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emilyjanelle
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| 03/04/2009 8:27 AM |
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hm, good list.
the only thing i would caution you on, MLHW, is all the "shoulds". you keep saying "he should this" and "he should that". well, what if he doesn't have an obsession with cars/video games/even books? i know that's really rare, haha, but it could happen. what if he doesn't always have something "cute and sweet" to say or do? alot of times you and i won't. will or should he always be the first to come and apologize? probably not. what does the Word say, that if you have a problem with somebody (i'm paraphrasing here, but it's in the beginning of Matthew, in Jesus' teachings) then work it out with them before you even go pray or worship. will he always be able to protect you from harm? maybe not. i'm certainly not speaking trouble over your relationship, but being realistic here. and growing to know you so much that you finish each other's sentences. well that'd be really cool! but what if it doesn't happen? yet again, i'm only giving constructive critique here.
there's alot out of this that i love! honest. but i would suggest, try not to be so "should-y" and be more looking for a guy's character and personality, which i know you already do. :] |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/04/2009 1:36 PM |
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I see your concern, but believe it or not...that would sum up my boyfriend nearly to a T. And I wrote that before we were ever together. Yea, there are times when he doesn't have the right words and we have gotten into a few rare arguments...but even then, guess who came to apologize? He did. And like I said, I hold myself to the same standard, which means I was going to apologize when he beat me to it - we know what hurts eachother, and we hate seeing that, so we both wanted to make the hurt go away. He nearly always knows just what to say, we were best friends long beforehand, and so when it comes to words, he's normally not lacking. And of course there is some harm he can't protect me from, and I should have phrased the statement, "He should always TRY to protect me from harm." He should always give his best effort. If someone's trying to hurt me, he should step in etc. And he already CAN finish my sentences lol We are constantly responding identically to other people and when I get distracted in the middle of a sentence while telling someone something - he can finish the thought for me . And my final point? I think all of us NEED differnt things from our "special someone" - someone might want a guy who can rock climb, while another mite want someone who can sing - for me? Thats just not nesscary - but I believe if we bring our concerns to God, He will sort out all the "shoulds." Sure, its not always gunna be perfect, but why not shoot for the moon, and even if you miss, you'll land amoung the stars  - and I think God did a good job when he gave me my boyfriend.
As far as character goes - I definately look at that - determintation, perseverance, godliness, leadership, honesty, loyalty.......i could go on........I do hold character very high, and yes, the rest is many silly "shoulds", but those "shoulds" are important to me as an idividual - they are things I find personally very important - things my lil heart longs for....so.....yea...... |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/06/2009 11:21 AM |
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| yeah i totally understand. you're very right! "things my little heart longs for" - i hear you on that! hehe. there's some stuff that just melts me if a guy does it. |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/06/2009 6:35 PM |
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| Oh i know totally! I mean, there are just some things that make me sooooooo melty!!!!! lol Like, I could live without em, but if you wanna really get to me....its those sweet little things that just make me smile lol- what are some of those things, like for you? |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/09/2009 10:41 AM |
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hm well let me think for a minute...um...
looking me in the eyes, definitely. even if we're just having a random conversation. but if i like the guy and he keeps looking at me, that's a definite turn-on. and especially if we're not talking, actually. like, if i can feel him looking at me across a room. guys, hello, that IS NOT creepy to me. if i like you, i think it's sweet! it's like, you can't take your eyes off me because you want to be near me, though you're at the other end of a room. of course it's another story if you're 20-something and you're creeping a 15 year old. haha. but if you see a girl you think is pretty (or you've already told her you like her), making eye contact is pretty much as good as making conversation, IMO.
and just saying any compliments, sincerely. encouragement really helps. like, if i say, "gosh i hate my smile! it looks so dorky! why can't i smile normally?" and i mean it rhetorically, but a guy replies out of the blue, "i like your smile, though, just the way it is." oh man, haha. love that!
i mean, i guess i should just say - non-scripted stuff. nothing that i've already heard time and time again. that's why i don't like the words "sexy", "hottie", or usually even "cute". because guys almost always use them degradingly, so if somebody told me i looked like that, it wouldn't mean anything to me. but if a guy tells me i look "pretty" or even "beautiful", heck to the yes, i'm a puddle. :] |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/18/2009 7:29 AM |
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| In my opinion Hott couldn't possibly be more offensive! Guys sound like animals when they use that! Beautiful, pretty, even gorgeous are wonderful words but call me sexy or hott and its a totall turn off!!!!!!!!! And I totally agree about the sweet "dorky" thing you said! I love it when I'm like, "Ugg I'm such a wierdo!!" and my boyfriend looks at me and says, "Yea, but your MY wierdo." Cuz I mean, how cute is that? lol Eye-contact is the best! I love cheesy staring contests that my boyfirend and I have. They are pathetic if anyone witnessed them but I mean, there is nothing better than just looking into his eyes! As far as other stuff that makes me melt, when he stands up for me. Like when he's with the guys they love to insult certain um...."parts" of me and I can't tell you how many times I hear stories later on from the guys, or even him, saying he freaked out on the guys (normally in some wrestling match of manlihood lol) for making fun of me and talking about me in ways they shouldn't - it makes me feel so special to know he does that for me and I could prob think of a ton more but I g2g2 school lol |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/18/2009 7:30 AM |
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| yea if you read that at first it sounds like my boyfriend participates in the insults but when I said "they" I meant his guy friends....just clarifying lol |
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JoJo
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| 03/18/2009 6:09 PM |
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YES HOTT IS OFFENSIVE!!!
