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Ryan
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| 12/02/2008 7:54 PM |
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| It can happen, but the odds are stacked against you from the beginning. I had a long distance relationship that only lasted 9 days, but it ended because we were too young. But I do know of a good Christian friend of mine who met someone through an online dating service (which, as the story usually goes, they got on initially as a joke), and they got married this last summer. They have a healthy, strong relationship centered around God and I see no reason why it would end. So they do work, but statistically speaking, I wouldn't go out looking for one. |
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Holly :)
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| 12/03/2008 3:37 PM |
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| ya, they can work. But you both need to be constant in talking and things even though you far away from each other. If not....it probably wouldn't work. |
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Carr
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| 12/04/2008 9:15 PM |
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I deff. agree with the whole, talking a lot; or often.
But here I'll just state it.
I'm in a long distance relationship. And I have been for well over a year now.
No, I'm not a college student. (yet=/ ) but I will be soon enough.
And I can't tell you how we have made it last- other then; God.
And that's honestly the only reason I can give.
But I'm willing to help with whatever questions!
NO I do not have all the answers! jajaja* If I did, I'd be scaredxP
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Austin
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| 12/25/2008 12:05 PM |
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| Well I have had a maintained friendship with a girl long distance when I moved. We started to like each other AFTER the fact, which is odd... It was really hard, and she lost interest. I got my heart broken to pieces. Long distance relationships are the hardest relationships in the world. We got to where we didn't know each other's friends, or anything else about the other's life because we simply changed a lot after I moved. I visited her and everything, but it was just too hard for her to commit to something like that.
One of the guys in the band called The Afters wrote a song called Myspace Girl. It's a true story about how he met a waitress at a local restaurant and talked to her over myspace. They eventually got married. Awesome song, too!
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emilyjanelle
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| 12/26/2008 12:32 AM |
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austin has a point. there's not a complete impossibility that long distance relationships never work out, but yeah, i'd say they're very hard. even if you're just friends with somebody, and even of the same sex, it's still probably just as hard. you grow up, change schools/friends/possibly churches, and before you know it, you don't even know the person after a couple years.
i'm just going to say it's rare, very rare, for them to work out. but eh, with God, all things are possible!
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Austin
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| 12/26/2008 8:16 PM |
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Yeah Emily put my ideas in words 
As you grow up, you change, and you eventually get to where you don't even know the person anymore. But if you are both committed and really love each other, then it's possible. Another big problem, especially in teen years, is that you see all your friends with their girlfriends/boyfriends hanging out, going on dates, or just being physical with each other, and you know that you can't have that in your own life. Now THAT is really hard. |
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God is HUGE, and he loves me. |
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Carr
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| 12/26/2008 11:04 PM |
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I agree with Austin on the whole, not being able to see each other thing. It sucks. And it's harder than hard when you're talking with your best friend and she tells you how her boyfriend bought her flowers and randomly showed up at her house just to say he loves her. It's rough, but my point is, it's not impossible. Like Austin said, if you really love each other and are commited then it will work. it might not be perfect, but it works.
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emilyjanelle
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| 12/27/2008 2:16 PM |
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Another big problem, especially in teen years, is that you see all your friends with their girlfriends/boyfriends hanging out, going on dates, or just being physical with each other, and you know that you can't have that in your own life. Now THAT is really hard.
i agree with both austin and carr, boy, is it HARD. some of your friends are (or seem) to be having a grand ol' time of it. and here you are, waiting...waiting...and waitinggg. UGH.
but like i said, they seem to be having a great time, but sometimes, not so much. my best friend likes one of my closest guy friends (he likes her back) and has for probably 6-7 months now. they're not even officially "dating" and/or "courting" now but, boy, have they had their ups and downs. him, not so much (he's a guy, pretty oblivious to her troubles sometimes :p) but her? she can get so worried about how he's feeling, why he's acting a certain way, etc.
when she gets like that, all i can think is, "my word, thank you Jesus that i don't have to have that stress in my life just yet!" i can focus on my family, school, church, and most importantly my future pursuing what God has for me, whether that be with a man or not. this past year has probably been the most trying i've ever had, but i've come out all the better for it. you singles out there, wait for God's timing, it's the only timing that ever works!
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Carr
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| 12/27/2008 7:19 PM |
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A big amen to that emily!
Long distance relationship may be hard, but we sure don't have all those ups and downs and little petty fights that couples have when they see each other every day.
