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Adelynn
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| 03/29/2009 3:34 PM |
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| I don't think that dating is inherently bad or wrong. It's kind of like music- it can be wonderful, or it can be horribly wrong. |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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James
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| 04/10/2009 1:15 AM |
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Personally I think dating is fine, being able to get close to someone without expecting them to be with you for the rest of your life. Sure have some boundaries and don't start when you are young but I don't think you need to restrict any sort of affection till marriage.
About courting I don't see how you can get to know someone that well and personally if you are never alone. I can see the positives but it wouldn't work for me. I think you should be sure that the person you are prepared to marry is perfect for you.
Once again this is personal opinion with no experience behind it. 
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emilyjanelle
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| 04/10/2009 5:03 PM |
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http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001401.cfm
I know, I know. after reading that, you may be like, "whoa whoa whoa! there were way too many rules in there! how the heck does anybody do that?! that guy was acting like he knew everything!"
but it's kinda funny (and really, really stupid) that we put our standards for ourselves so low, and yet would you want your future wife or husband dating 3, 5, 10 people before you? and doing all the things you want to do right now with your girlfriend/boyfriend? huh. hypocritical, to say the least. it just strikes me as very strange. I want to have the same standards as my future husband. period. |
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Nicole
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| 04/10/2009 6:56 PM |
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I am very unexperienced in the field of dating, but IMO, girls and guys should set high standards alike. When i someday get married, i'd certainly like to know that my husband hasn't kissed like 70 girls in his lifetime or dating relationships. I personally think dating is totally fine, courting is great too, just as long as you don't have a third person breathing down your necks all the time. Then i would wonder how in the world the two of you are supposed to get to know each other more on an intimate level, which is pretty important. But generally, dating is fine, just set yourself high standards and set boundaries for the 2 of you.  |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Adelynn
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| 04/10/2009 9:20 PM |
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| I also used to really have a hard time with "courting". I didn't think being with someone should be so strict, so serious . I had read the books, including I Kissed Dating Goodbye , but they all seemed to be about rules. When I read Boy Meets Girl , though, it clicked; marriage is serious . As I've grown older (as in, since I turned 12, seven years ago), I've had a hard time believing that good marriages exist. But, despite anyone else's marriage, I want mine- if marriage is part of God's plan for my life- to be true and real and strong, not casual. Not stern, certainly; but not casual. No "starter marriages" for me =] |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 04/11/2009 10:18 AM |
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| I read the article Emily-Janelle posted and it definately interested me. I think I read this article sometime last year, but I was very foggy on the specifics. I read one of the following articles, "to kiss or not to kiss" and I really liked what it had to say, and I completely agree with that. (However, I dont agree when it says you should be committed to marriage before becoming intimate...that doesn't make sense to me) Anyway, i will admitt from personal experiance that "absolute purity" in a relationship is a very very difficult goal. Especially if one party is doing it out of love for you, and not out of conviction from God. Its a very sticky situation. I too have asked that all familiar question, "how far is too far" - not even in relation to a kiss - but simply in relation to leaning your head on his shoulder or drawn out hugs - and I'll admitt, ashamedly, I've fallen short of that line of "not even a HINT" of sexual immorality. Too many times. Lately, ive re-comitted myself to purity in this situation, and I ask for your prayers that God would reveal to my boyfriend a conviction to absolute purity, because I know if he's just doing it for me, he is gunna give up before the next six years are over. I'm not sure how many of you agree on that extreme level of purity, but its certainly something I'm passionate about. I don't want there to be that "hint" that leaves me feeling guilting and stained. So please, I beg for your prayers. Especially if its God's Will for him to give up, because I will need alot of strength to let him go and not compromise. So yea....thanks.... |
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