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clare
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| 04/17/2010 7:03 PM |
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I used to unintentionally create drama cause it's amusing...well now that I want that to stop...its' following me!!
ok well here's the deal...
Last fall I went out of the country on mission work. I flew down with a pastor and his son. The son is 35, and we struck it off really well (he is a big flirt..and so can I), we watched a movie on his ipod sharing earbuds and we talked a lot and then emailed some (I stayed in the other country longer than he) well about a month later we sort of quit talking. We would chat now and then on Facebook. He saw me post something about not finding decent swim wear and since he works with an outdoors supplier company he offered to get me set up with some stuff. So we had to talk a lot getting me sized, choose the style i liked etc. Then he asked for my number so he could send me something. Well..then we started texting a lot.....
He is 35...15 years older than me!!! he has been divorced twice...I kinda have a problem with that...and he is starting to really like me!!!! Help! He is a really good friend and he has pretty much no friends at all and I don't want to quit talking!
i guess my biggest problem is...he drinks sometimes...and a little too much...and then he starts saying really improper things...and asking for things I don't want to do!! (thankfully he lives hours away!)
He is a really good friend...just when he drinks...ya...
I really don't know what I'm asking if anything! It's just kind of awkward at times and I'm not too sure what to do!!
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Adelynn
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| 04/17/2010 10:36 PM |
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Clare, I know what you mean... but from experience you and I both know that being friends in this situation isn't a good idea =/ I have a few guys who I feel bad for because they are in a rough spot, and I wish I could help them- but I can't. Being their friend isn't going to help anyone, it's going to lead them on (because they can't get over themselves, and don't want to), and because I'm trying to be friendly and relate (and therefore compromising, even in my thoughts), it's pulling me away from God. Which is wrong. I need to protect myself, too, ya know? If I ended up in a bad relationship with them, it would mess up my whole point of trying to be their friend.
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clare
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| 04/17/2010 10:48 PM |
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yea...he's trying to get me to marry him...time to back out of this I think.....I know you're right Adelynn, but when you have no friends it's hard to get rid of the few you do have  |
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Adelynn
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| 04/18/2010 10:18 AM |
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| praying for you, girl |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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nateynate
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| 04/19/2010 11:31 PM |
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| Trying to marry you?! Holy crap! Does this guy have any idea of wat he is asking. You defiantly need to get out of this friendship before something worse could happen (not sure wat that would be but still) youve got to protect yourself girl and i know its going to be hard if hes one of the few friends you have. It probably aint gonna be easy either. But like it says in the bible, if there is some bad fruit you better cut that sucker off. And honestly, it sounds like hes becoming some bad fruit. So whatever you do, ill be praying for you. |
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wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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Christina
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| 04/19/2010 11:35 PM |
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| I definitely agree with the above comments. That is kinda scary... I will definitely be praying for your situation... |
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Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12
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clare
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| 04/23/2010 11:25 PM |
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| thanks everyone!! I told him when he drinks he isn't allowed to text me bad stuff. Well even when he's not drinking! and he hasn't and I told him there is no way I'll ever marry him. I really don't know what to do yet..I'm being careful though! |
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