Shaunti Feldhahn

Guy #1 sounds like the guy to go for IMO.
And I feel sorry for Guy #2. Because he has just enough there to make him hope for more.

Im 19, and I've never had a bf before, not because I havent been asked, but because I wasnt ready. At a christian talent quest, I met this guy (from Y-One, a group of christian people who tour around the country for a year telling people about God.) I didnt think anything of him at first, but he kept trying to talk to me, and when there were lots of people backtage, he always talked to me, and no one else...
They came to my hometown to tour, and I hosted them. He again just wanted to talk to me all the time, and i even caught him taking a photo of me secretly. I see him again in 1 1/2 weeks. With guys, normally it takes me like 2 months - a year before I like them, this guy was basically straight off. He's not exactly what you'd call HOTT, but he is decent looking (o.k. he is super cute, but not hot.) He accepts me as I am, and even though I've only known him for 2 weeks, I feel like there is something different about this one...

I totally get what you mean by maybe having a good reason not to talk about it... I txted him today, and he didnt reply... Im not looking too muh into it, but I also think I may have offended him with something I said last time, even though I didnt mean it that way... I honestly HATE having a txt relationship, but he lives like 9-10 hours away, ANYWAY... I have told myself to give it time and maybe wait a little longer to txt him again, and Ill only think about telling him how I feel in 2 months time... then we'll *hopefully* know each other better... also, one thing... Do guy's get put off if a girl talks too much... Im generally a talky person (as you can probably tell...) but I do restrict myself with how much I talk and I let others talk and I listen... but yeah, Im just wondering...

o.k. what does it mean when a guy always talks to you heaps, and then asks for your email address??

I have a guy friend who just recently broke up with his Girlfriend... I know he's taking it quite hard! and he seems to be opening up to me alot about it! How do I help him to get his mind off of it and help him to get through it, you know... be there for him etc??

O.k. I have to admit something.........
I kinda have a thing for this guy... and I know I shouldnt at this point in time (Cuz it's not good for both of us...) but it's hard.
I want to spend time with him, but at the same time I know it would make things a little akward. He lives 2+ hrs from me, and I want to hang out, as friends, when I go shopping in the city he lives in (As there are like no nice shops where I live...)
But how can I do this without over stepping things at this time.
Aparently he might like me to, hence the reason for the break up, but I just cant handle, and its not healthy for anything to happen at this point in time, like relationship wise...
I really want to be good friends and hang and get to know each other more, but how do I do this...
Any Ideas?

Oh and at this festival, we did hang out a bit, but I didnt want to hang all the time (For the above reasons) and I had friends with me and it made them feel akward when I was with him...
But He did get his mind off the x... I think... Well I havent actually asked him, as I dont always want to innitiate the conversations like on MSN or txtn... etc...
But yeah...

Im trying really hard to keep focused and just be friends for now, We will only actually be in the same city for uni next year, so nothing could really happen until then anyways...
but id like to build a good solid friendship, even if nothing comes out of it... but because we live so far away I would have to hang out almost everytime I go shopping there (which is maybe once a month, or every 2 months... IDK, but not that often...) lol.
and yes, I dont know him and he doesnt know me exceptionally well, like we sometimes have really good discussions and we've told each other stuff that we wouldnt tell just any random friend... but that's only happened like 4 times... (Ive only known him 4 2 months so yeah... its weird...)
Yeah one of my friends who is going doesnt really like him... because it seems girls flock around him (He doesnt really like mean for it to happen and he doesnt act all "I have heaps of girls around me" about it...) and my friend desipses girl groopies (so do i, but I cant complain when I have 2 times as many guy friends than gal friends and I hang with my guy friends alot...)
but yeah, for example, we went to say goodbye to him @ the festival, and I hugged everyone goodbye, my friend hugged his brother, and his bro's gf, but totally snobbed him and walked away... thats how much she doesnt like him...
But yeah...
I donno if he likes shopping, but there is bowling and movies... and I actually cant stand shopping for more than 1 hour... so there are other options... oh and laser tag...
Because we live in different towns (well he lives in a city...) we dont go to the same church, but we do get to see each other at youth events, like camps, talent quests etc...
The next event, however, is in like 3 months...

Im making sure I dont get all emotionally involved, at least not until he maybe says something...
He said I should come over and see his new car when we go shopping on Sat... I was like sure, you know, cuz I like cars, and it's no big deal.
But when some of my friends heard they were all "Dude, you cant! It's valentines day!" but I didnt even know it was until they told me, and i dont think he knew either, but idk...
Now my friends are flipping out and telling me that they are gonna sit in the car while I go see his new car and it's just going to be so akward, especially if he asks why!!