christian
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| 10/11/2011 11:15 AM |
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| im soon turning 14 and theres this girl i like but i dont know how to ask for her number and asking her out i don't know how to ask her for her number or ask her out. anybody know any advice on how to ask for her number and stuff |
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JoJo
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| 10/12/2011 6:07 AM |
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haha hey
I feel bad that no-one's reply'd yet...
as to asking a girl out... may I just ask why you want to ask a girl out? is it because everyone's doing it, because you'll be cool... or are you actually thinking of a long term relationship that could possibly lead to marriage?
lol sorry about dropping a heavy question on you... I think once you can answer this question for yourself, you'll see if you're ready for a relationship!
I have to tell you, alot of people on here actually feel that highschool relationships aren't always the best thing... (mainly from lots of personal experience) but... on the other hand, you might be the exception.... so I think knowing where your head is at first is step number one... once you can truthfully answer that question, it makes the next steps a little easier... if only slightly...
help me out guys, am I wrong here?
(Don't take my word for it... wait for a few more replys  ) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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christian
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| 10/12/2011 9:02 AM |
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| well yea i kinda like her but she's in the populer group and im in the country group and i really don't want to be labled |
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CNB
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| 10/12/2011 11:48 PM |
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Yeah, I agree w/ ya JoJo. 
If you're a young Christian man seeking God you should not be worried about the 'label'. Being judged is just a huge part of that and there's obviously many lost teens/kids @ school who will judge you. Just know who you are in CHRIST and you will not care what anyone will think...literally. (Labels are such a huge thing in school and they are stupid).
I would ask yourself that question like JoJo said.....are you truly ready for a commitment and a long-relationship?
If you do really, really want to go out with her (not saying you should or that you should do what you want necessarily...) the key is to....
-BE HER FRIEND (show you're there for her if she just want to talk-just listen
-BE YOURSELF(As much as you may want to....don't try to impress her)
-PRACTICE BEING A GENTLEMAN (this will really help you later in life, too. Try to serve her by being respectful, showing you care by opening the door, encouraging her, etc.)
relationships obviously take time...and if you are in two totally different 'groups' and you don't really interact with each other, you may need to just wait and see where life takes you. You can still be a friend just by smiling (but not flirty) and being respectful. In all ways and situations, practice to being a gentlemen....that will really help your serious, 'later-in-life' relationships.
Hope that helps!
(BTW- I know many people, like myself, who decided to make a 'pact'/ agreement with God saying they wouldn't date in High School....so much is going on in and out of school and with you personally as you're growing. There's really no need to add in relationship stuff like that. Just wait! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 10/20/2011 3:34 AM |
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| CNB summed it up pretty well. I might add a label is only a label when you accept it. Find an excuse to talk to her and TALK. No need to ask her out just yet. You just might be suprised how she responds to you. |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
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Drake
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| 10/23/2011 8:38 AM |
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Mate, take it from a guy with experience thats also a guy.1 wait till you are 15/16 cause you'll be better off (trust me) 2 the way to ask a girl out is to talk to jer in private and casually asking if you want to go out some time.
However if she is mean about you asking het out then don't bother with her trust me. Also as I said before, wait till your older. It'll work out better that way. If you can wait a year or three like I did then you know she's worth asking out at least. |
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"For god so loved the world that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life." Bible.
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god". Bible.
"Use your head to show your heart what you truly want." Aaron Ward.
Do not just look on one side of the tree that you see for good apples but also look on the other for you may find the best where you aren't looking." Aaron Ward.
"Don't try to gather all apples off a tree to compare them. For that will take forever. Rather just look and see so that you find the perfect one rather than going through many to be dissapointed." Aaron Ward. |
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N8
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| 10/26/2011 8:05 AM |
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| Hi Christian, I've always found it difficult to ask girls out too! So don't worry your not alone. It is part of every young mans journey to becoming the strong man and husband God has destined you to be. |
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JoJo
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| 10/27/2011 4:50 AM |
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| haha I like your post Nate very WISE |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
JoJo |
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