faythe
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| 09/27/2008 8:59 PM |
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the hardest thing for me to hear was the whole issue of respect. I realized I really do not respect my boyfriend or my other guys friends as much as I should. I'm the kind of person that likes to take control of things a lot and I often want to have things go in a certain way, and in the process I put down the guys ideas and that is not being respectful at all. but I am still questioning it because I had talked to my boyfriend about it after reading it, and he said it actually wasnt a huge issue for him, and that he thinks I respect him enough, but I am still super confused about it now. anyways thats about all I have to say!! 
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Loved by God,
faythe
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Hannah
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| 10/17/2008 7:20 PM |
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| Well I felt really bad after reading about the respect they want. I happen to be very sarcastic to my brothers and after I read it I'm trying to watch what I say now. Also the part when guys said that when they see a girl who's maybe a little over weight they automatically think she doesn't respect herself...uhg that was very hard to read because I'm over weight. |
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Adelynn
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| 11/05/2008 1:09 PM |
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| A guy had just asked me out and I was flipping through the book (My mom commandeered my copy over the summer and gave it to her friends daughter (which I think is great, I wish every girl would read it), so this is what I remember interpreting) and I came across something about how guys pursue a relationship because they find you sexually attractive. *Duh moment* but I was like geez...that's not something I want to deal with right now...I like being around guys just because they're entertaining, I hadn't really considered that he didn't want to hang out Just because he thought I was cool. |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/26/2008 2:27 PM |
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I didn't really find it hard at all! i loved it! to hear to the truth, when i first got the book i read!!!..and as soon as i finished it i read it again. i just found it to be so good. i've borrowed it to so many of my friends, they love it. one friend she's been married for about 4.5 years after she read it she's like, now some things make sense.
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Cayla Renae
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| 12/22/2008 12:23 PM |
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For me personally the hardest thing to hear was how intensely visual guys really are. I mean, I've always known this, but I didn't know that it was to such a great extent! It really saddens me to think that guys are constantly being tempted by media especially, and even Christian girls. The worst part is that lots of girls realize this, but they keep dressing the way they want to because they think "well, they just don't have to look". If you don't put the cookie tray out there, no one is going to grab one! I actually gave away over thirty articles of clothing because of this book!!!
The most eye-opening part of the book was definitely the respect part. I've seen certain looks on guys' faces that I never understood, but now I realize that their expressions meant that they felt disrespected. It really makes sense to me now, but most girls just don't realize it. That's why I love this book so much - we learn things about guys that they just expect us to know!
Thanks, Shaunti and Lisa, for providing us with valuable information! I know my future relationships with guys will be built on respect towards them - in the way I dress, the way I act, and the words I say. God worked through you ladies on this one for sure! |
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Melanie
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| 12/22/2008 4:39 PM |
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| There wasn't really much that was difficult to hear, but I must say that the book did have an effect on me. It opened my eyes to how guys really do feel, and it helped me understand my boyfriend a bit more. I never realized how much guys valued respect. I always thought that they had to earn it before they should receive it. I've definitely changed my perspective on that now! I also didn't realize that the things we say to guys are actually taken to heart. My boyfriend has a tough exterior. I would never expect the silly things I say to bother him, but after reading this book, I realized that a lot of the things the guys talked about were things I did to my boyfriend. I never thought for one second that it'd actually upset him. I'm incredibly thankful my Sunday school teacher gave me this book. It's a very big eye opener and I think every girl should read it. |
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--Melanie!! |
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Daughter of Zion
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| 12/29/2008 12:59 PM |
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| for me i pretty much had an idea of everything the book said, but it was helpful for me to read it because I now know how to treat my guy friends so that they would feel respected when i hung out around them. I was talking to some of my girl friends and they didn't believe everything the book said so i took the survey and gave it to some of my guy friends not telling them about the book, and they're answers were the very similar if not the same as the answers in the book. I showed it to my girl friends and they were shocked at the answers my guy friends gave. |
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Because I was created by God and for His glory, I will magnify Him as I respond to His great love. My desire is to make knowing and enjoying God, the passionate pursuit of my life. - Louie Giglio
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~angel~
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| 12/30/2008 1:49 PM |
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i was surprised in that guys didn't want the sports illustrated babe but the one who looked good in a healthy way and took care of herself. cause my whole life every body has told me that beautiful is sports illustrated. i also was shocked at how far the images in their heads can go. i mean i knew they could get bad ones but not that bad. i now don't mind not getting to wear clothes my dad says i can't wear. that was probably the biggest shocker of the book for me.
