Cerno4500
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| 06/16/2010 12:04 AM |
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I had a friend who asked a girl out on a date. The girl turned him down. So he decided to ask out another girl he was attracted to on a date. She said yes and they went out. The first girl he asked out now, he told me, seems mad at him for going out another girl. Any Thoughts or reasons why a girl would be mad?
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Grant I.
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| 06/16/2010 10:50 AM |
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| Interesting! I'm sure the girls are much more qualified to answer this question, but... How much time was there between asking girl 1 and girl 2? Could it be that girl one just felt like a number(Haha look at me!), and thought that since he just went and asked girl 2 right away, that he didn't really care about her that much, and was just looking for the first "hot" girl who'd go out with him? What do you think, girls? Hmmm...or maybe she likes playing hard to get and got a little TOO hard to get! LOL |
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Christina
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| 06/16/2010 4:18 PM |
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To really be able to answer this more info would be helpful. For instance, did the first girl just out right say no, or was there a reason? Because maybe she wanted to get to know him more before she went on a date. So when he asked another girl out, it seemed like he didnt really like her all that much.
Or maybe she genuinely didnt see him as dating material and more as a friend, it is still a bit disrespectful to bounce around. It is basically telling her, you weren't worth pursuing. Or that is how the girl will take it. Whether or not it is true.
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Adelynn
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| 06/16/2010 8:08 PM |
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| I would be a little hurt if a guy asked me out then turned around and asked another girl out- it makes it seem like he was just looking for a girlfriend and it didn't actually matter whether it's me or not. |
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Cerno4500
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| 06/17/2010 4:07 AM |
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| That makes sense. but doesn't a guy have a right to ask another girl out if he is single. not disagreeing, just taking a neutral stance. The reason was "only sees him as a friend" Why would a girl feel angry if he decides to move on because of this reason. She shouldn't get mad (in my opinion) although every person does have a right if they want to. He wants a relationship and she doesn't and you can't force it. So what is a guy to do in situation like this. Should he move on? (This happened to me too actually lol) |
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Adelynn
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| 06/17/2010 7:44 AM |
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| I can see both sides- if she says no he shouldn't have to get hung up on it. But from her perspective... what I said before. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Cerno4500
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| 06/17/2010 12:53 PM |
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| It seems like a contradiction to me lol. My question from this would then be why does a girl feel she is worth pursuing when she doesn't want to be in the first place? Just curious. |
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if uturnchic
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| 06/17/2010 2:06 PM |
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Well maybe the girl had a good reason to say no. Like in my family, I am not able to date until I am 16. Maybe the first girl wasnt allowed to date or decided not to date yet. If your friend asked her, and then she said no, and then he went with another girl, the girl would probably think that the guy didn't really care; that he was just looking for a girlfriend.
I hope this makes sense. |
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Christina
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| 06/17/2010 3:48 PM |
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It is a girl thing. It has to do with what every girl inevitably wants. I don't know if you have heard about the book Captivating but it explains it really well. That every girl is born with this fundamental quesition, "Am I lovely?" They want to be pursued. End of story.
There is this quote that I like and is very true. I don't remember the exact wording but bascially it says. "Whether a woman accepts or notshe loves to be asked in the first place."
So when you friend just bounce from one to another it seemed like what has been said before, he was just looking for a girlfriend, whoever would accept. And didn't care whether it was the first girl or the second, and from her perspective, how does she know she was the first. She could have been the 31st.
Just some insight into a girls mind.  |
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Adelynn
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| 06/17/2010 3:58 PM |
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| even if you aren't interested in a girl isn't it nice when she flirts with you or pays you attention? Same thing. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 06/19/2010 7:02 PM |
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The girls are all right on! Even if I didn't like a guy in a special way, and he turned around an asked some other girl I would be kinda mad. This might sound kind of dumb, but I broke up with my ex 9 months ago and am not interested in dating him ever...and yet...I still get kinda mad when I hear he has a new GF!!! maybe it's cuz he has a new one every 2 weeks an I think he can do better...Anyways!!...It's a girl thing, Christina said it well. Even though it doesn't make logical sense when you think about it |
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nateynate
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| 06/20/2010 3:51 PM |
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| im just throwing this out, maybe that other girl is a little jealous . Who knows, she might have liked your friend a little but didnt want to go out yet, now hes dating some other chick and shes mad. im sure the girls are right with wat they said but she could be a little jealous |
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**Jes :-)
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| 06/30/2010 8:58 PM |
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| if that happened to me i would feel(all depending how much time from him asking me until the time he asked the 2nd girl) that he didn't have true feelings for me in the first place! especially if there wasn't much time inbetween him asking the 2nd girl! cuz if he honestly had feelings then he would not just hop to the next one. my $0.02 worth. but i hope i will never hae to say no. i want to wait until the right one come along! |
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Cerno4500
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| 07/01/2010 5:33 AM |
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| I know this is not part of the topic. but since I'm here anyway. I thought I should ask this. Do you think that my girlfriend might become jealous if I keep mentioning how awesome her parents are. I was talking to her father a lot today and he seems like an awesome guy. She's real close with her parents and I noticed that whenever she hears something she doesn't like, she goes quiet. Any thoughts if its not jealousy? |
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wolf
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| 07/02/2010 2:51 AM |
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| maybe she liked him but just wasnt ready to go out on a date. |
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Adelynn
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| 07/02/2010 3:15 PM |
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| Not jealousy- protective instincts. It's the "I can make fun of my brother/parent/sister/friend but I will beat you up if you agree" thing. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Cerno4500
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| 07/04/2010 12:21 PM |
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| that's confusing Adelynn. lol |
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Cerno4500
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| 07/04/2010 12:33 PM |
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| not in what ur saying, just the behavior. lol |
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Adelynn
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| 07/04/2010 4:27 PM |
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| yeah, people are confusing =P |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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JoJo
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| 07/14/2010 6:55 PM |
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cerno, if a girl is close to her parents, and you say stuff about them being really nice, there is no problem there... I'd love my guy to think my dad was awesome!
dont say negitive stuff though...
as to the topic... i have no clue, girls are weird... I shopuld know, I am one, and sometimes I don't even know why I feel the way I feel.
but most probably it is one of the suggestions others have made... especially the "not being worth anything if he's just going down the list of girls to ask." |
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