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luke
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| 05/15/2011 3:50 PM |
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| Alright, ive been thinkin....most everybody is against marraige at an early age, like younger than 25. Like, theres a couple at my church that are still in college, and their already engaged, but most the older people are looking down on it. Most people, like my grandparents, say that its a bad Idea cuz it doesnt give you much of a chance to live and explore and discover life, but, what if you want to do all of that with that special person? What if you want to discover life with them? Then, whats so bad bout gettin married that early? |
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Luke 6:48, (THE MESSAGE) "If you work the words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who dug deep and laid the foundation of his house on bedrock. When the river burst its banks and crashed against the house, nothing could shake it; it was built to last.
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JoJo
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| 05/15/2011 10:26 PM |
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i see it from both perspectives, and it really does matter differently according to each individual.
I'm 22, and about 70 persent of my highschool class are married, or have kids...
My bestie from my class got married at 21, I was her bridesmaid, and her and her husband are still both studying at uni. they manage pretty well, and I think they're an awesome example of a godly christian marriage, and doing things the right way 
in saying that, for myself, I couldn't be married atm, because, I would feel obliged to be earning something to contribute to the "family" and I'd have a whole stack of responsibiliey shoved on my shoulders... plus, I'd have to OK everything with my husband, cuz thats what spouses do  and if i wanna tour the world as a dancer in impact World Tour, who knows how long we'll be apart. and if he's not ok with that, and it's something I really want to do, and i feel it's my God calling (or along the lines of it), our marriage is gonna be strained.
in saying that, idk, at the moment, I can't see myself getting married until I've done all the "solo" stuff I want to do, after that, bring it on! and I'll go travelling with him haha. I'd love to do stuff with him, but if he's not a dancer, he can't really go on a dance tour with me, if you get what I'm saying.
also, another classmate just got married, and they;re still in uni studying.
It is a bit of a strain, especially for MED students, cuz you have marriage, marriage issues, study and work all to cram in together, not to mention rent etc |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 05/16/2011 6:15 PM |
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Well, like Jo, I can see this issue from both points of view. On one hand, marrying at a younger age could mean a little more difficulty because there's a little more challenge with putting together a future- say if you haven't graduated from college yet and have yet to obtain a steady income.
On the other hand, marrying at a younger age can be a good thing. I think it really does depend on the couple 
There are a lot of reasons why people choose to wait to get married or choose not to wait. Careers, family issues, financial reasons, impulse, lack of patience, etc Hey, if a couple can make it through college and support each other, among other things, more power to them!
Quite personally, I am in no position, or ready, to get married. First, for the main reason I disqualify: Single. For the second reason: Full time student. Anyone know the salary of a student? Okay I tutor too, but it only earns me a whopping 20 bucks per week. Personally, I'll think about marriage when I have a career, an income and a degree in line. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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clare
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| 06/16/2011 1:20 AM |
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if you have things you want to do before you get married, than do them! at the same time, if you're in a relationship you can be pretty selfish to keep wanting to do your own thing. One advantage of getting married younger, you don't have as many single habits ingrained in you that will be harder to overcome when you're married. Grant and I are getting married 2 days before I'm 21 and I look at everyone I know and they're getting married at 25, 27, 31, etc and I'm like what right do I have to be getting married, I'm just a kid I work, but I think providing is the man's job, and after we're married I'll only work to fill in time, not provide for us. If I'm going to be a stay at home mom why do I need college and career?? just my opinion. Maybe just cuz I hate school work
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Nicole
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| 06/18/2011 4:00 AM |
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Clare, if you were on here more often I think I'd tag team with you too As it is, it's already pretty amazing how much we have in common. ^_^
*Ahem. Anyways... I think I might be in trouble in a relationship then since being single for a full 20 (or 21) years does ingrain habits...
Some habits are very hard to break.. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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clare
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| 06/19/2011 10:53 PM |
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you're not that much older than I Nicole and sorreeee!!! I don't have much spare time as you know 
ok what I was getting out was I know people who want to have a career and be s business woman and oh yeah be married some day. well at 30 when they get married they want to continue with their work and have a child when convenient. The problem with that is the man is born to provide and when the woman is so successful and if he isn't as much it makes him feel he isn't doing his responsibility and not the head of the household but the woman is the boss....
