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Phil. 4:8
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| 07/20/2010 11:45 AM |
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So I have this friend. We really don't see eye to eye on the whole dating thing. (I choose to wait for Mr. Right, she wants to "find" him) So recently she came back to camp saying that God told her she's met her "future husband". She was already datiing this other guy so it was crazy. But anyways, just wanted to know, if i'm a bad friend for being wary of this? Is there anyway I can talk her out of it? What should I do????
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
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Phil. 4:8
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| 07/20/2010 12:15 PM |
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Posted By Phil. 4:8 on 07/20/2010 11:45 AM
So I have this friend. We really don't see eye to eye on the whole dating thing. (I choose to wait for Mr. Right, she wants to "find" him) So recently she came back to camp saying that God told her she's met her "future husband". She was already datiing this other guy so it was crazy. But anyways, just wanted to know, if i'm a bad friend for being wary of this? Is there anyway I can talk her out of it? What should I do????
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
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clare
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| 07/20/2010 4:20 PM |
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I think it's good you're wary of her 'finding her husband'!! A person doesn't need to date 10 different guys in trying to find the right one. I think you can try to talk some sense into her head, but often in these cases she probably won't listen...
Here's something that happened to me...Right now a young man and I are praying and talking to see where the Lord will lead us. Anyway, awhile back I dated a guy who was a big jerk, I knew I shouldn't of gotten into that, all my friends told me not to, but I did anyway. Looking back I want to know what good came from that! It was a HUGE mistake...but then I realized if I hadn't of dated that jerk, I wouldn't of learned to know the young man I know now. I think God could of worked it out without me making mistakes, but God uses all things for good!! |
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Phil. 4:8
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| 07/20/2010 5:14 PM |
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Thanks! That's great advice! This was my first post so.... This seems like a really cool site! |
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
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Adelynn
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| 07/20/2010 10:51 PM |
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It is really great that you aren't focusing on finding Mr. Right, since God has it all worked out and there are so many other things to focus on without worrying about that!!
Clare is right, your friend might not-probably won't- listen. Sometimes all you can do is be there for them, though it can be hard, especially when you can see all the warning signs!! If you're comfortable telling her what is on your mind, go for it, but try to be careful to not make it about how you're right and her perspective is the wrong one, try to just go for facts. |
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JoJo
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| 07/21/2010 6:59 AM |
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Yeah, it's good to be wary of that, as I have gone to camp and thought about 3 times now that I found mr right, and he wasn't haha. so yeah, as for finding mr right, dont just sit at home and wait for prince charming to show up at your door, that most likely won't happen, but dont go all out trying to find him. just make friends with good Godly guys, and enjoy your friendships, you never know what will happen from there. 
as for advice for your friend, maybe just say to her you dont think she should be quick to assume he's "the one" and that she should focus on who she id in God right now (as i'll bet she's not old enough to be looking at marriage right now? right?) and don't be so focussed on guys as guys tend to confuse our thinking alot and then they become our focus instead of God.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Phil. 4:8
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| 07/21/2010 12:17 PM |
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| Thanks everyone for your comments. And to JoJo. My prayer to God is that the perfect guy, I won't ever be able to get rid of him (if that sounds right) And i'm friends with a lot of guys at my church. They're just not at the piont with Christ that I feel like I need in a relationship. I figure that God has such high standards for me, that I shouldn't settle for anything less. Thanks for all your help! |
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
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