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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/02/2009 11:19 AM |
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I have some problems, one of them I don't care to speak about, at all. But prayers would be nice.
The other is [Duh!!] this girl. I like her a lot, and she is Christian. She knows. But it gets, uhh, annoying. She said we could be friends, but we never really talk. And the fact that she seems to hate me, most of the time. Doesn't bother me like it did with this other girl. I still want to at least date her like once.
Note: All these problems I caused before I read FYMO, ugh.
Help, Kyle McCord.
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BarrelRacer
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| 06/02/2009 12:27 PM |
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| If it was me and you had told you me that you had a thing for me, it might had suprised me. But that depends on the person.Have you tried to just talked to her, like small talk? |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/02/2009 12:40 PM |
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Posted By Audi on 06/02/2009 12:27 PM
If it was me and you had told you me that you had a thing for me, it might had suprised me. But that depends on the person.Have you tried to just talked to her, like small talk? Yeah I talked to her a bit, like really minute stuff, but I can't talk my sister is looking at the screen again.
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BarrelRacer
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| 06/02/2009 1:20 PM |
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| Ok, thats fine. Yeah, i can think that she might have been suprised by it. but since i dont really know her its kind of hard to tell.so i dont want to say something thats not true. But always good advice is pray about it. God's above all and will take care of it in His time. I have learned that the hard way and man does that mean the world to me now. |
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David
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| 06/02/2009 2:00 PM |
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Without more detail, it is difficult to address your problem adequately. As such, I'll simply say this, which while very hard to hear will also save you from a lot of grief.
She may just not like you, and may have been trying to let you down without being mean. While this of course suck, truth is not every girl you want is going to like you (or me, or anyone). What you might need to do is just move on. This might mean cutting all ties with her, and not being her friend (if being her friend maintains your romantic attachment to her). Again, I don't know all the details, but this principle is an important one to grasp (as difficult as that is). |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/02/2009 7:24 PM |
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| Hey, David I am aware that she might not like me and that is true for everyone. Note: She was the one who said we should be friends, I like this idea, anyhow. What I wonder is why I like her despite the fact she seems to hate me, when it was so easy to drop other girls who seemed to disliked me so heavily. In fact I was put in that very situation today, the one were a girl I have asked out before, puts me down despite the fact I am over asking her out. Note: The girl I was put in the company of today was asked out by me nearly a year ago and should not be in this conversation. I will thing of more things to say and come back, I am not home |
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JoJo
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| 06/02/2009 10:11 PM |
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To Kyle... actually I have been in the same situation many time ... and Im a girl...
Firstly, one guy told me he liked me, and (he's turned 18 and Im 20... so i kinda used the excuse that he's too young for me, which he isnt, seeing as I like a guy 2+ years younger than myself... but yeah, thats another story...) but he made a comment one day "Um so I heard you found out I like you." and I was like "Um yes I did..." and he said "Well, I'm too young for you but can we be friends..." and I said "Um o.k. we can, cuz yeah, you are too young for me..." but then he kept txting me saying stuff like "Hey GAWJUS! how are you?" or "Hey Babe" and I reply'd saying "Um.... I thought we were just friends..." and I felt extremely uncomfortable... needless to say... I don't really talk to him anymore, cuz he was creeping me out!!
so yeah, the friend card mostly will mean she doesn't like you like that, unless she says something like "You are an awesome guy, and I do really like you, but at this point in time I'd like to get to know you as a friend first..." then it means she likes you, but wants to get to know you more first.
Um it is hard, Like I liked a guy for 5 years, and then he found out (we had been good friends for AGES!!!) but then he stopped talking to me, and avoided me... needless to say... it took my 4 years to get over that, and now we do talk, and we are friends, but it's not the same as b4... (but remember, I'd liked him for AGES, so you might not take that long to get over it...)
Sometimes it's easy to move on, but sometimes it isn't... especially if you thought she/he was the one, and had started getting your hopes up... (been there, done that, bought the t-shirt  ) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/03/2009 1:02 PM |
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Hey Jo-Jo like that post, that was helpful. I don't call her those things, in-fact I am more down than usual. She had pneumonia and is having a relapse and I think she is going to the hospital. I am going to find out and [if she is in the hospital] go see her. Ohh and sympathy on people just totally chickening out when they find out you like them, I hate that and it totally sucks.
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/03/2009 1:31 PM |
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EDIT: She is fine, yea.