I'm not trying to put anyone down here! But that's kinda the way it is...I heard a talk about how men now a days are often such losers because they feel over ruled by the women who are into being equal and better than the men. anyway..can of worms!!! |
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Drake
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| 06/27/2011 5:28 PM |
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| Ok I might be only 15 but I can see where your all comming from. If the couple are young, love eachother AND they both love Christ then I think its great that they should be married. If your like jojo thats fine too. Just do what you want 8n life and then settle down. The main thing is doing what you and god think is best. Mostly god but you get my point. The only requi4ements in my book are love and both love god. If this is the case then they could get married any time at 21 or 30 as long as they love and are willing to support each other. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 06/29/2011 7:04 AM |
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yeah well in my case, I'd LOVE to get married now haha. but it's not feasable, and I could only really get married now, 1, if I had a guy haha, 2, if we had similar callings because 3, I still have things I'd love to do b4 having kids... so he'd probs have to be able to travel with me...
so my point really was, once you are married, you have to consider how everything effects you both, as a couple... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 06/30/2011 9:21 AM |
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| I agree. Like im too young too get married now and I agree that some things should be done first. But sometimes things happen unexpectidly. And you never kniw what god may want for you. You just have to look for the signs he gives. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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Nicole
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| 07/05/2011 9:55 PM |
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| If you ask me, the waiting for the right person is the part that really requires patience, and if you think about your relationship status every moment of the day, the waiting time just seems to stretch. Personally, I'm happy being single, and I don't often think about being in a relationship- though I have to admit, the older I get, the more I think about the future and relationships. For now though I make the most of my single status ^_^ |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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JoJo
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| 07/06/2011 6:00 AM |
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yeah I think ATM I'm having issues with my single status, cuz all my friends are engaged or married or in a serious relationship, and I'm.... not...
dont get me wrong, I dont want a relationship for the sake of having one, but you know, sometimes you have moments when you wish you were like everyone else...
idk... i guess having lots of time to think about things sometimes isn't a good thing, because you start dwelling on the negitive... but yes. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/09/2011 7:00 PM |
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| lol true. but i guess if we all were like that the human population would go dowm. :p but yeah just see if theres no-one you would consider trying to see if you like them, pray about it and see how it goes. just dont break any hearts. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/09/2011 11:59 PM |
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haha, nope, my town has a very small population of guys my age... I have the problem of having guys 5+ years younger hitting on me... and thats a no-no. but yeah, I've come to a place when I realise it's kinda fruitless to be looking at every guy I meet as "Oh, i wonder if I could like him"
to me, it's more of a "Every guy is my brother in Christ, until God shows me he's the one I should love" |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/10/2011 12:22 PM |
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| i guess so. sometimes people will feel lonely and want someone to be with though. and i find it kinda funny that guys five years YOUNGER are going after you. for me its my age+1 or younger. never more than a year older. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 07/11/2011 6:12 PM |
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| I had a 14 year old ask me on a date and i was like 19....I was like go home to your mommy! |
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Drake
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| 07/12/2011 4:46 AM |
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| man what a fail. hahahaha lol. cant believe a bloke would do that! haha lol. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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JoJo
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| 07/12/2011 6:39 AM |
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it happens alot... i think form some reason, guys think the whole cougar thing is hot... (not all guys, but you know what I mean)
and I seriously dont think it's hot... ick.... I once had a 14 year old hit on me, in front of my dad, and I was 21... yep... thats probably the worst, and dad just stood there and laughed, while I was creeped out and wanted to avoid said guy... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Drake
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| 07/12/2011 1:01 PM |
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| man. and i people call me weird! to be honest i dont get it either. its just plane weird when one is a teenager and the other isnt. if your like 30's and hes 40's its ok i guess but not much more than that really. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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clare
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| 07/12/2011 5:13 PM |
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a 45yr old guy wanted to marry me. was quite serious
and to make it worse about that 14yr old...I was with my church @ a homeless shelter serving food and kinda befriended these two guys and then to get asked out by one?? good witness |
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Southy
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| 07/12/2011 7:21 PM |
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| i think God tells you when your ready for marriage, like you know for certain that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. my cousin got married when she was 19. |
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'when we speak life, life happens;
when we speak healing, healing happens;
when we speak truth, truth happens;
and when we go, and take what we have found to a dead world, we'll see it come to life again.' |
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