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ERC
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| 12/22/2008 7:01 PM |
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| Do non-Christian men notice when young women dress modestly, and do they respect them for it? |
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**Jes :-)
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| 12/22/2008 7:06 PM |
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| i think they wood notice it. cuz they defiantly notice when they don't dress modestly so i think they wood notice it when they didn't dress modestly |
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Austin
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| 12/26/2008 8:47 PM |
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| Yes. Guys definitely notice modesty. I can tell you that I definitely notice when a girl dresses in a stylish skirt that extends to the knees or when she wears a hoodie instead of some super tight abercrombie shirt. Don't dress old-fashioned or anything, but if you where cool but modest clothing, you'll have me hanging from the edge of my seat with interest in you. It's weird, I know, but I will look at a girl who looks great who really shows off her figure and say, "she's hot" or whatever, but rarely am I interested in her. I am way more interested in someone who can dress cool without giving away too much. By the way, the first thing I notice on a girl is her hair, then her eyes, then her figure. |
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ERC
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| 12/27/2008 11:28 AM |
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Why do you notice the hair first?
Thanks for your input |
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Austin
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| 12/27/2008 11:51 AM |
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Oh by the way... I am a christian, but I think the whole modesty thing applies to all guys. I don't know why I notice hair first. I guess that's just my favorite part of a girl  . Girls are like that too, though. They all have certain things they look at first when the see a guy. I know this from asking around. |
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**Jes :-)
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| 01/15/2009 3:39 PM |
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is that something most guys will notice is your hair?
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JoJo
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| 01/15/2009 5:06 PM |
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I think generally for anyone, Male or female, non christian or christian, the things they tend to notice first is hair, eyes, smile, or style. then of course it's the figures etc... but yeah...
so look after those 4 things!! 
but yeah, I think non christian men do notice modesty. I have plenty of non christian friends (I am a christian and a girl... just incase y'all didnt know )
and my non christian guy friends always tell me when I look nice and modest, or if I look like a Skank etc... (Not that I ever look like one, but if they think something is inappropriate, they'll tell me)
So yeah... I hope I helped... |
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Mike
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| 01/16/2009 9:42 PM |
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The first thing (and the main thing) I'm concerned with is whether or not the person takes showers. If they take showers, then they're just fine with me. Everything else is too subjective to try and make a general statement. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
But there is something about modesty that attracts guys. It obviously adds to the guy's opinion about the women in regards to their self-confidence (which is a big plus) but it also adds an air of mystery to a woman. A guy needs to pursue a woman, and there's something that makes a man want to pursue a woman who doesn't show off her body.
But yeah -- everybody notices modesty.
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getmoreatp
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| 03/03/2009 1:59 PM |
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| I completely agree with the guy posters above me. Guys do notice modesty, and personally I think girls just don't know how much we appreciate it (and, I concur with Mike when he says modesty attracts guys; not just me, but I know my friends do too). |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/08/2009 8:46 AM |
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| What do you guys think is "over the top" for modesty? I mean, I definately have my standards, but I think you can wear cute clothing, that is still modest - like jeans that fit not to tite, bermudas instead of short-shorts etc.....but i mean, I have seen alot of Christian women who take it to a different level....long skirts, shirts....you know with the flower pattern and all.....do you think thats better for a women? what do you find more attractive? |
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Locke
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| 03/08/2009 4:06 PM |
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| I don't think any level of modesty is being over the top, but I don't generally find a girl who hides everything behind a wall of shapeless thick clothing attractive. It's really up to each woman how far she wants to go, as long as she's modest. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/09/2009 11:13 AM |
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i agree with locke. it's all about what you deem "modest" should be. i mean, the list could go on and on for me. because alot of stuff gets really descriptive, y'know? for one style of clothing, one of you girls may be like, "oh my goodness, that is SO immodest!" and for me, i may say, "what are you talking about?"
it's really just what your body deems for you. and what i mean by that is like, some of you girls are pretty thin, while some of us are more on the curvy side. for me, i can't wear a skirt or shorts higher than my knees because, well, it just looks awkward and i feel dumb. for somebody less endowed on their lower half? they could probably go a little higher (i'm not saying some of the skirts you see these days, still modest, but y'know) and it would still be alright.
am i understood? :] |
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wjr1991
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| 03/09/2009 12:23 PM |
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You mean uber-modesty? (For lack of a better term) I'd simply define that as what happens when a girl goes beyond "modest" to trying to hide her femininity (as Locke puts it) "behind a wall of shapeless fabric".
