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| 06/26/2010 11:50 AM |
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| well, I'm a complete newbie to the forums here so bear with me as I attempt to explain my predicament. Ok, well I started talking to this girl that sat next to me in multiple classes. She was very talkative and funny and I began to like her more and more. At the time she had been going out with the quarterback for our football team. We'd talk to each other in school and text, but no hanging out yet. Then she broke up with her boyfriend (he didn't do anything in the relationship and they had been planning a date for weeks and he blew it off to hang out with his friends). At that time I tried to go more out of my way to talk to her and I noticed that she was going out of her way a lot too. She started to introduce me to her friends. About three weeks later when I thought things were going so well I decided I would go for it and ask her out, she said no and that she only wanted to be friends. In my own arrogance I found destruction. I still talked to her and did my best at trying to make things as normal as possible and not too awkward so that we'd still be friends. About a month later she had a huge falling out with her friends. I had no idea what happened, all I knew was that she was angry at her friends (excluding me) and her friends (that I was also good friends with) were angry at her. They wanted me to join their side, but I decided to stay neutral, leaning more toward the other side. After a very confusing period of time, it took one single class for them all to make-up. There were still some hostility but it was all dying down. At this time, finals were coming around and she and her friend were having trouble with math so I helped them almost everyday. I'd go out of my way if anyone was having trouble with anything. There were some late nights that I would stay up and talk to them via facebook chat and try to help (very hard when dealing with coordinate planes). Finals came around and everything went fine for everyone. Then school ended shortly after. Nobody hung out until about 3 weeks after school ended but there was plenty of talking. Then all of a sudden we'd be hanging out at least once a week("we"-her and her friends). The last time we hung out it was with her and her friend and her friend's friend(bear with me,please). They(her and her friend) said that they wanted me and her friend's friend to meet because it seemed we were the like the same personality. At this time I still had very strong feelings for her("her" as in the person I had liked in the beginning not her friend's friend). The whole time I was hanging out with them they were talking about how "hot" this guy was at her friend's dance recital. I was miserable, seeing how the girl I liked was talking about how hot this one guy was, and also trying to set me up with someone else. I realized that she was probably trying to be nice, and not completely just be blunt and say " I only like you as a friend" to me but try to soften the blow. At this time I'm asking for advice, advice on how I might be able to win the girl I like or advice saying I should just let go. I have been actively praying about this stuff for a long time. I just don't know what to do. I did my best. |
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nateynate
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| 06/26/2010 6:43 PM |
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| That took a couple times reading before i got it ha but here it goes sorry to say this dude but i gotta be real with you, your gonna have to let go and i know its way easier said than done ive been there before and its no fun honestly the more you try to get her to like you in these situations (this is all based on past experiences) she probably wont and by how you described her, she aint a friend you want to lose risking for something that you know probably wont happen so sorry again, but try and let go itll be hard but its wat you need to do |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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him again
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| 06/27/2010 10:03 PM |
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| Thanks for the advice man. Yeah it is waaaaay easier said than done haha. I'll try to though, I'm gonna pray for God to give me eyes to see what to do. |
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JoJo
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| 07/14/2010 7:22 PM |
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I agree with nate.
and I'm right there with you 2. as I'm going through that, and sadly (though the guy in question doesn't know) our friendship HAS been affected, and I just can't see us being as good a friends as we were b4 because of my feelings.
just try to quit it now and not lose the friendship, than not worry and you get too emotionally involved and it wrecks it. haha. speaking from my experience. and it is hard. very hard. try to put your thoughts into figuring out what God's called you to do with your life, as an individual, and maybe that will help? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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him again
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| 07/17/2010 9:20 PM |
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| Yeah it did help. I've been asking myself if I should focus more on my spiritual life and not so much my social life and let God take care of it, and I believe that he is speaking through you, thereby confirming my thoughts. Thanks for all the help nate and jojo. |
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JoJo
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| 07/18/2010 3:57 AM |
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no problem. i know how sometimes you just need someone to listen and try to give sound advice.
to tell the truth, at the moment I'm kinda sad cuz i am finding it difficult to get over this guy  so there are at least 2 of us going through this  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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