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caleb
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| 09/17/2008 5:09 PM |
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do girls like guys because of their attitude, fitness, how they look or their popularity and also is it right to date someone who isn't a christian (im not dating anyone i just wanna now wat others think about it) cause somewhere in the bible it say when you get married you should only marry someone who is a chistian/believer in god |
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^^@di$()N
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| 09/17/2008 5:41 PM |
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I believe that the right girls will like the right guys for the right reason. There are girls who like guys for there looks or there status rank, but the good girls will like guys for there personialty, and if they have Jesus in their hearts and aren't ashamed of it. Personally, I will give guys that are consumed with the world and their looks not even a second glance. But the ones that love Jesus more then anything in the world are the ones that truly capture my heart.
My thoughts on dating...hmm...well rule #1- Madison will not become close (let alone officially be a girlfriend) with a young man that does not love Jesus first. I should not be the main focus of his teenage life. Jesus is there for that. (Just throwing this in there, I believe being in a relationship should only bring two people closer for one reason... not for anything phsyical, but to become stronger in Jesus together.) I believe that I don't need a boy that does not know God or put Him before everything and anything. It's just not a good influence. I also think close friendship of a christian guy (that is considered datable) is first. Then if were ready we can committ to each other. I don't want to give my heart to just any random guy, I want to save my purity (not just sex, but kisses, hugs, and holding hands) with my husband.
Yet, every girl has different views on dating. |
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JoJo
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| 09/18/2008 4:38 AM |
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I agree totally with Maddison!!!
I have been tempted to date a non-christian guy, but i had a condition that he had to become a christian first, then i realized that if I told him this, he may become a christian for all the wrong reasons (ie. just to please me) and it wouldnt be real. so dont do that....
I also agree that a relationship should be centered on God, because without him, all we do is focus entirely on each other and might get carried away.
Another thing I learnt from the Sistas conference is that, when you think of doing something, imagine God is there, standing right next to you. He hears what you say and sees what you do, so dont do anything you couldnt do infront of Him or your parents for that matter!
And yes, when we get married, we shouldnt be unequally yoked.
As for the "What kind of guys do girls like..." Id say all types.
There have been times where Ive had a thing for the "badboy's" but it usually doesnt last because all he is is image and doesnt really think much about how the other person is feeling...
But I've liked guys with blonde, brunette, black hair and blue, green, brown eyes. I've liked dancers, singers, guitarists, you name it.
When I was younger, i thought I had only "one type" of "ideal" guy, but your ideal person will be someone who you grow to love and respect over time and their character shines through them, and outward appearance doesnt seem so important anymore.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Julie Fidler
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| 09/21/2008 10:04 AM |
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I just want to encourage you guys not to settle for a non-Christian guy. I know it can be hard to find guys to date that believe in Jesus, but that is one standard you should NEVER lower. You will have so much more in common, and you will already have a connection because you are brother and sister in Christ.
I married a man of God, and I'm so thankful that I did! It really does add something to your relationship that nothing else ever could.
Never settle! You're worth too much to the Lord to settle for second-best!
-Julie 
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JoJo
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| 09/22/2008 12:59 AM |
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Yes! I know I said it in my message above, but seriously, it's not worth dating someone who isnt a christian! Guys, dont date a non christian girl, cuz she, most likely, will cause you to stray away from God. Girls can be pretty persuasive and suductive, so dont truat them as far as you can throw them (in dating, i mean...)
Im a girl, and I know that girls DO figure out ways to wrap guy's around their finger. It's sad but true!
A godly young woman will respect you and herself, enough, to not take things too far, and she will, most likely, consult God on every step in the relationship!
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/02/2008 10:36 AM |
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caleb, as for looks, i go for any. as guys mature, they stop caring about their looks in the sense that 'oh my gosh! i need to have those shoes, that shirt, that hat!' and that's what i look for. is that guy i'm interested in more concerned about how his hair look for youth group or how his heart is looking for God?
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eilla
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| 10/03/2008 8:58 PM |
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Personally, I think that a guy's personality should always come 1st but looks can be o.k. to look for (just dont go overboard). I wouldn't want to go out with an unhealthy overweight guy for fear of having to deal with the hurt of health issues. Of coure, if you get that love @ 1st sight feeling that doesn't matter as much. Also, remember that a great personality will always b #1. Confidece, generosity, listening skills, a passion for God, genuine comassion and all that stuff r very important to me. Good Luck!
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/05/2008 10:11 PM |
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Yeah it does say that in the bible
2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV)
do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what is righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can have light with darkness?
You know how our parents tell us not to go out and get drunk because it's not good for your health. Thisis sort of the same except that it's our heavenly father trying to stop our spiritual wellbeing from getting hurt. I explained this to a friend once using a guy we knew. This guy was a alcoholic and most nights in the weekend he gets 'laid' (according to him...pfft). I said imagine us two going out? and she replied with "you are from different worlds" that is exactly true. His priorities are totally diffrerent from mine. He wants to drink and have sex, whereas I want to help others. I want to live my life for God, and that doesn't include substance abuse.