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kaykays<3
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| 01/04/2009 12:42 AM |
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probably the hardest thing was the photo files...
i thought it was kinda funny when it said "how can you think that is cute?!" |
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**Search your heart, you know you can't deny it
Come on, lose your life just so you can find it
The Father gave his only son just to save us
**the day that true love died**
---kaylee--- |
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~*Ina
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| 01/05/2009 10:38 PM |
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I am reading it right now
the hardest for me so far was finding out how easily hurt guys actually are, and what seems disrespectful to them! I am in a 5 month relationship right now and it's kinda bumpy and i saw this book and decided to buy it. it has changed so much of how i talk to him and how much i do for him.
there are so many things i would just goof around with, or not thank him for or congratulate him on just because it seemed obvious to me.
never mind that!
I always thought i was really nice. but evidently, to a lot of guys, i can be really mean! :-( |
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I am proud to be a child of God.
I know that what ever happens to me, God has a plan for it, even if it seems like nothing in the world could be happy again. I know he can take my biggest tears and turn them into beautiful flowers that smell sweet to calm my heart and mind 
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Mirhanda
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| 01/19/2009 1:05 PM |
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| I guess I'm kind of like some of the other people, I sort of knew all of this in the back of my mind, I just didn't take it into account on a daily basis. I guess the hardest thing for me to accept was the appearance part. I am overweight, and I guess it was hard to hear that yes, that really is important. I do wear things that flatter my figure though, not too tight or revealing, but still fashionable. It made me feel better to know I was doing SOMETHING right! (: It amazed me at how much they would rather be respected than loved! I guess I always thought that if you love someone then you do respect them automatically. Well I talked to my best friend (who is a guy) and asked him if he really would rather be respected than loved, and he goes "Oh gosh yes! You would rather be loved?!?" That stunned me in a way. |
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"And I'll be by your side, wherever you fall. In the dead of night, whenever you call. And please don't fight, these hands that are holding you." |
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lydia-jayne
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| 03/21/2009 12:35 PM |
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Posted By Nikkinikki on 06/29/2008 11:38 PM
I never realized the strong effect we had on guys.
I knew that we had some power,
but we hold so much power!! It's scary!!
I agree with this. I find myself thinking that he's the stronghold, the head of the household. But really and truly, it's a partnership. We hold equal but different powers. Interesting!
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Adelynn
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| 03/21/2009 10:18 PM |
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| Lydia- I love how you described it!!! Perfect!! |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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briannajaydee
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| 04/22/2009 9:15 AM |
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the face sexual images come up in their mind uncontrolably
like i now think when i see a pretty girl when im with my boyfriend
"hes probably checking her out"
its still hard to wrap my head around it
it kind of upsets me a bit. |
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Bekah
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| 04/27/2009 3:54 PM |
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There was one thing that really surprised me, and another that was hard for me to hear. I was shocked to learn that guys want respect more than love. I mean, I already knew about how guys feel the need to look "tougher" than the other guys around them, and I understood that, but I didn't realize how the littlest comment from me could totally stab a guy in the heart. Now I think more about what I say to the guys around me (especially those I'm interested in). It was hard for me to hear the chapter about what we wear. I've never had a problem with modesty...or so I thought. I never wore really short shorts or plunging necklines or anything, but after reading that, I am even more cautious about what I wear. I didn't realize what a big deal it was, how many of my shirts could actually turn a guy on, even though they're not "that bad." I learned a lot from those sections, though, and I'm glad I read them.
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sarah
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| 04/28/2009 1:04 PM |
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| there was nothing that was really hard to hear, but what I found surprising is how much they want our respect...and how much he thinks about what I say... I mean, I thought only girls do that! For the guys I know, they really don't have to worry about saying something stupid, cuz mostly I'm just happy they say anything to me at all! |
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Mariae
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| 05/04/2009 3:05 PM |
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Definitely respect, and the whole "visual" thing. I knew it was good to dress modestly, but I didn't really understand why...until I read FYWO only, of course!
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Mariae
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| 05/05/2009 12:30 PM |
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Oops, added an extra "only."
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bassundefined
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| 05/11/2009 2:35 AM |
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| i was shocked at how much girls would rather have a nice guy than a "bad boy".. it just seems the opposite i guess sometimes |
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Sarah
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| 07/06/2009 5:43 PM |
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| There wasn't anything that was actually hard 4 me 2 hear, but sumthin that kinda made me mad was the part where all the guys were talking about how mean girls are and how much we stab each other in the back and i was like "come on!!! give at least some of us a chance!" i do admit that many girls are mean and way overly dramatic, but not everyone. and it made me mad that they were speaking generally and jumping to conclusions. |
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