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xolaneyxo
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| 08/10/2008 8:13 PM |
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This is kindof a long story, so here it goes-
We have this guy-girl group of friends, and sometimes there was a few crushes here and there on each other, but nothing serious. And then, I have a major crush on this cute Christian guy, who is in the group. And this time, for once, I don't kept the secret to myself, and I told some of my friends, and it got around pretty quickly, not everybody knew, but lots of girls did. I didn't give it much thought, because I thought he might actually like me too. But then one night, he texted me and we talked, and he told me who he liked, some mean, immodest girl. And I was heratbroken, he was the first guy I really cared about. But after a few months I eventually got over it, and I decided not to worry about guys anymore. So later on, he's best friend asked me out. And I was so confused, I didn't even want to be in that postition. I told him no, because he wasn't a Christian, and I didn't think he would have a good bf personality. He asked me why I said no, and I kindof had to lie and say "I like someone else" Later on he excused me of liking his best friend. (Yeah, things unrevaled) And I texted back "what?" But he never answered. So EVERYBODY still thinks I like he's best friend, and our guy-girl group isn't so close anymore. I feel awful becasue it's beacause of me and couldn't keep my feelings to myself. I have to go to school soon and have to face the humilation of the guys. How do I go about this? I'm so worried. I don't think any one will believe me.... |
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xolaneyxo
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| 08/11/2008 2:52 PM |
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| Can anyone help me? |
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akmelodymaker
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| 08/12/2008 3:20 AM |
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I don't know Laney. That's a hard one. Well, I would just PRAY, keep on PRAYING. God will give you an answer. I would also just keep trying to tell your friends that you are sorry for upsetting everyone. Just remember that everything will work out for the good in the end.  (and if they are your true friends, they will listen and try to understand what you have to say. )
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wjr1991
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| 08/12/2008 7:58 PM |
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Hey, Laney... I really haven't had enough time to be on here much, but a few things... first off, if you don't want to date a guy because he's not a Christian, tell him that- if I recall one of the points out of FYWO (as repeated by a friend) was that even though we tend to appear tough, our feelings can be quite easily hurt... but that's by way of insult- if you have a rule you go by, like you just don't date guys who aren't Christians, you should tell him straight off... "I've decided that I can't/won't date a guy who's not a real Christian."
About what to do... my advise would be to go admit to him that you faked an excuse to avoid hurting his feelings... and tell him that the real reason is that you have decided ahead of time not to date a non-Christian. And I'd strongly recommend that you do it in person- over email or something just isn't personal enough to deal with a matter like that. Oh, and do it semi-publicly, so that if he does give you a hard time, you can get out of it by saying that you just wanted to apologize to him, but you didn't want to get into a long discussion in public. If he's a real friend, that won't be an issue, but just in case...
That should fix the first problem... provided he still "likes" you... but as to what guy people think you like, the only sure solution I can think of is dating another guy...
So, I hope that helps... |
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JoJo
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| 08/13/2008 7:56 AM |
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Yeah, I agree with William.
But make sure to tell him that you dont want him to become a christian, just so he can date you, because it's fake and he wont have a real relationship with God. and there is nothing worse then someone saying "I became a christian just so you'd date me.
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maddiegirl
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| 09/03/2008 8:11 PM |
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| Yeah I'd say talk to the guys about how you're feeling and get it all open and honest with them. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/01/2008 1:42 PM |
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1.) keep your feelings about guys, friends, situations, etc. to yourself as LONG as you possibly can. when you just can't any longer, go to your parents, if you can. or go to your MOST trusted and closest GIRL friend. and only one, preferably. i've gotten into alot of trouble with that, just blabbing my mouth off to every tom and larry, when i really had no place to.
2.) speak your mind. don't be ashamed to tell people how you really feel when it's the right time, hun! telling that guy that you only date real Christians would've been awesome. you could've totally avoided most of this conflict.
3.) pray for comfort and peace for yourself. pray that your guy friends would be open to what you have to say. key word: PRAY.
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eilla
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| 10/03/2008 9:10 PM |
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| Put it all behind u and move on. If they won't let it go, just let them be immature. |
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/05/2008 9:25 AM |
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I agree with everyone else!
PRAY!
The past is past.
God will always be there for you no matter what.
Friendships come and go, but true and honest friends (which are sometime hard to find)
will understand. Everyone has wonderful advice here, i just decided to put my two cents in xD
God bless.
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