I must say, I find the question "Which do you find more attractive?" quite funny in the context- over the top of modesty, in my mind, partly works out to trying to be unattractive, or attractive in no way to a man. (I think it would be very interesting to read an Amish account of their teachings on modesty, sex and marriage.)
Honestly? I personally am attracted to the more "modest yet cute" girls, and am turned off by the uber-modest style of dress... so I would be inclined to say the former is "better", however that is a personal taste, I think. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/09/2009 12:53 PM |
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i agree with william on this.
there are some girls (even some of you who are reading this, so in no way am i degrading you, but speaking the truth in love) who just blatantly hide their femininity, thinking that they'll actually get more attention from guys this way. sure, they might. but not the attention that will breed any sort of long-lasting attraction.
i'm just being honest, ladies. i'm not saying go off and by the skimpiest dress in the mall and strut your stuff at the club, but really. don't blame half the world's population for not asking you out when you aren't doing one darn thing to let them know that you want to be pursued. it's a two way street! |
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Locke
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| 03/09/2009 1:52 PM |
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| I hate it when girls do that. It makes me think they don't value how they look at all and expect guys to completely ignore their appearance. Not gonna happen, gals.1 |
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artyprincess
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| 03/11/2009 4:44 AM |
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Sometimes a floor-length skirt looks really lovely on a girl - IMO! But yes, you can 'overdo' modesty! I agree! And different body shapes will also make outfits immodest or modest....
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Mike
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| 03/11/2009 9:32 PM |
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I think floor-length skirts look much prettier than their shorter counterparts. As for overdoing modesty--I guess I agree that this is possible if you go "Muslim-style" but I would disagree wholeheartedly with the statement that it seems women who 'overdo' modesty won't get the attention that breeds long-lasting attraction. Long-lasting attraction isn't based off of looks, and the kind of long-lasting that I'm thinking is marriage, and because modesty doesn't matter in the bedroom so there's plenty of physical attraction.
Dressing very modestly increases the attention from me -- because it improves my prejudice of their self-confidence and relationship with God. I would say that dressing modestly also improves the 'pursuability' of the girl. I'm comparing two extremes, but which would result in more pursuing?
1. "Laying it all on the table" (pardon my pun)
2. Overdoing modesty like the Muslims
If a woman is more modest, there is more mystery concerning her more...physically attractive regions, and this lends itself to pursuing.
Now, I don't support Muslim-style modesty because that is overdoing it and it's oppressive to women when it goes that far. (Seriously--hair is sexually exciting to men?) Modesty to me is simply this -- don't show your breast-crack (is that a phrase?), butt-crack, or upper thigh, and avoid clothing that's tight.
And because I think that double-standards are stupid, I also say that men need to abide by similar rules. I wear my pants at my waist, don't wear muscle shirts (or no shirt), and basically avoid showing off my appearance as best I can. And I'm not self-conscious about myself either -- I'm no body-builder but I'm in shape for Boot Camp (coming up in a few months) -- I don't see the need to showcase any appearance when I want someone to be attracted to me for my personality.
If you've got 4 minutes, watch this YouTube video I stumbled upon a
while ago that details my thoughts about modesty and pursuing pretty
well. (As well as my thoughts on women pursuing men, which are that they shouldn't because there's no adventure in that for the man and he'll get bored quickly).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80FOpC5oKww&feature=related
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Mike
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| 03/11/2009 9:34 PM |
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"and because modesty doesn't matter in the bedroom __ there's plenty of physical attraction."
Sorry for the grammar error. |
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Nicole
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| 03/11/2009 9:46 PM |
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Mike, thanks so much for that link to the youtube video. It gave me more to think about and it was awesome.  |
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Cayla Renae
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| 03/13/2009 12:25 PM |
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If a woman is more modest, there is more mystery concerning her more...physically attractive regions, and this lends itself to pursuing.
Thanks Mike, for saying that. I know that it's important for girls to be modest, and I do know why (I've read FYWO, FYMO, and Every Young Man's Battle) so I realize how easy it is for guys to be visually stimulated. However, what you said really helps me to understand the "mystery" behind modesty. All girls want to be pursued, and if they realized that modesty would actually aid in having guys/men (depending on your maturity) pursue you or just be attracted to you, I'm sure they would change their way of dress. Oh and the other stuff you said was really good to hear, too. |
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