" way?
as to what you should do, i'm not sure b/c i'm not exactly sure what he's doing.
and if he's flirting, he'll probably be teasing you, but honestly i'm not completely sure.
and i don't know if you he likes you b/c you didn't really give any examples of stuff he does. |
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Holly :)
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| 12/03/2008 3:34 PM |
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idk.....its weird, you would think that I wouldn't be nervous with him now that I've known him for so long, but it's like the opposite effect for me. The longer I'm with him, the more I find out about his life and the more I like him. It makes me nervous to be around him sometimes I guess because I'm nervous he dosen't like me or think of me as interesting or as cool as a person as I find him. There are more reasons too but its hard to describe. Yes I like him and it's in more than a friend way.
As for what he his doing....I'm not sure still. He acts differently around me than he does other girls......like he's more open and stuff. He does tease a lot. He'll tease me about my strenghth, outfits (like when I wear a dress.....I don't like them) and things like that. I don't know if this is flirting or not but almost everday at school he'll come up and sit by me in the library during free time when I'm doing hw...it gets kinda annoying sometimes because I want to get my hw done but he'll talk to me the whole time and I don't want interrupt because I enjoy the talks we have. (yes, I have talked to him about that and he still does it sometimes) Is that flirting? |
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JoJo
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| 12/03/2008 4:34 PM |
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Hmm yeah, it's hard to say. All guy's are different, so it might be that he likes you, but you'll never know unless he actually tells you. Im like you, I dont like wearing dresses, so when I do, my friends tease me. but yeah, maybe just get to know him a bit more, and just enjoy the time you have with him. one big thing is to Not go home and go through your conversations and examine them from every angle. it tends to complicate things. Take them at face value, because what I've learnt from guy friends, they arent aubtle, they say what they think and dont try to give hidden meanings to you. Girls will do that, but guy's don't.
I know what it's like when You've been friends with a guy for a while and then you suddenly like him and then you get nervous. It's like "Woah, I was friends with him and now, I see him differently and I dont want to make it obvious, so I'll watch what I say and do around him..." lol
But yeah... you can also pray and talk to God about what to do. |
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artyprincess
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| 12/04/2008 4:59 AM |
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I know kinda how you feel. I have the same kinda thing with a guy I've known since I was a few weeks old. I like him (as in crush), then he's just a friend, then we see him and his family again, and I like him so it goes on. He's not the flirty type; in fact he seems to me, oblivious to girls. He's a swimmer, so he's athletic, and a lot of the girls in his youth group are crazy about him.
This is not answering the original question, is it? I say wait and see what the guys on here say. Us girls are wired so totally different to guys!!! We look into things, other than taking the face value of them. |
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Holly :)
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| 12/04/2008 4:05 PM |
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thanks for the advice.....i'll do what you said and just wait and see what other people say...I've already heard a lot of other advice from people and its been helping.
thanks (: |
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emilyjanelle
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| 12/04/2008 9:19 PM |
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girl, i'm in the same position as you.
how do you know, for sure? he'll tell you. simple as that, really. but we girls like to complicate, over-analyze, and get all emotionally attached to every single eensy-weensy thing guys say or do. sure, he could be flirting with you and very much so like you. but until he tells you face to face, like jojo said, take everything as it is.
we girls need to learn that lesson.
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wjr1991
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| 12/05/2008 12:32 PM |
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@Holly's thing:
Oh... Derek, I think you missed something-
Ok. So, I'd guess this is the guy you asked about in the other thing (Telling...)
Anyway, he sounds like he's either almost as close as a brother, or that he "likes" you... however, as well put by Emily and Jojo (And also put by me, although maybe not as well), you can't really know unless he tells you. So that's what I have to say to the "like" part.
As to what flirting is, there's been a debate about that here too... officially it's pretending to 'like' someone, even though you don't really... however it's often misused to mean acting like you 'like' someone because you do... either way, it sounds like it fits to me. When your friends tell you he's flirting with you, they almost definitely mean it in the altered way- that is, that he's acting like he "likes" you. Basically, that kind of flirting is making someone of the opposite sex the center of your attention, and the center of attention of everyone in the area... and to make yourself the center of their attention... so he may compliment you, or tease you, or whatever it may take to make you the center of attention, and to make you pay attention to him. It's not a set pattern of behavior (although certain things are typical- teasing, "stealing" stuff and making them get it back, talking with them whenever you get the chance... that kind of thing.)
So yeah, hope it helps you figure out what's going on! |
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wjr1991
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| 12/05/2008 12:35 PM |
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| Agh, forgot to finish what I was saying to Derek- she said she has known him for so long that she's started to like him to the point she gets nervous and blushes around him when he says hi, etc. |
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Holly :)
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| 12/05/2008 4:07 PM |
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| thanks...that helped a lot....I'll try to see if that happens or not..... |
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Derek
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| 12/08/2008 9:30 PM |
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oh, thanks will.
but yeah, from your description, it sounds to me that he likes you (how he is more open with you than with others). but then again, i had a female friend that i was pretty open with and she had a boyfriend...maybe that's a bad example : /
i say, go with what will said. |
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Holly :)
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| 12/10/2008 8:41 AM |
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Samuel
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| 12/24/2008 11:38 AM |
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| Idk.Just give it time we guys are wired to be straightforward in everything we do so he'd probably come out and tell you,but he might be shy.Although from what I hear he's either a reeeeeeeaaallly deep friend or he likes you.But that's just me. HOPE THIS HELPS |
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Austin
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| 12/26/2008 1:46 PM |
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| okay this guy likes you. If he teases you a lot and spends a lot of time around you, that just means he really wants to be around you and probably likes you. does he act nervous at all? because that is a good sign. |
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Peace_12
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| 12/28/2008 8:51 PM |
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| i know that every guy different or whatever, but I'm still a little confused as to know whehter or not a guy likes you. Could someone maybe give me an example of what a guy would do. |
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Austin
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| 12/29/2008 10:19 AM |
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| When a guy likes a girl, he will generally poke fun at her over little things and try and make her laugh. He will really try and tune in with her emotions. If she seems to be depressed about something, a nice guy will take the time to talk to her about it and listen to her. But most guys will try and get her to laugh to make her feel better, including the nice ones. Teasing and physical contact is what you're looking for, or at least if he is always trying to be really close to you and talk to you. |
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maddiegirl
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| 01/03/2009 3:16 PM |
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hi.
great advice from everybody, but i've met guys that liked girls but didn't tell them staright out. you know the kind of thing where everybody knows a certain someone likes someone else, but neither of the people involved will actually admit to it to each other?
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/03/2009 10:28 PM |
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yuppp! seen that situation before (and i'm realizing could be in, in the future).  |
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Hannahgotit
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| 01/04/2009 4:44 PM |
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| It is really hardsometimes for me to kno when a guy likes someone. It would be so much easier if guys could let us kno if they want to be friends or more.. instead of like "dancing all around it" and we just kind of end up confused. :s I lopve the advice on here though and this is prolly one of the best places to get upright, Godly advice at. Thanks to everyone!! |
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After consulting the people, the king appointed singers to walk ahead of the army, singing to the Lord and praising him for his holy splendor. This is what they sang:
“Give thanks to the Lord;
his faithful love endures forever!”
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Holly :)
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| 01/06/2009 3:07 PM |
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| he sometimes acts nervous but it isn't much....thanks the advice is helping a lot |
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