Mariae
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| 04/20/2009 10:57 AM |
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Well, hey. I want to start out with the fact that I'm new. I've read
the book and enjoyed it a lot, and of course, some of it was very
surprising!! Anyway, I hope people will agree with me when I say that I
don't like how kissing is like on TV and movies-even on Nick and
Disney. They make it seem that by the time you're thirteen or fourteen,
you HAVE to have had your first kiss. Maybe this is normal because I'm
home schooled and don't know what goes on in public school, but does
anyone feel the same way?
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wjr1991
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| 04/20/2009 12:01 PM |
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Hollywood specializes in marketing fantasy... they portray life as a peach, and they have convinced a generation that they can have that life, must have it... and worse, that they deserve it. Gordon Pennington put it this way:
...in advertising and marketing very often we played at people's insecurities, and we determine what it is they think they need. If someone has a keen sense of identity, has a strong sense of themselves, it is less likely that we can reach them easily. But for the person who is insecure, it's much easier to manipulate those insecurities, to cause them to feel that a product or a service or a particular brand is going to give them something they feel they lack inherently or something that will give them a sense of identity that they're not getting otherwise.
They're marketing the idea that in this fantastically perfect life, we'll gain an identity. Later on in that interview, he said:
I'm fascinated to see how willing our culture is to reject reality and to embrace fantasy. Because we have not been given the tools and the resources and the education and the training that reinforces our ability to deal with conditions of our real existence, and we would much rather project ourselves into fantasy at every opportunity.
Most people practically live with not only the sense of privilege entitlement, but the demand that they be entertained, because it is simply too great of burden to bear to deal with the day to day to day reality of our circumstances. But if we could break through the barrier that suggest to us that there's nothing interesting there to discover, I think we'd be filled with wonder. We'd see in the very things we've ignored, the beauty, the complexity and the joys that fantasy never really bring us.
Ironically, the romance in TV/movies is so shallow when you take a moment to think about it... there isn't identity there, it's just facade and "fitting in". Real life is so much deeper.
Basically, I almost have a "So what?" attitude towards Hollywood romances... they just ring hollow. |
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Gods_girl
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| 04/20/2009 12:07 PM |
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| Mhm. William is right and I agree completely. Don't worry...I hate it, too. |
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OH! Yeah...God Bless! =D |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 04/20/2009 9:37 PM |
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| Well I mean, I wanna wait till the altar for my first kiss, so i don't think you "have to have" your first kiss @ 13 - obiously lol and I don't think that ANY Nick or Disney shows/movies are even the slightest bit realistic! I mean, public highschool does NOT work that way - at all! If you are having a down day and want a fuzzy warm feel-good farytale - turn on Disney, but if you want the real world - leave the TV off! The closest you'll get it TLC with John and Kate (ILOVE THEM) for a "reality" tv show - otherwise, its all just meaningless etertainment and extremely unrealistic |
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I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life. |
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Mariae
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| 04/21/2009 10:09 AM |
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I understand...I guess this was more of a rant than anything. I know it's because of this culture. Whatever. Anyway, Jon and Kate Plus 8 is really neat, but has anyone seen 18 Kids and Counting on TLC? I love that show! It was sooo sweet at Josh and Anna's wedding. 
(P.S. If I get married I'm totally waiting for my first kiss. God bless!)
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artyprincess
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| 04/22/2009 5:07 AM |
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Oh, yes, the Duggars! What a fantastic family!! I don't think I've seen Josh's wedding...... but I've seen a few of the Duggar Dvds.
I am homeschooled, too, so I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but long drawn out kisses on TV/movies still make me squirm. Ew! |
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Adelynn
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| 04/22/2009 1:13 PM |
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| haha we usually fast forward the kissing scenes in movies. It just isn't something that we need to watch. We watch a lot of action movies, instead of "Romantic Comedies" |
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emilyjanelle
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| 04/22/2009 1:37 PM |
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haha, I doubt you feel like the media is unrealistic because you're a homeschooler. in fact, I HOPE it's not because you are! I hope that public schoolers realize it, too. but I know that many don't.
I think it's a matter of how much you allow yourself to watch (of shows that constantly consist of kissing/sexual innuendos, etc.) and why you're watching them. like, I absolutely LOVE the old Disney princess classics (Beauty and the Beast, etc.). but even those, I can get wrapped up in and wish I was Belle, falling in love with the Beast. y'know what I mean? even the most innocent thing, you would think.
so you're not alone, Mariae! :] |
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Mariae
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| 04/22/2009 6:36 PM |
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Oh, I definitely understand it's unrealistic. I mean, like Hannah Montana? How could she possibly be a star AND a "normal person?" Doesn't being famous take up your entire life?  I'm not an avid TV watcher, mostly when I'm bored. My brother is into Disney and Nick. So it's on a lot.
