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Antonio
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| 02/07/2012 10:55 PM |
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| Hi I'm Anthony. I hail from the great, but cold state of alaska! People say when you get in a relationship you should have the intention of leaving them better than they were. But honestly how is this? I mean you give your heart, soul and time to somebody! And they give you the same commitment. But when you leave both of you are torn! How is this leaving somebody better than you found them? Your thoughts please? |
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ilovemyhubby521
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| 02/09/2012 10:44 AM |
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I'd say you got it right. There is no way to leave someone "better then they were before". As you said, when you leave someone, (or mutually break it off, even) you're taking with you a piece of them, and the same of them with you, whether you want to or not. No matter how careful you both are. I would have to say that that's one of those statements or sayings of the world. Things like "Follow Your Heart" or "Get everything out of life that you can.". the meaning behind these are are very self focussed, you know?. This life isn't about living for yourself-- its about living for Christ. God calls us to specifically to DIE unto yourself (2 Corinthians 5:15)! That's pretty opposite of everything that's thrown at us elsewhere. So my thoughts would be just to discard it. The world has put out there lots of sayings and beliefs to cloud God's will for us and that sounds like one that is meant to make dating seem better in our eyes. To feel good about going into a relationship with the intention to break up! It's sad. But God calls us to love others better then ourselves and if we're truly desiring to do that, then we won't go into a relationship with that intention because we know it can only end in pain for both party's. But yes.  . Those are my thoughts. I don't know if that made any real sense or answered your question. I'm sorry if it didn't! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 02/10/2012 1:40 AM |
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How is this leaving somebody better than you found them?
Basically, it isn't.
I never did understand the cliche in this context, but the way I've seen it used, it's about leaving the relationship on amicable terms. Naturally, the end of relationship is a messy and heartbreaking affair, but the cliche usually entails bowing out with a measure of grace. In essence, not being ugly, spiteful, angry, etc. Obviously, relationships don't always work out, and it makes it alot less contentious when both parties know when to walk away.
Hope that cleared things up somewhat!
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One step at time,
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clare
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| 02/10/2012 6:08 PM |
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| I understand the phrase to mean, to have a relationship that won't leave you with shame and guilt. Someone will always get their heart broken. being selfish and inconsiderate is leaving them worse. If you get together, and go and have sex you are leaving her worse off. If you get together and keep God the center of everything you'll still might get your heart broken but you'll not have the shame or guilt |
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Antonio
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| 02/11/2012 12:35 AM |
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| @ Ilocemyhubby that did make a lot sense thank you! @albatross it did clear it up! @ Clare I see what your saying. Overall, it's just a saying just to be discarded. Just another phrase to make you feel better about breaking it off, like ilovemyhubby was saying. Thank you again! |
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JoJo
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| 02/11/2012 1:15 AM |
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| I do think all breakup's are messy, well ok, maybe not messy, but there's always a tear etc... like everyone else is saying... but I do also agree that the saying you mentioned, is meaning that you end on good terms and don't make it more painful than it needs to be... or more painful than it will be... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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