I've stated it so many times lol! 
But yeah, it's so cute when I guy trys to "defend your honour" by being "Manly!!" LOL
it's like "Wow, he actually does care about me, and... he's trying to be impressive too... lol  "
half the time, I already think the guy is totally amazing, but it's funny how he feels he constantly needs to prove he's amazing. SO CUTE!!! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/18/2009 6:47 PM |
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| hehe yes Jojo! I love it! The best thing is when the guys are like "omgosh he freaked out it was so stupid" and I have the hugest smile on my face cuz it is the FARTHEST thing from stupid in my mind! |
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JoJo
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| 03/18/2009 7:46 PM |
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HAHA totally!!! Its so cute!!! Or when he's trying to be cool and messes up. SO CUTE!!! Im laughing at him, but i'm really saying that I thought it was cute!! haha. But yeah.
Like this guy I like, he's always going on about how he's doing his fitness stuff and yeah, and I'm like thinking "Dude, i already think you're amazing, you don't need to tell me, I can already see that you love your fitness... it's kinda obvious... but still cute that you feel you have to tell me " |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/19/2009 4:20 PM |
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| i also like it when guys have the guts to talk to you in person, not only when they have to, and not always online. :| *hint, hint* fellas! :p |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/19/2009 4:21 PM |
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| wait...oh, that looks wrong. i mean like, if you have any girl friends that you're talking to alot online and never in person, reverse that! i didn't mean, "hey guys, call me up from california or the UK!" sorrrryyyy, haha. |
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JoJo
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| 03/19/2009 10:16 PM |
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| Yes I agree Emily! I hate it when 90% of the convo's we have are technology based! I prefer talking in person... it's much better and more real! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Locke
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| 03/19/2009 11:59 PM |
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Talking online is all right, but… you miss out on all the body language somebody gives you, and the nuances of how they're talking and so many other parts of a conversation.
And I HATE looking silly in front of girls. I always feel like an idiot.  |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/20/2009 7:00 AM |
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Aw Locke I bet the girls think its cute
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I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life. |
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Adelynn
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| 03/20/2009 9:48 AM |
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| I think it's kind of sad how facebook in particular can substitute for so much "socializing." I love how I can send quick notes to people, and how I don't have to call and talk forever- but just because it's easier doesn't mean I shouldn't call and talk, or get together!! It's just so easy to say "Oh I talked to you the other day" when we really just did an update online!!! |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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emilyjanelle
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| 03/20/2009 12:55 PM |
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| exactly, adelynn! |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 03/21/2009 9:12 AM |
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| Yea technology can totally "unhumanize" a conversation. I mean, the phone is the next best thing to face to face. Since my boyfriend and I can't "go out" (other than to coffee every now and then) we normally talk on the phone, especially if its an important conversation that can't wait till later. We do text alot, but I've found its alot easier to say stuff in a text than talking face to face, or even over the phone with someone. I heard once about this guy that asked a girl in my school out over IM!!!! I was horrified! How pathetic is that??? Guys, heres a hint, if you have something really important to say to a girl, do not text, IM, FB chat, email etc it to her. If your scared to say it to her face, I suggest you do it anyway, but the next best thing isn't even the phone, its a carefully written and very sweet letter (HANDWRITTEN NOT TYPED). Honestly face to face is the best. Every girl will respect that. Everything else is so impersonal! If you want a relationship, you have to get "personal" - computers, phones, even notes - just dont cut it.... |
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Nicole
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| 03/23/2009 12:39 AM |
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| Yes, i do have to say that it is better to talk in person with someone. You're able to communicate better and your tone says a lot about what you say too. I was texting one of my friends one time and she asked me to stop saying apologizing; i totally thought she was annoyed with me, but it turned out that she really wasn't, just asking nicely cause she didn't have unlimited text messaging. I have learned that you really have to be careful about what you say over the internet or on text message because you're not able to get tone across. I do agree with MyLIfeHisWill on guys asking girls out via text message, and vice versa. It's kind of sad, and it doesn't show much respect for the person. That's just my opinion though. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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lydia-jayne
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| 03/23/2009 2:15 AM |
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MyLifeHisWill, I loved how you said you have coffee together. I got a wonderful picture in my mind of a coffee shop with live acoustic music and a calm atmosphere. Gah, I love coffee shops. "Dating" or "courtship" is going to be different for everyone. I believe that you'll know what you're doing wrong or what you're doing right. If you're in communion with Christ, I'm sure He let you know what needs to change in your relationship or if something is out of line. From what I read, I think your relationship sounds wonderful.
I don't really dig the list of expectations and rules thing, but I guess that's good that you girls have that and live by that. It's definitely the opposite of our world.
@emilyjanelle, I was stoked to see The Devil Wears Prada and As Cities Burn on your profile (just had to add that in). [= |
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