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Noames23
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| 01/02/2009 10:10 AM |
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| I am reading through a book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris, and I think it is very insightful. I notice that many of you have boyfriends/girlfriends. What do you guys think about dating? (If you haven't read the book, then you might not know what I'm talking about) |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/02/2009 10:51 AM |
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I LOVE THAT BOOK.
haha, okay anyway. i had my first boyfriend almost 6 months ago now (meaning we broke up that long ago) for 3 months. and i'm still hurting from it. no, he never physically hurt me, not in the least. but emotionally, i'm still aching. i didn't "turn my back on God", it wasn't that drastic (the kid was and is a believer and a member of my church) but i definitely put God on the back burner.
many of you are probably thinking, "whoa, 6 months later and she still isn't completely over him?" okay, well it's not like i want to get back with him or anything like that. but you have no idea how hard it is to talk to him (which i very rarely ever do) and even be in the same room as him, which is usually a couple times a week, seeing as we're both very involved in our youth group and church. and again, we were only together 3 measly months.
scores of teenagers and young adults think dating is "no big deal" and is "just part of growing up", but it's not. my first relationship has changed the way i view myself, guys, relationships, and life as a whole. if any of you think that "dating around" and having a new girlfriend/boyfriend more often than you get a hair cut is anything to be treasured, please think again. the more often you "get" somebody, the less often it'll be anybody worthwhile.
just my hindsight. :] |
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Noames23
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| 01/02/2009 10:58 AM |
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| I am only 14 and I have never had any sort of serious relationship with a guy, so I just want to say that I am very blessed to have read that book before I made any serious mistakes. Even before then, I had been pushing God to the side in my relationships. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/02/2009 11:06 AM |
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| well, for 14 you have a ton of wisdom! i applaud you for being willing to follow God and try to understand that God's timing is best. :] |
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maddiegirl
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| 01/02/2009 4:37 PM |
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hi
great book i'm re-reading it again right now. im not allowed 2 date, just court once im older. im also 14!! im not totally sure if i agree w/ all of courting yet. what do you think of the book so far?
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artyprincess
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| 01/02/2009 5:18 PM |
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I've read both of Josh's books and I really found them useful. I think he is definitely one wise and Godly guy!
I am 14 also.......just thought I'd add that!
My parents dated (others as well as each other), and from their experiences, and from reading several books, I know that dating is not the approach I want to use in my future relationships. It can lead to so much heartache.
I love the idea of old fashioned courting and involving each other's families in the relationship. It protects both parties emotionally and gives them a sense of accountability. They can feel safe talking to their parents and likewise being open to advice.
I am looking forward to that new chapter in my life!
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Noames23
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| 01/03/2009 10:14 AM |
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| I agree with everything he says in that book. I am never going to date until I am married. My Mom and Dad go on dates every Saturday night, if possible. I can't wait to get married, but whenever I think that, I realize how not ready I am for marriage. I have so much that I could/should work on in my own life before I even think about getting married. For example, selflessness. Every relationship requires giving of yourself to the other person, and I am not ready for that yet. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/03/2009 10:46 PM |
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completely agree with you, arty! even about your parents. same thing happened with them, too. but my mom has warned me alot and i've definitely learned from it.
noames, i agree! selflessness is something i must work on, and hard. ooh boy. :p |
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artyprincess
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| 01/04/2009 4:40 PM |
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Me too. 
From my observations, large families seem to just learn to give. Small families don't do so good......
And mine is small......
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kaykays<3
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| 01/04/2009 7:13 PM |
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alrite, well, i think dating has pros and cons
pros:
-finding traits you want and dont want in your spouse
-learning how to deal with differnt types of people
cons:
-possible heartbreak
-meeting jerks or being decieved
(i could go on and on listing the pros and cons...)
I think also that u have 2 be extremely careful b4 getting into dating and both u and your bf/gf have to be mature enough to no how to SET boundrays and Be a good bf/gf to set out a godly relationship.
remember god is always watching. dont do anything u dont want god to see. cuz he will see it.
so honestly, for me dating is a grey area. I do have a boyfriend, and he's a very godly persson and I admire him very much. but dating at such a young age(14) i no isnt very smart, b/c its very improbable we'll be together untill were old enough to get married.
so thats why its good to, whenever you deside to date, be ready for heartbreak, because nobodies perfect. And I know that if or when we break up, thats god telling me, ok, boyfriend break, time for me to show you what went wrong to prepare you for when your older. so, when you get your heart broken, come to god, and he,ll tell u what to do next and help mend you.
so learn from my "mistakes" before you make yours.
Date only when ur ready for its consequences.
god bless u all. =) |
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**Search your heart, you know you can't deny it
Come on, lose your life just so you can find it
The Father gave his only son just to save us
**the day that true love died**
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JoJo
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| 01/05/2009 6:22 PM |
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| I personally am 4 months off turning 20 and I havent had a serious boyfriend yet, but that's because I just feel like God will bring the right man into my life when it's the right time, and I dont need to settle for less than what God has for me. and No one needs to! God always has the best plan, so I've just surrendered it to him. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/05/2009 9:38 PM |
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| amen! jojo, i applaud you. you keep striving for God's best and He'll give it to you. :] |
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JoJo
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| 01/05/2009 9:46 PM |
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| Thankyou. It is hard. but I think in the end, ill appreciate it more. lol |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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artyprincess
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| 01/06/2009 5:25 AM |
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Posted By emilyjanelle on 01/05/2009 9:38 PM
amen! jojo, i applaud you. you keep striving for God's best and He'll give it to you. :]
wow - whoever God brings into your path, JoJo, is one very lucky guy! 
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