nateynate
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| 06/24/2010 3:49 PM |
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| yea the bible says to love everyone equally but it never says to compromise who you go out with i forget where but it does say in the bible that dating is meant so you can look for your future spouse (it doesnt say that exactly but thats the point its trying to make) dating isnt something your supposed to mess around with and like liz asked why are you 16 and already in college and how old is this other girl? |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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David
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| 06/25/2010 4:06 AM |
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| put it this way, the only way the relationship will end is if she dumps me. |
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Liz
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| 06/25/2010 10:37 AM |
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I'm sorry, but I don't really get you. You come here asking for help, we're giving you the best advice we have, and you start retaliating. If you're not going to take advice graciously- and that doesn't always mean you follow it, you're just saying "ok, I get this, but it's not for me"- then don't ask for it.
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Adelynn
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| 06/25/2010 12:42 PM |
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| David, here is the thing- no one likes a broken heart. Break ups are not good. Our society has given us the impression that dating around is normal until you decide to settle for someone. But what if we did something counterculture- what if we trusted that God has our lives planned out so much that He is going to put everything together. He is going to make everything work out either way, as long as we keep our hearts and our focus on Him. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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nateynate
Posts:316
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| 06/25/2010 10:16 PM |
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Dude just listen to the chicas they know wat theyre talking about  ha oh...and you still didnt answer the question how far apart are you two in age? |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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David
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| 06/26/2010 8:20 AM |
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| u guys don't get it,i love this girl and want to be with her, but your making that out to be a bad thing. |
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Adelynn
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| 06/26/2010 8:31 AM |
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Get to know her better through a friendship- ask her to group events, find a club you both would enjoy. That would make her comfortable with you, and would help her to see you for who you are.
Or just ask her out. Either way, be up front about what you hope for, even if it sounds cheesy or awkward. It's so comforting to the woman to know. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 06/26/2010 5:34 PM |
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loving a girl and wanting to be with her is awesome! BUT...are you a christian? We are called to love God more, put him first. as much as you love this girl, if she isn't a christian, that if forbidden to you. I know it sounds really harsh. it's really really hard! But the Bible makes it so clear, that we first belong to God, and anything that will pull us away from him is wrong. Listen to me!! I did it, and it doesn't work, it doesn't last, and will cause walls between you and God, you won't be able to hear his voice very well anymore.
I'm really sorry everyone has to be so painfully honest, but it's the truth, and the truth hurts sometimes.
@ Kiol...this is a different David I'm pretty sure |
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nateynate
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| 06/26/2010 6:53 PM |
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| Let me tell you something David we do get it weve all been there before and dealt with this problem thats why were trying to help and let you know of the problems that can come like i said before and wat clare and everyone else has been saying you need to know for certain if shes a christian or not oh and hey do you even talk to this girl at all or try and hang out with her cause its sounding to me like you dont it sounds like this girl is someone you know of and maybe crossed paths with a couple of times sorry if that is sounding harsh but thats wat its sounding like to me and if wat im guessing is true you need to try talking to her then |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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AlexTi
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| 06/26/2010 8:57 PM |
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iv been there i told meself that i give up til i find the one |
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Liz
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| 06/26/2010 10:39 PM |
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I know I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but it might be he right thing...at the wrong time.
Think about it: You're 16. You're probably not going to be getting married anytime soon, and earlier you said you were "just looking to date". You're single years are supposed to be used to glorify God and do His work, while you prepare for your future spouse.
And, there's no need to get all defensive here. We're not trying to condemn you or anything, but you asked for advice and we're giving it to you. The least you can do is be polite about receiving it. |
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clare
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| 06/27/2010 1:52 AM |
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you're very good at making your point Liz  haha sounds like me!! |
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Liz
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| 07/03/2010 11:22 AM |
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| Is that a good thing? |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Liz
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| 07/03/2010 11:23 AM |
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| Does "me making my point" have anything to do with the creative way I used the italics? I was very particular aobut that! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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clare
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| 07/03/2010 3:33 PM |
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| more like"dude you better shape up or I'll***" leave no room for doubt or questions there!!LOL that's the way I get.haha |
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Liz
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| 07/03/2010 9:31 PM |
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| Yeah, that works too! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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David
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| 07/04/2010 8:48 AM |
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| ok fine, the truth is I am suffering from some sort of depression and just want someone to love. And there are only two girls I love lots but one rejected me and I don't think the other would date me. And yes I am christian. |
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clare
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| 07/04/2010 7:25 PM |
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we aren't out to pick a fight! Sorry it might of come out like that
I understand a little how you feel about it now David. Thanks for saying that.I know you're type, I dated one guy who was often depressed and he just wanted someone to love and to know loved him. When a guy says that..well it just hits my soft spot (and if you knew me you would know I don't ever show soft spots) and when I had to break up with that guy...and tell him I couldn't love him as much as he needed...it tore me to pieces and it took him a loooong time to get over it. I know right now you just really want someone, and God will bring her to you in time. You have to trust him. Pray about it a lot and ask God to help you. I wish I could say go for the girl...but if she isn't a Christian then you are going to hurt yourself more then if you continue to wait. |
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nateynate
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| 07/07/2010 4:19 PM |
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| Sorry about you being depressed that must suck Heres the thing though man if your trying to find happiness and satisfaction by loving just any girl (not saying girls are bad to love) you will become more depressed because either it wont work and youll be depressed or it will work fornow but when it ends later the thing that brought you happiness is gone and youll be depressed again. So honestly the way your trying to get out of your depression will not work, i can guarantee it. So my advice, is that if your trying to deal with depression, pray and go see a Christian counsler. Good luck man |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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David
Posts:57
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| 07/14/2010 7:23 AM |
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| awsome news found out i am not depressed, but it still would be nice to have someone to love. so u guys think i shouldn't go after her. |
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