Though knowing how the other reacts to things, is still unknown, but it will become known at some point in time |
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Austin
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| 12/30/2008 9:44 AM |
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| Yeah i think it may be harder for guys to endure long distance relationships most of the time because we are so visual when it comes to relationships. I remember always looking at pictures of her. I had one that I kept in my room on my shelf so I could remember what she looked like. She was beautiful. But anyway, guys have a hard time with that... |
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maddiegirl
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| 01/03/2009 3:12 PM |
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I'd say that they can work...........sure.............but (and I know this sounds totally aweful and depressing) how do you know for sure that the guy or the girl will stay true to you if you're so far away from them? I mean, I'm sure a lot of you would say "No, he/she'd never do a thing like that, they like me/love me so much, etc." but how do you truly know for sure? And I'd say this issue gets a little easier if you see each other a lot.
Sorry to sound so untrusting and depressing lol |
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Carr
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| 01/03/2009 4:10 PM |
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| You have a point. I/we don't know. We don't know if they're being faithful or not. That's part of the chance that we take going into a long distance relationship. But I believe that if you're both Christians(and I know that Christians aren't perfect and we blow it sometimes too) the chance of cheating would be lowered a lot. I'd have to say it's harder cause of the distance when you see your friends with their sweethearts(like we've talked about earlier), but it has to do a ton with trust. I trust my boyfriend so much because of our distance, and I'm pretty sure he knows that. And he trusts me. If there isn't any trust in a long distance, or short distance for that matter, it's bound to fall apart. |
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Colton
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| 01/04/2009 12:53 PM |
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| I do believe they can work with a lot of determination and love. They arent easy on anyone because the need for personal time and the feeling of holding someone in your arms is so great. I havent tried them but i know people who have. Some have worked and some havent. God knows what is meant to be and he will guide you in the right path. |
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And when he gets to Heaven to St. Peter he will tell: "One more Marine reporting, Sir. I have served my time in Hell." Sgt. James |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 02/12/2009 10:31 AM |
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| Hehe i have a biased oppinion on this whole long distance thing. My boyfriend's ex was in a whole long distance thing with him lol ..... hehe.....so yea personally i think that they should end. Jk cuz actually my mom lived in New Mexico and my dad in Mass when they met and they've been married for 19 years!!! So yea, there can be success...but look at ur age - if your 14, 15 ,16 ,17 its less likely going to work than if your like 20, 21 etc |
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Mike
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| 02/13/2009 11:45 PM |
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| I sure hope that it works...I'm now (As of a couple days ago) dating the person that I've been best friends with for four years (after praying about this for a long time) but I know that it will be tough to keep our relationship going through college, especially because I'm going to the US Military Academy and writing/calling will be hard to keep up very often. I pray that whatever God plans works out, and if it doesn't then I know it's because God has something better in mind for me in the long run. |
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allyouare11
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| 02/25/2009 8:24 PM |
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Hey,
This is just from experience. My sister is almost 28, and she lived in Europe for a couple years as a missionary. She and a Christian guy from there started dating, and kept it going while she was here. It was really hard, and eventually they broke up (and most of it was because of how much they couldn't talk or see each other.) It's really hard and I really, really don't recommend it, but hey... some do work. Just be really careful. I don't want to sound like a parent or something, like really strict, but I'm just warning you. =] |
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~Do not let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12~ |
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SamiD
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| 09/19/2009 12:19 PM |
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| I'm in a long distance realtionship right now. I think they are better than living close together, because it brings out the persons real personality. It shows you whether you can trust them, if they are honest, and a whole bunch of stuff. It's working really well for me. I can trust him more easily, than the guys here. So yes I believe they can work if you both put in an effort, but long distance also involves physical emotions of the person not being there. But I think its worth it! |
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Jimmy
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| 11/29/2009 6:59 PM |
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| I think it depends what each other person's love language is. I hate long distance relationships personally. They tend to stress me out, but I do know they work. |
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Adelynn
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| 11/30/2009 8:35 AM |
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| I would be terrible at a long distance relationship. It's so easy to pour your heart out online, but then it doesn't seem like a real person told it to you. It's just something you read. Then, when I saw the person in real life, it would be awkward for me to go from talking to a computer screen to talking face to face with a guy I didn't see often but knew a lot about and who knew a lot about me... |
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David
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| 11/30/2009 10:43 AM |
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| Adelynn makes an excellent point. I'm all for communication via text - I think it has many advantages - but what Adelynn describes almost always happens with that sort of relationship. Romantic relationships need physical proximity, more than any other. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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