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xolaneyxo
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| 08/10/2008 8:01 PM |
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I really enjoyed the book, I just don't think it seems to realate to the guys I know at my school. The guys at my school are all over the immodest, hardcore, bad girls and they love them. They actually make fun of the girls that are more to themsleves and don't follow the crowd. So I'm unsure about the book when it said 'guys like modest Christian girls' I just dont' understand it, and I doubt I'm going to find a nice Chirstian boy that likes me for me, not how I dress.  |
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wjr1991
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| 08/12/2008 8:13 PM |
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Hey, Laney... for your encouragement... there are guys who fit that description- that seems to be the public opinion of me... whatever public opinion's worth.
So just so y'all know, we do exist, and there must be more than just me... or else I will have problems. (and fanmail... which would be cool... for maybe a week :-) )
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Ichthus124
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| 08/14/2008 11:51 PM |
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Hey, I know it can be disheartening to see that, but don't give up hope. I know that the good guys are out there! Sometimes the things that are worth while are just harder to find. Besides, in FYWO, there was always a small group that did fit the sleezy stereotype, but maybe God has put you in this place to help you. Just think, though having a boyfriend, or just a guy interested in you sounds great, but while all those girls are getting attention for the wrong reasons you are staying true to what you know is right, and there is a guy out there that will love that about you someday, making what you have together so much better. So perhaps while you are growing in who you truely are and growing with God, who loves you more than any boy ever could, you may be getting better for the man you are meant to be with or maybe just seeing you be yourself with catch a guy's eye in a way no scantaly clad girl ever could.
Just keep going strong, and remember, God will always love you, so while you are waiting for a man, He'll be there and He's what matters the most, no matter who you meet in life.
Grace and Peace be with you  |
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JoJo
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| 08/15/2008 6:33 AM |
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Yeah, I totally agree with Ichthus124. Being yourself is definitly the best thing you can do.
I also used to think EXACTLY what you think. All the guys I knew were jerks, but now (4 years later) I've met some really awesome guys and I've realised that not all guys are sleezy jerks, and that there is someone out there who will think you're amazing, you just have to wait to meet him. I know waiting is hard (im still waiting...) but in the end it will all be worth it when you find the most Awesome guy ever, and he will be a thousand time better than you could have ever imagined! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
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akmelodymaker
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| 08/17/2008 4:12 AM |
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| I totally agree with you both, Jojo and Ichthus. Just remember that God has it all planned out for U. Including your future prince charming. So don't worry. |
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~God Bless~
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artyprincess
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| 11/14/2008 4:37 AM |
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| It does seem that way sometimes, doesn't it! I know exactly how you feel, xolaneyxo. I still wonder that sometimes. But then, the side we have to remember: Are they the kind of guys we want to notice us? |
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Mike
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| 11/24/2008 8:20 PM |
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As a guy, I observe other guys at my own school who are as you describe. They frustrate me, because I feel bad for the girls that fall for them and get burned. The best advice I can give you is to just wait for somebody good to come along. It may seem that everybody at your school is all for the immodest, hardcore, bad girls, but I guarantee you that they aren't necessarily ALL like so. There are most likely a few that you don't notice who aren't like that.
And if they're as you describe, you wouldn't want to date them anyhow. It's better to feel a bit lonely for a period of time than to get burned and hurt for the rest of your life. And besides, God's always with you anyhow so you're never really unloved. He's got somebody for you. |
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maddiegirl
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| 05/25/2009 4:41 PM |
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dont compromise ur standards even if u feel tempted too. those guys just like thr girls because they r easy to get & easy to drop. they can do anything w/ them, which is y they r all over them. dont be like that. hold out 4 someone better than those guys - someone who deserves u and who won't love u just for ur body. u deserve the best.  |
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David D
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| 06/27/2009 7:42 PM |
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Definitely don't compromise to fit in for the moment. It is not worth it. I was never in the in-crowd at school and I didn't care. I had my own group of friends and there were tons of us.
If I was dating a girl and she told me she went through all that but didn't compromise I would have HUGE respect for her. That would tell me something big about her character. Try looking around in different places...like the computer lab, haha, that's where you'd find me anyway. I am convinced that there MUST be good Christian guys around there somewhere.
"Those guys" just might need time to grow up. They might not see what they're doing now but they might later and regret it. You on the otherhand haven't compromised anything. Guess what will happen if you decide to cave and do what everyone else is doing? That nice Christian guy will come along, take one look at you, and keep walking. You WILL find a guy worth being with. You might just have to wait for him though Don't we all love waiting
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clare
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| 06/27/2009 9:16 PM |
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| Everyone is very right. There are guys out there right now who are wondering if there are any decent girls anymore. I've met a few of them. It's really discouraging but God has it all planned, the perfect one for you. Don't change just so the jerks admire you. Deep inside they respect you and don't mess with you because they'd feel guilty and know they did wrong. Be patient. Easier said than done I know. Right now I think I can go crazy I'm so tired of waiting! |
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Koudee
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| 07/01/2009 2:17 PM |
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I think that is because those guys are looking for less than a girl...ahem...
So for the guys that are actually looking for a girl, the christian ones have a lot of appeal.
Its hard at your age, because most guys don't have real men around to teach them what they need from a woman. And sadley that means many of them have to learn the hard way. Don't get discouraged because the Boys don't notice you, because the Men will some day. |
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clare
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| 07/03/2009 12:48 AM |
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| And the Man is way more worth it that the Boy |
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prettygirl
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| 07/13/2009 3:56 PM |
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| i've noticed that even the guys i meet that go for the 'bad girls' still treat me with respect. they just seem to know not to swear around me etc. which is really weird sometimes since i'm pretty much used to being treated like i don't exist when i'm at school. i struggle with dressing the right way quite a bit, it's one of those things where we know it in our head but we still don't know it in our heart! |
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Cayla Renae
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| 07/17/2009 12:28 PM |
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It's hard to do something for someone when you don't have their perspective. As girls, we hear what dressing immodestly does to guys, but sometimes it's hard to figure out the limits for ourselves. Not to say that we should push it to the limit, but it's hard to know what guys will think of you and what you're wearing if you don't think like them.
Thankfully, I find that the more you do something or the more you remind yourself of something, the easier it gets. Dressing modestly is always a conscious choice, but it gets easier with time. Is it hard sometimes? Yes, very (I'm thinking hot summer months...), but the rewards are much greater than the amount of effort you have to put into it! |
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~created by the King to do good things~ |
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