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jennygirl156
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| 04/24/2009 5:06 PM |
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Hey everyone!
I have a question for you, guys, what is it in a girl that catches your attention? And vice versa, girls what is it in guy that grabs your attention? Or in other words, what qualities, personalty traits, etc. do you like to see in a person of the opposite sex?
Also, what are things you don't like to see, what are things that will make you run in the other direction?
The main purpose of this question is to find out for what are things that catches a guy's/girl's attention in positive or a negative ways.
thannks 
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Locke
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| 04/24/2009 8:42 PM |
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Positive: Humility. Kindness. Gentleness. A willingness to pitch in when she's needed. Long brown hair (kidding, though I do like that). Serious about her faith and about her education. And it's also nice when she takes the time to look good, but doesn't go overboard.
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Negative: going overboard with how she looks. Being rude and pretentious. A 'Me-first' attitude. Impatient and easily irritated.
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Something along those lines is what you were looking for, eh?
(also: has anyone else found they can't put spaces between new paragraphs? it's driving me nuts  ) |
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jennygirl156
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| 04/25/2009 2:44 PM |
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yepp thanks thats pretty much what i was looking for.
for me, i hate it when guys pretend to be really strong and indestructible, i'd much rather have him tell me his problems rather than have him pretend like he's fine and all the while something would be bothering him. you know what i mean?
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artyprincess
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| 04/26/2009 12:11 AM |
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Ok.... I will have to tell you what I do and don't like in a guy - cause I'm a girl!
Things I like to see:
-Respect in a guy - for his elders and even his younger siblings.
-A good work ethic - to know that a guy can work willingly and happily
-A love of God and life. A happy attitude, not a sit-in-the-corner-and-mope attitude
-Integrity. That he's willing to stand up for his beliefs/friends/himself.
-A REAL boy - not a 'gay' prissy, ooh don't mess my hair type.
Things that will make me run a mile in the opposite direction:
-Guys who wear makeup (excepting, of course, on stage or such)
-Guys who are only out for 'one thing'
-Guys who are always looking out for 'number one' - themselves
That's the general 'list' for me!
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Adelynn
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| 04/26/2009 12:09 PM |
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I'm also a girl, but here are some things I love-
-Guys who aren't afraid to care . I know that sounds a little odd, but a lot of guys try to be unemotional and "tough," and I know a few guys who are okay with the emotions God built into humans (without going overboard- no hissy fits or sobbing over everything), which I think is really really cool. Caring about other people, old, young, peers, over themselves, is great.
-Confidence is huge. Not pride or guys who are self-absorbed, or who think they are always right and if you disagree than you are wrong; but guys who have their opinions and don't back down. Without being jerks about it.
-Definitely, Adoring God and Knowing Him are major. I guess I kind of equate "love and respect always, for others above ourselves" with truly knowing God, because we have no reason to truly care about anyone else unless we love them, and God is love, and says that we must love everyone, and if we don't love God than we can't really love (and respect and care for) others.
Actually this is kind of a list of things I look for in everyone, boy or girl... but it definitely catches my attention when you can just tell that someone truly cares for others!!! |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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JoJo
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| 04/27/2009 7:14 PM |
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WOW this is a cool topic!!
Im a girl lol
What I like in a guy:
* Someone who's not afraid to stand up for himself/his family/his friends/his faith/his girlfriend (if he has one  ) (Not saying I go for guys who already have gf's, cuz I dont...)
* Someone stronger and taller than me
* A guy who desires to do what he feels God has called him to do
* Someone who loves kids, and has a goal to have a family and to provide for them (Thats attractive, cuz I really want a family, I luv kids and yeah...)
* when he feels he needs to try and show you he's an awesome guy (even when you already think the world of him) cuz it shows he still wants you to notice him. (It's so cute!!)
* Someone who's confident, but still humble enough to admit when he's wrong, or done something stupid )
* A nice smile, you know, one where his eyes are also involved, not a fake "Im so up myself" smile
* a guy who loves his mum to bits and appreciates her, cuz that in turn will show how he will treat you later in life.
What I don't like:
* REALLY UP THEMSELF GUYS! im meaning WAY OTT guys!!!! (Over The Top...) like they think they're God's gift to women... GAG!!!!
* Guys who only think about what they can get out of a relationship and when things get complicated, ditch you and you never hear from them again...
* Guy's that are never emotional... they never listen to you (And trust me guys... you NEED to listen to a girl, cuz she needs it, you don't need to have answers, but just be there for her.)
* guys that never stop talking about cars or whatever (I dont mind talking about cars etc, but if that's the ONLY thing they ever talk about... I get bored...)
* guys who never ask you how you are, or about you, and never tell you what's going on with themself.
* guys that lead you on, knowing if you knew who they really were, deep down, you would run a mile in the opposite direction. (IE I liked someone who I had suspicions was gay, and... he never had the guts to tell me and kept leading me on etc... eventually I figured it out and we don't really talk anymore...) and he was gay.... I mean, don't they normally like tell you they don't like girls?? it's like DUH!!! but he never told me once.
* A guy that is a pushover, who cry's too much, who's needy (and yes i know a few like that...) and it's like I'm the "MAN" in the situation. ICK! I want to be the girly one
* Guys that swear and cuss and diss God. its not cool! don't do it!
* Guys that tell you stuff just to make you like them, and in reality, they're not like that, and they forget what they told you the last time you talked and the next convo he has different oppinions.
