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KelseyLiza
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| 11/15/2009 8:57 PM |
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Hey everyone,
I am naturally a very reserved person. I am not really shy, I just tend to be more on the serious/quiet side. Oftentimes I don't even realize that I'm that way. I feel like I'm participating and being friendly and everything, and then people drop hints (or tell me outright) that I'm being quiet and I'm surprised by it.
I'm wondering how you guys view girls like me. Do you think of us as rude or boring? I've heard a few times that you find quieter girls mysterious and therefore attractive. Is this true? Do you sometimes wish girls would open up and be more talkative?
Also, girls and guys, I'm wondering if you think that I should try to become less reserved or just accept it as part of my personality? And if I should work on it, what should I do? Any suggestions for becoming more outgoing? Any ideas would be most appreciated. |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 11/16/2009 10:40 AM |
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I've liked a few quiet girls. But, right now I like a girl, and she is outgoing, brave and not reserved at all. Being quiet isn't rude, it can be boring. At certain points I'm reserved, in general, no. But, when my crush is talking to her pals, I can't find a moment to step in, lol.
I do wish some girls would open up, I guess. There is one girl, in our Sunday class who never talks, unless she has to read, she never speaks up. Her older brother is the same. There middle sister is a talker, though. I guess it would be cool to hang with the one that is my age (The quiet girl), on occasion I have got the brother to talk, and he is pretty cool, and funny.
I guess you could force yourself into some conversations, it would be wierd at first, you would get used to it. For becoming more outgoing? Inside your youth group go to the newest teen and introduce yourself, become friends. Anything else that I didn't cover?
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
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emilyjanelle
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| 11/16/2009 12:11 PM |
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Also, girls and guys, I'm wondering if you think that I should try to become less reserved or just accept it as part of my personality? And if I should work on it, what should I do? Any suggestions for becoming more outgoing?
one of my best friends probably acts alot like you. she's quiet and reserved in larger group settings. and even when she gets hyper, it's still so much softer than I ever am! but I love her for it because it's who she is. you certainly could try to become more outgoing and break yourself "outta the box", but don't try too hard. if people see that you're not really being yourself and just trying to please everyone, it'll actually turn them away, I'd bet. this quote basically explains what I mean:
You are who you are,
And you say what you feel,
Those who mind don't matter,
And those who matter don't mind.
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KelseyLiza
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| 11/17/2009 7:07 PM |
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Thanks guys, I appreciate your responses. Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd, I think you're right that I should force myself into certain conversations. emilyjanelle, thank you for sharing that quote with me, I love it! I wrote in on a piece of paper and hung it up in my room! I love cool little quotes  I appreciate what you said about your friend. That was encouraging. |
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Jimmy
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| 11/29/2009 6:49 PM |
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I'm wondering how you guys view girls like me. Extremely attractive. I actually prefer the quiet and shy girls. I'm more of the outgoing type and I like to talk, but also to listen. So, when someone like you does talk it's special and it makes the guy want to hear because the opposite would be talking too much and a guy may be willing to opt-out more. There is a sense of mystery, but I've never really viewed it that way. I'm just generally more attracted to girls that are quieter. You can't screw up a conversation as easily because there normally isn't one to start with. It's much easier to start a conversation for me then to keep one going. What if I come in talking about something totally different? That's just me though. Just know I wouldn't see girls like you rude or someone with low self esteem. |
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clare
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| 12/01/2009 2:28 PM |
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You can't screw up a conversation as easily because there normally isn't one to start with.
Ha that was good. I actually find that really awkward. I'm not real talkative, but I can carry my end of the conversation, I hate starting them though, or when the other person only say two words back every time. I had to force my self to be more outgoing, and talkative, I was quiet as a kid.
It is really easy for me to talk to a quiet guy but very hard and frusterating to talk to a quiet girl. Is it like that with guys too? Easy to talk to a quiet girl but hard to talk to a quiet guy? |
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