David
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| 06/20/2010 6:28 AM |
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I am so frustrated, u know when u met some girl who is smart, beautiful, has the greatest attitude, and is the nicest person u ever met. And then u realize she is way out of ur leage. I don't know what to do. |
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Adelynn
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| 06/20/2010 8:40 AM |
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| why is she out of your league? I've never understood how that works. I mean I know it seems like some people are 'more attractive' or have "better" personalities, but if the other person is really worth it, they won't be worried about that. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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nateynate
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| 06/20/2010 3:54 PM |
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| Yea dude that "leauge" crap is all just a mind set. No girl is out of a guys leauge and vice versa. Go after her dude if she really is as nice and smart as you say she is, she wont be worrying about wat "leauge" your in she should be worrying about your personality |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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clare
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| 06/20/2010 6:05 PM |
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| Right!! same goes as when a guy says a girl is waay too good for him and he doesn't deserve her..ect. Because no matter what, a person always deserves the best!! |
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wolf
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| 06/20/2010 9:26 PM |
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ok dude i kno exactly how u feel. im there rite now. i like this girl who is buetiful, smart, funny, holy, modest in both dress and words and seems like she is completly out of my leauge. but im gonna keep shooting for her cuz i dnt think i will truly b happy unless i either get her (sry girls if im making u sound like a prize) or God shows me shes not the one. i belive tht every guy, and married guys or guys in a relationship correct me if im rong, belives tht his wife/girlfriend is way too good for him. at least thts wat ive heard from 95 percent of pple in a relationship. if u dnt feel tht way then dude u got the rong girl. the trik is to not let ur own insecurities get in the way of ur relationship. hope tht heped  |
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David
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| 06/21/2010 2:11 AM |
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| u know u guys could be right, but there are other things to facter in.one is our reputations. on one hand her smart,beautiful, etc. one the other hand me, the loser kid, the one that fails at life, the kid everyone hates, i hear these things said about me over fifty times every day. Two if she went out with me it would destroy her reputation and i don't want to see that happan because she deserves to be happy. |
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Adelynn
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| 06/21/2010 8:21 AM |
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| well, that is thoughtful of you... albeit misdirected ;-] If she really is as kind as you paint her as, is her reputation all that matters to her? We really can't live for that, anyway, as Christians we are marked to be hated from the start. "If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you." John 15. 18-19 |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Adelynn
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| 06/21/2010 1:53 PM |
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| or, think of it as a reason to be the man that she deserves. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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nateynate
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| 06/21/2010 6:26 PM |
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alright im gonna get real with you now (just warning this might sound harsh) alright here it is:
you need to go after her and screw wat everyone else thinks screw it dont think about dont even give a damn about it like adelynn said the worlds gonna hate us we christians its just how it is cause honestly if you keep caring about wat other people think youll be miserable cause really look at jesus people wanted to stone him because he was kicking it with prostitutes and the "sinners" yet he could have cared less now im not saying you have to be perfect like that what people say gets to us all at somepoint its just cause were human but wat you need to do is forget about the other people and just go for her now im not trying to be mean im just being real sorry if it was harsh oh and one question is this girl a believer? cause if she aint then done even bother with her |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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David
Posts:57
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| 06/22/2010 6:26 AM |
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| i don't care wether she is a believer or not i love her and am going after her. Question what is the right approach. |
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nateynate
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| 06/22/2010 4:34 PM |
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| ohhh woah woah woah wat did you just say? you dont care if shes a believer. dude thats the most important thing is whether shes a believer or not ask anyone on this site and they will say the most important thing is that the person you want to date should be a believer it even says it in the bible not to be unequally yolked so you should care whether shes a believer or not |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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clare
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| 06/22/2010 6:43 PM |
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never date someone you aren't of the same faith with!!!! I dated a guy...and I knew we didn't agree on some salvation issues but I thought it would all work out...that was the worst thing I ever did. I liked him ALOT but when it got down to it...I knew that my faith was more important to me. Because we didn't have the same faith...we didn't have the respect for each other that is necessary for a couple and I think it's safe to say that is the same with any other couple. The one will wear down on the other and heartache. If I had said no from the start it would of saved a lot m ore hurt than saying no too late.
Don't do it David! If you really don't care if you have the same belief..you're going to hurt you and HER! |
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Adelynn
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| 06/22/2010 9:25 PM |
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| It's definitely important, like Nate said. Clare is right, when there isn't a mutual respect for what is actually important, it always ends with hurtful words and bruised emotions. And after that is the breakup. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/23/2010 1:43 AM |
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| I agree completely with the last three posts. I leave for five months and everyone's beautiful grammar goes away. David used to have the best grammar, lol. |
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
-- Spock, Star Trek 2: Wrath of Khan |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/23/2010 1:44 AM |
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| Wait, that's not the right David, where's the other David? |
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
-- Spock, Star Trek 2: Wrath of Khan |
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David
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| 06/23/2010 4:05 AM |
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| yeah guys we both go to a christen college so i think she is a believer, so what would be the right approach? |
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David
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| 06/23/2010 4:08 AM |
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| p.s dosen't it also say in the bible that u should love everyone equally. |
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Adelynn
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| 06/23/2010 8:16 AM |
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| going to the Christian college around here wouldn't mean much, and you didn't mention that before. You really aren't looking to marry this woman, huh? Just date and see if maybe you decide you could be married, or it falls apart? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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David
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| 06/24/2010 5:57 AM |
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| ok how old are u guys? cause i am 16 and just looking to date. |
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Liz
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| 06/24/2010 12:17 PM |
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OK, I'm confused. 1) You're 16 and you both go to a Christian college? Isn't that a little young?
2) Why are you "just looking to date"? Are you planning on marrying this girl in a few years, or just looking for some fun *right now*? How would you feel if your future wife was going out with someone just because she wanted to date? The way I look at it, dating people you wouldn't marry, or just dating for the fun of it is using precious time on someone, when you could instead be using that time to further God's kingdom, or grow as a Christian as you prepare yourself for the person you'll marry someday.
There's a great section in the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris that I would like to copy, but I lent the book out to a frien :-( . You should totally read that book though!! It has a great way comparing how relationships go when you do it God's way vs. the world's way. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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