* guys that don't remember stuff you've talked about to each other... I hate repeating myself. (Though in some cases it is excusable...) but yeah, it's like they switched off when you talked to them. cuz I tend to remember what they talked about, what they like and dislike, and if they don't/can't do the same for me, it's like "Why should I even bother..."
that's just a few.... but yeah |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 04/28/2009 1:36 PM |
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haha, Jojo, you seriously hit the nail on the head on all of your's! =]
here are mine (I've posted very similar one's a while back on another post, so if they look familiar, they are):
He must be saved, of course. He must be on the same spiritual level as me. We must be able to understand each other fully when we talk about God, spirituality, etc. In the past year, I've met a couple friends (two being guys, 17 and 19, they're brothers) who are baptist (and I'm non-denominational). So it's been hard to keep my feelings at bay, because I know in my heart of hearts that our doctrinal differences would never work in a marriage. They're awesome friends, but as anything else? Eh.
He’ll have to be decisive. I don’t want a guy who beats around the bush about every little thing and can’t make decisions about even the simplest stuff. I don’t want to have to "wear the pants" in the relationship half the time, simply because he won’t step up to the plate.
He’ll have to be dependable, to everybody, not just when it's convenient. When he says he’ll do something or be somewhere, he’ll mean it. Or if something comes up and he can’t do it, he’ll have a good reason for it and not just because he "didn't feel like it". And he’ll be there to listen to me, even if I’m just rambling and being, well, me. He won’t interrupt me constantly and try to get his own stories in my time. He’ll know I need to talk and want to be there for me when I need him.
He has to be outright honest. I'm a blunt person, that's my personality. If he's constantly lying about dumb stuff (ex. "Did you do your homework today?" "Haha, well, yeah! Duh!" when he actually didn't) then that's a major turn-off. The little stuff now will turn into larger stuff later on.
He must be consistently respectful to everybody, especially those older than him. If he's only friendly to people when he knows others (especially I'm) watching, I will notice, but in a wrong way. If he respects even the younger kids and elders in the church at any and all times like it's second nature, that's a big turn-on.
He must be modest himself and value modesty in a girl, both on the inside and out. If he's constantly flirting with girls, but tells me he likes me, that's just stupid and I won't value his words at all. The way he simply carries himself, uses his words, acts towards different people (friends, his family, other families, girls, the elderly) is what I'm on the watch for. If he could care less how he looks/acts most of the time, then why would or should he care how I look or act either?
How he uses his time, too. If he spends his weekends chatting, playing video games, and watching movies and then failing in school, that's also a huge turn-off. I want him to value his days, spend time reading and studying the Bible, and getting his schoolwork done. If he zones at the words "book" or "author", that can be a turn-off, too. I love to read and I at least want my future husband to know the value of a novel and not just the comic strip.
He knows the value of a dollar and spends his money wisely. If he's constantly spending his earnings frivilously (if he even has a job, which is a turn-on, guys!) and depending on his parents to bail him out most of the time, that's just plain lame. Do I think that'll change once he gets out of highschool or married? Nope.
that's it for now, but I agree with most of what all of you other girls have said and I'm almost constantly adding stuff to this list. it may seem "legalistic", yeah, but in the long run, I think it's gonna help me out alot. :] |
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jennygirl156
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| 04/29/2009 6:49 PM |
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Thanks Jojo. The reason I asked you guys is that I had a crush on a guy and he was way belove my standards, but I didn't want to accept it because, well I really liked him. So I decided to have a list, list of things a guy MUST have before I date him. (realistic things) so like, he has to be a christian, and if I fall for a guy who's not a christian then I won't date him no matter how much I like him.
And thanks, you guys all wrote awesome things, I now have a list! |
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Kelsedilla
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| 04/29/2009 7:45 PM |
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What I like:
-When a guy holds the door open for me
-Someone who is smart with money
-When i dont have to pretend to be cool around them
What i do not like:
-a high maitnence guy
-someone who makes me feel intimidated
-when a guy puts his needs above everyone elses
-someone who forgets IMPORTANT things i tell them
random stuff:
-I think it would be hilarious and very attractive if a guy could french braid hair
-Its also pretty cool when a guy cooks dinner every once and a while |
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jennygirl156
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| 04/29/2009 8:21 PM |
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| I agree with what u said IKelsedilla and I loooove it when a guy can cook! because I'm a horrible cook. |
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Adelynn
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| 04/30/2009 8:24 AM |
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| haha I thought you meant that he must be smart and have money... I reread it a few times... and understood you meant you want him to be good with finances... haha |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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emilyjanelle
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| 04/30/2009 9:55 PM |
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oh, to be able to cook would be AMAZING. I like cooking, but if we can cook together, like when we're married and have a "date night" at home. what more could I ask for?! haha.
and I wouldn't like being "intimidated" around him, either. like, if he's always being obnoxious and showing off (I don't mean in a cute way, I just mean, being a JERK), that's a turn-off. yuck. |
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Adelynn
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| 05/01/2009 9:04 AM |
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| okay, I always thought that one of the most romantic things that a guy and girl could do was cook together... I know, I have strange ideas.... but dude, how sweet would it be to eat a meal that you had cooked together???? *hehe* |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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sarah
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| 05/02/2009 5:40 PM |
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| what do I find attractive in guys? confindence is a big one that I find attractive, and to be able to give honest compliments... and this might sound old-fashioned-ish, but I LOVE when they pracice chivalry, lol. As to what I look for in a guy...: that he loves our Lord, charity to someone who is not as good at something as he is, good with kids... I just LOVE it when I see guys my age or older playing around with their younger sibs or taking the time to talk to a lil person... |
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