| Author |
Messages |
|
SamiD
Posts:27
 |
| 09/19/2009 11:41 AM |
|
| Hello Everyone!
Me and this guy I know have liked eachother for a while. We are not exactley friends, but not official boyfriend/ girlfriend. Because, his parents don't want him really dating yet. ( softmore year, so 15). But, right now we are committed to trying to make this work as he lives long distance from me. We met through trusting family members! We have been steady for about 4/5 months and are honest, escpecially if someone else tries to ask one of us out. We have a great feeling of what this turn out can be as were both christians. My parents are totally okay with this, I haven't met his parents yet, but am planning too soon. His mom is a little iffy about me and his dad is okay with it but on gaurd of me. When I meet them I want to make a good impression and show I'm not out to hurt anyone, I would also like to know how I can keep our " relationship" going steady, pure and lasting from long distance? any advice?? |
|
|
|
|
JoJo
Posts:1657
|
| 09/19/2009 9:41 PM |
|
LOL thats so cool to hear! I'll write a longer reply soon... I have lunch in a few minutes, but it sounds like it's going good  |
|
Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo |
|
|
JoJo
Posts:1657
|
| 09/19/2009 10:58 PM |
|
K I'm back
Basically with every long distance relationship, you have to both know you're both committed to it for the long run. Dont look at other guys and he mustn't look for other girls. Keep your thoughts grounded in God and pray about the relationship. pray together about it too!!
Long distance is good because you focus on having this lasting connectiopn and you're not "so focussed" on the physical stuff. so you shouldn't have as many problems in that area... but it's also hard cuz you don't see them much. but if your relationship can last the distance, it will be that much stronger and you'll both have more trust in each other etc
when you can, try to catch up and spend some time together... do you 2 talk to each other in person (like phone calls?) often? cuz that's important... to actually hear each other's voices. my parents had a LDR and they spoke on the phone once a week. they dated for like 5 - 6 years like that.
did that help? do you have anymore questions??
|
|
Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo |
|
|
SamiD
Posts:27
|
| 09/20/2009 11:36 AM |
|
| JoJo, thankyou It helped a lot!! We get a lot of support from his friends and some of mine too, and a lot of people think this is going to work in the end. I don't know if he prays about, but he's defenitley aware of the fact when we need to talk to eachother more in order for this to work out. I pray about it every night. The thing is I would love to make a great impression for his parents, he is the baby of the family btw. Do you have any tips on how I can make a good first impression?? Thankyou again you have helped so much already!
|
|
|
|
|
JoJo
Posts:1657
|
| 09/20/2009 4:19 PM |
|
Good impressions... um well, mainly, be yourself... dont be anyone else It really is the best thing.
2ndly, be polite. Ask them about themselves and be interested
3rdly, Remember the names of his family members
4th, have good table manners etc (idk if you're having a meal with them or not...)
If I think of some more, i'll write them down |
|
Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo |
|
|
emilyjanelle
Posts:510
|
| 09/20/2009 8:31 PM |
|
Do you have any tips on how I can make a good first impression?
I'm pretty scared about this, too, haha. meeting the parents and all. :p my boyfriend's parents (mom, dad, and stepmom) are all unsaved. my parents have been talking about inviting his dad and stepmom over for dinner sometime, which I would love. but it's still stressful! to have to watch what you say, how you say it, what you do, and how you do it.
but I agree with Jojo, the basics would be what she described already. I'm gonna put those into practice when the time comes, too! =] |
|
You may as well come quiet.
- Police Maxim |
|
|
SamiD
Posts:27
|
| 09/20/2009 10:19 PM |
|
| Thanks Jojo. Those simple tips helped! Emily I'll pray for you and meeting his parents and everybody, goodluck and thanks! |
|
|
|
|
clare
Posts:932
|
| 09/21/2009 11:02 PM |
|
| When you go to meet his family, just be yourself! And DON"T get me wrong on this, but don't ignore your boyfriend in making an effort to be extra nice to the family. Don't focus all your attention on him either. But if you are so nervous about everyone else and are stiff around him too, that gives the wrong impression to his family. I don't know if I said that very clearly! |
|
|
|
|
SamiD
Posts:27
|
| 09/22/2009 4:44 PM |
|
| Thanks Clare! That helped a lot too! I get what your saying. That's really good advice because I don't want to look like I'm clinging to my boyfriend the whole time. They might get the wrong impression and I'll act more like myself if I'm not around him so much. ( I say that because usually you get in the blushing, love type mode and I want to look like I can take care of myself and my morals and everything.) Thankyou again! I'll defenitley remember all of your's and Jojo's tips ;D |
|
|
|
|
Adelynn
Posts:516
|
| 09/24/2009 9:53 PM |
|
Here is my bit of advice- take their personalities and lifestyles into consideration. Don't give in or change for them or fake what you believe and stand for, but if, for example, they are a very conservative-girls-wear-dresses-boys-wear-suits family and you don't come from that perspective, maybe compromise a tiny bit- (depending on the activity; outdoorsy, semi-formal etc.) wear something respectful, instead of throwing their style/way of life in their faces. Be comfortable in what you're wearing. I know that sounds really superficial, but if you are embarrassed about something you're wearing because it's "adorable" but awkward with the people you're around, it doesn't help you to feel more relaxed!!
I'm so sorry if that makes it harder. But think about taking a school test (which this is nothing like, because they really probably don't already hate you the way test-makers really do already hope you fail =); wear something comfortable that you don't have to think about. |
|
"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
|
|
SamiD
Posts:27
|
| 09/26/2009 9:49 AM |
|
| Thankyou! I actaully never thought about that. |
|
|
|
|
Lindsey
Posts:70
|
| 10/08/2009 8:41 AM |
|
Yeah, the way you dress is important.Like try avoiding low cut shirts and mini skirts.Especialy infront of his mom.Sorry if this confuses you abit.I'm sorta in the same situation your in.There is this guy I like and he really likes me,but I'm not aloud to go out and he is ,so that kinda complicates things.but he respects my parents dissision and we still are aloud to hang out and talk.Sorry if I'm going off the subject. I think the best best advice you can take for meeting his parents is jojos(for this subject).No affence to any one else who replied.But like jojo said be yourself and try to have fun. |
|
|
|
|
SamiD
Posts:27
|
| 10/08/2009 9:34 PM |
|
| Thanks! yeah they give great advice!! since his dad's the pastor I don't want to dress all raunchy. Thanks again!! |
|
|
|
|
Lindsey
Posts:70
|
| 10/28/2009 4:28 PM |
|
| your welcome.=D |
|
|
|
|
|