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Nicole
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| 04/22/2009 7:53 PM |
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| I personally think it's unrealistic to "need" to have your first kiss at 13 or something like that. Of course you don't! i'd like to save my first kiss for my husband. On the other hand, i am a romantic at heart and there are some romantic comedies out there that are good. But i really think it's ridiculous to think that you need to kiss dozens of guys and have your first kiss by so-and-so age just to be accepted. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Becky
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| 01/16/2010 9:42 PM |
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| i think its rediculous. i am a sophmore in highschool and i have not had my first kiss, on purpose. i want to save it, and thats the way it should be. people are so easily manipulated and pressured into doing things and pretty soon everyone on the face of the earth is doing it and you feel like you're the only one in your whole high school who has saved your first kiss and virginity for the one who will truly care for you, your future husband, and i hope he is doing the same for me. |
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"In the same way let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven"
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Liz
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| 01/17/2010 7:04 PM |
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TV has turned into a monster.
It's bad enough that there's people kissing that aren't married to each other. It's worse that there's kids kissing each other. But Even worse: I saw two guys kissing on a show.
My family didn't have tv for about 9 months, and I was fine without it. now we got one, and even with only 4 channels we still see crap! (pardon the language) even channel surfing...it's those three seconds that can ruin your evening (like my glimpse of those two dudes mentioned above)
Sorry, I am against TV. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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LOGHANDI
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| 01/20/2010 12:14 AM |
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Becky i completely agree with you.
I still havent had my first kiss and i am a junior in highschool and i am saving it too
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Billiam
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| 01/20/2010 7:09 PM |
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| i get bashed on the time for not kissing any one yet and im only 14. my friends make out with any at any time. so when they meet the girl that they will marry.. how will they feel knowing they have kissed so many girls? |
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Adelynn
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| 01/20/2010 7:33 PM |
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| what's going to be really weird, is when those girls get married... then they've kissed someone elses wife... and that's a strange thought |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Beckah
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| 01/20/2010 11:29 PM |
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what is this world coming to?!? most movies would be awesome if there wasn't all the kissing...
why must ppl ruin a would have been good movie with kissing?!?! and im saving my first kiss also. |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/21/2010 12:15 AM |
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| At my school kids as if you've "done it" yet!! Like its a completely normal occurance. It's ridiculous. Everytime someone says that i just smile to myself because im a junior in high school and i haven't had my first kiss either. Woot woot!!! |
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KidLove
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| 01/22/2010 1:10 AM |
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| I'm not so much against kissing. As long as it's done within moderation. I haven't kissed a girl since my ex which was over a year ago. I hate the thought of just kissing random people just to kiss them. I may not be against kissing, but I am saving sex till marriage. On TV they make it seem like sex is no big deal, even casual sex is normal. Especially on a lot of shows with a big teen base. It's in music lyrics and in a lot of music videos. It's in teen magazines. Now days you it's hard to get a good movie, because most "good" movies have sex and nudity in them. Even PG13 movies have nudity. It's sickening. "According to the American Social Health Association (ASHA), one of the factors that increases the perception that peers are having sex is media content. Teenagers that watch sexual content in the media are more likely to overestimate the amount of sex their friends and acquaintances are having. They are also more likely to feel permissive of sexual activity and multiple partners." Just found that on a site. That's just pathetic. I remember back when I was in middle school, there was actually a girl who was pregnant. When I was dating my ex, she was 15 at the time, her 12 year old sister was telling her how great sex was. 12 years old!! What is this world coming to?? ~Kid Love |
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Liz
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| 01/22/2010 7:36 PM |
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| I just got some "Bonanza" dvds and I watched a couple today. Out of the four i watched, three of them had the same guy kissing different girls. It really makes me admire what Kirk Cameron did on Fireproof! If you stand with your morals you get good results (hopefully..) |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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clare
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| 01/23/2010 4:07 PM |
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I don't see anything wrong with kissing in moderation. I wanted to save my kiss until I was engaged and well under pressure I gave in. I know tv and watching all that affects kids strongly, Someone mentioned Hannah Montanna, the other day I picked up a People magazine and she was in there and it had all kinds of pictures of her and this guy on the beach and she was wearing some terrible things and I couldn't help but go "where are her parents? this kid is younger then I am by a few years!" And I though her dad was supposed to be a down to earth decent guy. I guess I shouldn't judge I'm not perfect either, far from it. At least I'm not displayed all over every time I talk to a guy!
12 is way to young to be knowing what sex is like. My little sister is 12...wow |
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