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Lindsey

Posts:70

10/18/2009 12:39 PM
There is this guy I liked and he is very pridefull I guess you could say.Any ways we use to always get into it.He would say somthing and I would say somthing back and it goes on.Any ways I felt it very hard to respect this guy(like it says in the FYWO),and I wasnt sure if he liked me.He was the kinda guy almost every girl liked,but he was kinda jerky.With me though he would try his stuff with me like inapropriate coments or mean coments.I would never put up with it so I would say stuff back.Unfortanitly most of the girls put up with.He started to change around me and act like a gentle man. But I really liked him so I would try to respect him.Was I doing the right thing?Was I wrong to like a guy like him?Some advice would be nice.Thankyou.

James

Posts:35

10/18/2009 7:46 PM
You're never going to find a perfect man so liking an imperfect one isn't bad. Most girls probably like the attention he gives and he may be just teasing like most guys do. You say you didn't put up with his comments and he started to change around you. He probably cottoned on to the idea that you didn't like it and made an effort to be more mature around you. This could be because he likes you but it may be just because he's trying to be a decent bloke.

Lindsey

Posts:70

10/19/2009 8:50 AM
Well by mean coments it wasnt teasing.He would call them bad words and treat like almost all the girls like trash.So I would always say somthing back.I wanted to get it clear to him that he couldnt talk to me like that.I think the reason he acted different around me was be he respected me.

James

Posts:35

10/31/2009 1:33 AM
Yeah I'd agree, respect would have a lot to do with it. I don't think that many girls would make the effort or be brave enough to tell him what he was doing was wrong or that you didn't like it. Guys do like a fairly confident or bold girl, as long as you aren't overbearing I'm sure you'll get quite a lot of attention and respect.

Adelynn

Posts:516

10/31/2009 2:28 PM
obviously I don't know for sure as I'm not a guy- but there was a guy I knew in High School who was the youngest of seven and he was desperate for attention. He was really really conservative but totally inappropriate (weird combination...). For example he would play with my hair if he could and once he offered to pay for my dinner when we all went out after a play, though his girlfriend was there. I was seriously not interested- I mean if he acts like that with me, why would he be different around other girls, even if we were together?? (The answer is, he wouldn't) So I was almost rude. Actually, sometimes, I was. But he didn't give up. He wanted to see if he could eventually get to me- either so that I would go out with him or get him in serious trouble. He's now away at school, so I never see him, and he has grown up. But I'm sure that at the time, everything he did was to get attention, whether from me or anyone else.

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