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WWJD
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| 09/28/2009 3:55 PM |
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Ok, so I am a 17 year old high school girl who has a crush on this guy who is a year older than me. He has had girlfriends before; I have never really had a boyfriend. He is kind of a charmer, but I have gotten to know him better and have begun to like him. He says that he is in love with this girl who lives somewhere else, but it sounds to me that he is more "infatuated" with her than "in love" with her. There's a difference.
Anyway, he has taken on this mentality of thinking that just because he has been hurt by this girl who says she loves him -she has made him jealous by dating other guys- he should hurt other girls the same way she has hurt him. I have seen him flirt with girls even though he has no interest in them. He dated a girl for almost a year, even though he didn't really like her. I think he was just trying to FORGET the girl he says he's in love with.
Well, all of the sudden, I have begun to talk to him more and am starting to fall for him; but not for the same reasons as the other girls. I am beginning to like him because of the person it seems he used to be before he became BITTER because of this girl who is hurting him. I am guarding my heart, but I can't seem to discourage the feelings I have for him. And he has shown that he is attracted to me too, but he seems to be putting up SHIELDS around his heart. It seems as if he doesn't want to get close to anyone else. He is NOT ALLOWING himself to become attached to another girl and is still holding on to this girl he says he loves who has done everything she can to make him burn with jealousy. What I don't understand is, WHY IS HE SO ATTACHED TO THIS GIRL? Why can't he realize that he needs to move on and allow himself to meet and grow close to other people.
Let's call this guy Ryan. Well, Ryan is a christian as well and I know, that deep down inside him, he feels guilty for what he is doing to these girls -leading them on with false hope. He has tried to do that with me, but I know better; however, I think I am beginning to fall for it. But I can't help but feel sorry for Ryan. He seems to BITTER and CALLOUS to everything and everyone around him. He needs the Lord, but how do I reach out to him without releasing the guards around my own heart?
HOW DOES A GIRL REACH INTO A GUY'S HEART? |
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kosanchez777
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| 12/01/2009 5:07 PM |
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| 2 things. first a girl can break a guys heart but he will still love him with the little pieces. 2 he needs somebody to feel secure with so if he removes his amour he expect the same from you. Not sure if this help but let me know. :0 |
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its hell trying 2 get into heaven |
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Jimmy
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| 12/01/2009 9:58 PM |
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| Show you respect him. Be honest and straight-forward! Don't get nosy and in his business. Don't make us have to wait on you. Patience is a virtue, but you're trying to get to his heart. |
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Scifi
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| 12/03/2009 2:32 PM |
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| Famous quote, I;m not sure where from: "The way to a guy's heart is through his ego." That quote is very true. |
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"The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life." -- James L. Christensen
"For a small reward, a man will hurry away on a long journey; while for eternal life, many will hardly take a single step." Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471)
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wjr1991
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| 12/05/2009 5:59 PM |
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| Scifi, I thought it was through his stomach... |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 12/07/2009 1:30 AM |
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| I believe wjr1991 is correct, Scifi. |
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
-- Spock, Star Trek 2: Wrath of Khan |
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Adelynn
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| 12/07/2009 9:08 AM |
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| that is the saying, but is it true? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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wjr1991
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| 12/07/2009 4:46 PM |
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Who cares? We get free food even if it's wrong!
It might be... but whoever SciFi quoted is more right than I'd like to admit. |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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Scifi
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| 12/07/2009 5:18 PM |
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Through the stomach, or ego. I correct myself. both work but the quote still stands  |
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"The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life." -- James L. Christensen
"For a small reward, a man will hurry away on a long journey; while for eternal life, many will hardly take a single step." Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471)
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nateynate
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| 12/12/2009 9:51 PM |
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| Well to get back to the question, WWJD your in a tough spot. Now i dont know how this guy is, but whenever ive helped or seen people in this situation, DONT let your gaurd down. Cause if hes still hurting, theres no telling if he will distinguish you as a friend or just another girl to take his anger out on. So be careful. Now to get to his heart, theres no easy way to do it. The best way would be to get him to talk about why hes doing these things, and thatll be hell as hard. So its gonna take some patience and some persisting. Just be careful not to push him to far. There arent many ways to get to a guys heart, especially when the food will e leaving the other end in a couple of hours . But yea, itll take time and patience. But the most important thing for you to remember is not to let your guard down until you get to his heart and then determine if that is safe for you of not. Best of luck though. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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