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wolf
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| 07/13/2010 6:26 PM |
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| Ok. heres another question. this is again directed mostly toward girls but any guy who has some good advice please respond. ok so that girl i liked, my mom is giving her sewing lessons now so im seeing her more often. and weve been talking. and she seems to like me well enough. still not entirly sure how much but thats not the point. there is actually another girl who says she likes me. i dont know wat to do.shes a nice girl and all and we are good friends. but i just dont believe she right for me. not like this other girl. so girls if you were in the place of the girl who likes me what would you want me to do? if my problem isnt clear please tell me. |
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Adelynn
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| 07/13/2010 9:35 PM |
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| I'm confused about why you think she isn't right for you like this other girl- who is who? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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wolf
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| 07/13/2010 11:21 PM |
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| ok so there is this girl ive liked for a long time. im getting to be really good friends with her and she may be starting to like me. i believe she is the girl God intends for me. she is holy, kind, and in every way perfect for me (im not saying shes perfect she, like everyone, has many faults) and there is this other girl who has a crush on me and dont get me wrong she is a great girl. i just dont belive shes the right one for me. how do i handle this situation without losing her friendship or wihout hurting her? have i cleared things up a little? |
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Grant I.
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| 07/13/2010 11:35 PM |
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| I've kinda been there before...a very sweet, and even very attractive girl I "adopted" as my li'l sister got a dreadful crush on me, and wanted me really badly, and I loved her very much, but there just wasn't anything romantic for her. I didn't want to hurt her, but I knew that if I tried to make her feel good by leading her on, that it would only hurt worse for her later, so I simply told her that I loved her very very much, and that I don't want to hurt her, but that I didn't think we should start any kind of relationship at that point. It took her a long time before it finally soaked in, then got jealous and kinda mad. She was mad at me for about a year, then she got over it and about 6-7 years later, we're great friends! I still don't know if I did the best thing or not, but I did what I felt was in both of our best interests in the long run. If you talk to the girl that says she likes you, I wouldn't tell her no, and that it will never happen(never say never, cuz it'll bite you in the hiney. LOL), but tell her that you are flattered, and feel honored, but that you don't really have those feelings for her right now. Make sure you tell her that there's nothing wrong with her, and that you want to be friends(if you do, that is), but that you aren't interested in anything more at this point. I don't know if that'll help you at all or not, but that's my $.02 |
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Adelynn
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| 07/14/2010 8:29 AM |
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oh yes, I wasn't sure where the second girl came in but now I think I see- I thought the second girl you mentioned was saying that the girl you like also likes you =]
That is a tough place to be. Grant is right, it'll hurt so much more later if the girl who likes you doesn't know where you stand. Especially if she's hoping for the guy to be the initiator, she's just going to soak you in in any way possible, even if you think you're just all hanging out like you always do, she'll be hoping that "it's coming." And then when it doesn't- it's just as bad as an official break-up.
As for the one you like, definitely just get to know her better as a friend. You already (wisely) noticed that she isn't pertect, but it's so much better to find out why now than when you feel the pressure of a relationship. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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JoJo
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| 07/14/2010 6:22 PM |
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how old are you first?
cuz I'm 21 and only now starting to think about marrying someone 
but Adelynn is 100% right. cuz I was that girl.
I'd have been so much happier if he'd told me straight up that we'd only ever be friends, and I'd have been ok with it (like earlier on in the friendship). but because he let it go on and led me on, it hurts like a real breakup. I actually can't drive past his house without getting upset. but it's ok, at least I found out now and not later when he was married or something |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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