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1 Peter 3:3
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| 07/22/2010 3:26 PM |
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Hello Everyone!
Do you ever wonder why God allows pain to come in and attack us? I I lost my big brother in March of last year and it seems to be getting harder than getting easier! It's not that I cry every time someone mentions his name but starting this fall would've been his last year in high school and he would be turning 18 in Feb. 2011 and graduating the same year. I just want some advice on how I can make it a little easier to deal with when everyone starts talking about it and I just don't know what to do. Thoughts, prayers, and answers are requested. Thanks!  |
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nateynate
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| 07/22/2010 4:08 PM |
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| I dont think God allows pain because he loves us so much he wouldnt want to hurt us, but because of our sin, we have pain. The devil is called the king of earth (even though God rules over him) because the devil roams the earth and he is the one to cause pain. Im very sorry about your lose and i will be praying for you. My advice on how to deal with it is find a verse you love, a hopeful one to and whenever he comes to your mind or is mentioned just recite the verse in your head its a little trick i use and it does wonders. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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1 Peter 3:3
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| 07/22/2010 4:23 PM |
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Thank you for your thoughts and your prayers are greatly appreciated.  |
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Phil. 4:8
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| 07/22/2010 6:23 PM |
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| Why God allows pain.... Really deep question. I think it's to make us stronger. I recently went through the same thing with a guy, even though I wasn't that close to him. It was hard for me. I mean, it was the first time I had to deal with someone that close, and that young, dieing. But instead of crying about it. (Even though I do sometimes.) I took it to heart. what I got out of it was life's too short to waste. That's when my relationship with Christ became really important to me. And it's why i'm the person I am now. I don't know if you want to hear this. But if this person hadn't died. I doubt i'd be this way. This person touched so many lives, woke so many of us up to the truth that we never know when life's going to be over. And brought me and my friends closer together. Don't know if that helps but it's my two cents. lol. |
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"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
Phil. 4:8
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clare
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| 07/23/2010 9:18 PM |
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| I have never had a sibling die...I had a friend killed in a car accident, and that was really hard. I don't have some bible verse to give you right at the moment, but one saying my mom always said was this "things always get worse before they get better". Someone asked me recently why would a loving god allow pain. I guess it's why our parents spank us...to help make us who we are! |
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**Jes :-)
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| 07/28/2010 7:48 AM |
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i got this from a friend and thought it would suit perfect hopefully it helps ya!
For the Greater Good23 Jul 2010Micca Monda Campbell "But as for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good,to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they aretoday." Genesis 50:20 (ESV) Beyond a doubt, Joseph was a beloved son. In reading Joseph's storyrecorded in Genesis 37-50, I couldn't help but think how Joseph wouldmake a great guest on any talk show if he were alive today. The titleof the TV program might go something like this: From the Pit to thePalace. Joseph's story begins much like ours. He came into this world aninnocent child. He didn't ask to be born. Joseph, like any of us,deserved to be cared for, loved, and nurtured by his parents. On theother hand, so did Joseph's brothers. But in the eyes of their father,they were second best to Jo seph. The rejection of their father causedterrible sibling rivalry until one day Joseph's brothers threw himinto a pit. While Joseph's brothers were eating supper and discussing what to dowith Joseph, the opportunity of a lifetime arose. A caravan ofMidianites passed their camp on the way to Egypt. Seizing theopportunity, the brothers sold Joseph as a slave for twenty pieces ofsilver. In U.S. money, that amounts to $1.28. Is that where you are right now, friend? Have you been rejected bysomeone and thrown into the pit? Don't fear. You're not lost. God hasnot abandoned you. He knows your whereabouts. He is using yourcircumstance as a stepping-stone for a greater plan just as He did forJoseph. Several years later during a life-threatening drought, Joseph'sbrothers traveled to Egypt to buy grain. It was Joseph, their brother,who had foretold the drought and prepared Egypt for survival. Manycame from all over to buy grain, and so did Joseph's brothers. By now,Joseph had been promoted to second in command in Egypt. In his powerful position, Joseph could have taken revenge on hisbrothers for betraying him. Instead, he chose to forgive them andreunite with his family. As his brothers bowed before Joseph in fear of their lives, Josephsaid, "But as for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it forgood, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as theyare today" (Genesis 50:20). This verse is often compared to Romans8:28, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of thosewho love him, who have been called according to his purpose" (NIV). When you and I let down those walls of fear and trust God for thegreater good, we'll find a measure of healing and restoration just asJoseph did. Instead, we often want to cling to the pain. That kind ofthinking only keeps us in the pit and allows our wounds and fears tofester and grow. God has so much more for us. What was meant for evil in your life, God wants to use for your good.The Lord wants to bring you and me out of the pit and place us in Hispalace. The choice is ours. We can focus on our own bad experience andmiss the joy that can be ours. Or, like Joseph, we can take the risk,venture out, forgive those who hurt us and truly believe that God hasa greater plan for our future. Dear Lord, Your promises are a gift to me. You've given them tosustain me, to provide hope and peace while I'm in a pit. Help me totrust in all Your promises until You bring me out. In Jesus' Name,Amen. |
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JoJo
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| 08/07/2010 12:09 AM |
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I think the reason there is pain is because, well we couldn't experience joy and love and happiness without the opposite of each of them. I mean how can you tell something's ice cold unless you know what something hot feels like?
just a thought 
anyway, I lost my mother when I was 14, so for a third of my life, I've been the only girl in the family, and have had to deal with going through my teen years without a mum to talk to, which meant I had to talk to dad, which can sometimes be scary Im blessed to have an amazing dad though. anyways, it's never gonna fully go away, the loss of a loved one, I mean. because any time you open yourself up to loving someone, means you're also opening yourself up to hurt if they die, or move away, or if you have a fight etc.
but the price of the hurt, for myself, wasn't a big price to pay, because I got to have a mum for 14 years and got to love and appreciate her for the amount of time God gave her to us. I'm 21 and I still cry sometimes about mum, especially and my 21st, my 18th, highschool grad, performing arts college grad, probably at my (future)wedding
all you can do is remember the good times you had together and treasure those moments. tell God how you're feeling, tell him you don't get why it happened, He can handle it.
One thing I've come to realise about my mother going was that she's in a MUCH BETTER place now, and isn't suffering the pain of cancer. She got a chance to say goodbye to people too, which not many people get. She has also escaped the world we live in today, I mean back when she died, the world was a much nicer place than it is now. I mean I donno if I want my (future)kids to have to face the world, the way it's going. Sometimes I wish that I could go to be with Jesus and not have to worry about study's, boyfriends, my family, doing something for God, earning a living, etc, but then I remember God does everything for a reason, and maybe your brother had accomplished the reason he was put on earth for.
I know for myself, that once I've done what I was put here for, Why would I want to be here any longer. Heaven seems too wonderful to not want to go to I think Paul also wrote about something similar in one of his letters.
LOL i hope that helped, if you need to talk or w/e let me know |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo |
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