moses
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| 09/30/2010 9:00 PM |
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alright well i'll try to make this as short as i can. about a month ago a guy that i liked asked me out not like going somewhere just like call me and stuff. soo things were goin good but then he just closed up, wont talk to me. i asked him if he was mad he said no but then he also said i talk alot to his best friend i said i was sorry and if it bothered him id stop. but if i call he says hes busy if 1 of my friends text him about me he wont reply. idk what to do but now hes majorly flirting with one of the girls that he sits beside in class. he was one of my best guy friends and now i dont know what to say or do.  |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 10/01/2010 11:12 AM |
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I'm not entirely sure about this, but I'll give it my best shot. This could be a case of crossed signals. He most likely wasn't interested in you in that way and when he saw that you were, he backed off. My advice would be, if he's that intent on his space, I'd say give it to him. It sucks, I know, but it's likely the best route. If it's a passing thing, he'll start talking to you again after a while. If not, well, c'est la vie.
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One step at time,
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moses
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| 10/01/2010 3:49 PM |
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| thanks sooo much,but one more thing, my friend( who is his cousin) said he liked me for a year. and if he wasnt serious why would he ask me out in the first place . im soooooooooo confused!!!!!!!!! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 10/02/2010 11:00 AM |
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| Did he ever take you out on a proper date though? Getting somones number to call them can have several different meanings, not all of them romantic. I can't speak to him liking you for a year, since I'm not him, and there can be several reasons. There might be something going on with him. I can pretty safely say, "It's not you, it's him." Ask your friend if there's something going on with him. He seems to be your best bet for info. |
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One step at time,
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moses
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| 10/03/2010 7:36 PM |
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| no, hes not taken me out on a proper date.but i guess i left out part of the story. i know it was dum and stupid but we both agreed our parents would freak out if they knew about us sooo we kept it a secret. only like 5 people know. he really couldnt take me out unless our parents knew. oh and his motives for my phone number well he did call me once and we talked for like an hour. and yes i will talk to my friend soon. i talked to one of my other friends today who is friends with his older sister(confusing i know) but she said "o hes just bein a dude" she told me theres guys and dudes and nate(the guy who asked me out) is a dude". i dont know what that ment but she thought it was just a stage or sometin. but yes i will talk to nate and my friend very soon and see whats up.ok thanks for everything. |
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KC
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| 10/03/2010 11:15 PM |
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| Alright let me just say... if he isn't actively pursuing you, he isn't worth your time. Any guy that is worth it, or is genuinely interested in you will WANT to talk to you and will chase after you. If he isn't man enough to do either of those, he isn't the one for you. And also, pray about it. Hope everything works out for you! |
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moses
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| 10/04/2010 7:27 AM |
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alright, thanks
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KC
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| 10/05/2010 11:56 AM |
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| sorry for being so blunt but its the truth... |
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1 Corinthians 13 <3 |
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moses
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| 10/05/2010 3:19 PM |
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| its ok i probably needed to hear it put that way anyhow. |
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JoJo
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| 10/07/2010 5:46 PM |
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arg... this is what makes things confusing. i guess all you can do is be honest with him, at least you've done your part then??
and if he's still being immature (as it seems he's trying to make you jealous, though I could be wrong...) then he's not ready for a proper relationship, and it's better to cut him loose now and have the least amount of drama and hurt feelings from the situation...
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
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Lookin' back from where you have been
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moses
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| 10/07/2010 7:22 PM |
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| i really want to be honest with him but im having trouble telling him anything right now. i want to just tell him everything and if need be end everything,its going to be hard though because i still like him. im reaaaallllllly mad at myself for getting into this because he was an awesome guy friend and idk if we can ever be the same again. any suggestions on how to approach him with this?? thanks to everyone for the help with this. i reallllllly appreciate it!!!!!!!!! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 10/08/2010 4:27 PM |
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Corner him. I mean that very literally. Find him, stop him and say "I really need to talk to you. Privately." And then tell him what's going on. You've got nothing to lose by telling him. Unless he's a first class jerk (and there are some), he'll realize what he's doing is hurting you and stop. If he is a jerk and/or still avoids you, might be best to sever all ties and that's never fun.
Bonne chance, mon ami!  Hope it works out one way or another. |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito |
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