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/03/2009 5:57 PM |
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Okay here we go, I have noticed she is very good with children [most girls are] and she seems to pay very good attention in class. And I don't know if that is a turn on to other guys but to me it is a huge turn on. Is this more information your were talking about David or something else?
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JoJo
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| 06/03/2009 8:31 PM |
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LOL well, yes most girls are interested in kids, but I have a few who cant stand kids and they get irritated when I have lotsa little kids running up to me @ church (or when I go into my old high school)
But actually, for me, even as a girl, if a guy is good with kids, I'm like "WOW He's awesome!" and if he's got intellect and likes to discuss stuff and learn new things I'm also like "WOW" lol.
especially if they're younger and seem WAY older than they actually are. (knowledge wise etc.) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/04/2009 12:08 AM |
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Yeah, she is a year older than me. And she will constantly say "There is nobody in my youth group that is the same age." This is funny and a little bit annoying. I like the two "senior members' posts."
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"The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few... or the one."
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/05/2009 3:14 PM |
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Adelynn
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| 06/05/2009 5:05 PM |
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| I'm not sure that this is going to help or not, but I'm the girl in a situation like that (a few times over). I really do think that these particular guys are good guys, great guys, and I wouldn't mind being friends- but just friends. And I don't want to lead them on or renew their interest in me by being "too friendly." |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
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clare
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| 06/05/2009 6:23 PM |
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| I'm stuck in a situation like that right now. I like this guy but just as my friend. He's thinking alot more than just friends. We want to learn to know eachother but with him already having feelings involved it's hard, because I may find that I don't like him and it's going to hurt him alot. |
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 06/05/2009 9:24 PM |
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| I don't want to be "just friends" but I want to start out friends after reading FYMO, so yeah. |
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David
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| 06/05/2009 9:47 PM |
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Posted By Adelynn on 06/05/2009 5:05 PM
I'm not sure that this is going to help or not, but I'm the girl in a situation like that (a few times over). I really do think that these particular guys are good guys, great guys, and I wouldn't mind being friends- but just friends. And I don't want to lead them on or renew their interest in me by being "too friendly."
Ah, the friends zone. How we guys dread it.
So how exactly could these good, great guys be good or great enough for you to like them?
In fact, why don't you like these good, great guys? |
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JoJo
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| 06/05/2009 10:47 PM |
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LOL also just so the guys know... girls hate the "friend zone" as well. well Iknow I do!
and it does frustrate me that some guys keep me in the friend zone for ages, then, I lose interest and then when they do like me... it's too late...
but yeah...
IDk just get to know her more I guess... I actually don't know how to overcome the friend zone... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Adelynn
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| 06/06/2009 10:21 AM |
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haha hmmm... I really don't know why some guys attract me and some don't. They are great guys, but they are not "my type."
One thing I've noticed, when I think about it, is that they are all focusing on getting married. That's not even on my radar yet. I mean, I'm not against it, but it's not something I'm ready to focus on, so when the big event in a guys life is to be married, it kind of scares me off. Marriage really can be a great thing (so I've heard), but it shouldn't be what a single person is living for, in my opinion. Even when I do get married, I want to be great friends. So, what's wrong with being friends?
So when I know that they are still interested in me, as more than friends, then I get annoyed and try to not lead them on by being too friendly. |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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David
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| 06/06/2009 10:34 AM |
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Nothing is wrong with being friends, except that, often enough, being friends with a girl first is almost a sure-fire way for her never to think of you in a romantic light. The irony here is that being friends first is far superior to not. But many guys learned long ago not to be a girls friend if they want to be a romantic potential. It's quite sad.
Let me ask you this, do you currently date? If you don't, and you plan on not until you're ready to get married, then what you are saying is valid. However, if you do date, I'll have to completely disagree with what you're saying. Dating is, by it's very nature, a pointed activity. It is fundamentally and inescapable a goal-oriented activity, and that goal is marriage. Think about it, dating only ends in two ways: either you break up (lots of pain and psychological damage to work through as a result) or you get married (I suppose you could date perpetually, but that is close enough to being married in practice that I include it under married). You can do nothing but those two things. As such, if you date without the thought of marriage, you're being ignorant and will only end up damaging yourself. Here I am speaking in terms of a general "you," not necessarily you, Adelynn, specifically.
It's always weird and sad to me that the guys who actually want a legitimate relationship with a girl, to love and cherish her for her, are the ones girls don't like. But the guys who are all about fun, and living in the now, and are must more driven by carnal desires (because they are "fun" and "in the now") are the ones girls go for. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
- C.S. Lewis |
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