Ephesians 5:8 (NKJV)
For you were once darkness, but now you are light n the Lord. Walk as children of light.
and to do with what girls look in guys. Some girls look for the stunningly goregous guy. But a true believer in God has an eye for Godly men. I think that a man who is truly dedicated to God is a very attractive feature, because it only proves his love for God. It Proves that whoever he marries will have a dedicated husband. You know what i mean? I hope i'm making sense. I also look to see how he treats everyone around him. Mostly his parents and his siblings (if he has any) because he lives with those selected people day to day. I look to see if he is good with children (cause i want them in the future). But i don't go based on looks. When i get married I want to have a relationship built on God. Because God has shown us love, He is Love. So what's married life without love (i.e God).
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/05/2008 10:12 PM |
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2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV)
do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can have light with darkness? |
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I've Been Spinning Around In Circles, In A Huge Field, Hands In The Air, I Don't Care, Looking To The Sky. I'm Free. Abandoned, Submitted To God. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/06/2008 8:59 AM |
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very well said, nikki! i completely agree.
young men on here: yeah, we want you to take care of yourselves and look nice for us, definitely! and it's vice versa, isn't it? of course! but the first and foremost thing you should be concerned about is your heart, and if that's evident in your life, we'll be easily attracted to that. even if it's just in a friendship aspect.
i have a few guy friends who i'm attracted to, and not in the 'oh my gosh! he's so cute! wow!' way, but in a totally brother/sister friendship manner, because of their relationship with the Lord. i love hanging out with them because i can see His love shining through in their lives.
don't you all [guys AND girls!] want somebody who likes/loves you for your relationship with Jesus firstly, then with how you look on the outside? i sure as heck do!
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/06/2008 7:58 PM |
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Well I know I do!
When you look at all you're friendships and everything that you have it reflects how you see the lord!
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I've Been Spinning Around In Circles, In A Huge Field, Hands In The Air, I Don't Care, Looking To The Sky. I'm Free. Abandoned, Submitted To God. |
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faythe
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| 10/17/2008 12:32 PM |
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you should always pursue a guy that is a Christian, because even though you might be only 16/17 or whatever you need to look towards the future, there is a possibility that you might marry the guy you are going out with and you cannot stay with someone who you cannot share your whole entire life with, including your relationship with God, you want to be able to tell your spouse pretty much everything, and it would not be good if you could not share your spiritual life with them.
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Loved by God,
faythe
~serve wholeheartedly, as if serving the LORD not men. |
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JoJo
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| 10/17/2008 7:22 PM |
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Yes!!! Girls and Guys, only go for someone who shares your faith in the Lord. we shouldnt be un-equally yoked!!
Guys, I cant stress it enough, but DONT go for a non christian girl.I know how some girls have messed up guy's lives, and I wouldnt want anyone to go down that road after seeing the results.
Girls, one of my friends dated a non christian guy, and he pressured her into sleeping with him, (She didnt, but he never stopped asking until she finally dumped him...) and itjust ruined their relationship.
Non christians are more likely to tear you away from God then you are to bringing them to God.
It's just not worth the risk!!
Also, dont just say yes to someone just cuz they asked you out, or because you feel sorry for them, firstly, you just hurt both parties and what'sthe use of investing timeinto something that more often than not, isnt going to work. seriously, pray about relationships and seek God's counsel on them. It's way better to start off on the right foot!
One song that comes tomind is "Mutual" by Verbs. listen to the lyrics. This is what a great Godly relationship should be like.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Hannah
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| 10/17/2008 7:57 PM |
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| Looks matter somewhat to me, and I think that's because I am a bit more visual than girls like guys are visual, I found that out when I read FYWO. BUT if a guy starts talking to me and I begin to like him he'll seem like the most handsome guy in the world to me no matter what I thought of him when he first walked up to me. Also I don't look for just an attractive guy, I am looking for someone who is as strong a Christian as me or even stronger(hopefully) and a man who will be a good husband and father one day. |
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candycane7762
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| 11/04/2008 6:47 PM |
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It all really depends on who the girl is! I mean I have a friend who will go out with a guy just because he is cute! Personally I like a guy because of their attitude and what their actions show them to be like. Of course its an added bonus if the guy is cute/fit! But then again someone who may be cute to me may not be cute to the next girl.
In regards to dating someone who is not a Christian the Bible says "do not be unequally yoked" I know that is relating to marriage but if you hang out with a non Christian thats who you will start acting like. |
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/05/2008 1:05 PM |
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from my personal view as a girl i wood not fall in love with a guy just cuz he was good looking! if i can not see any Godly values in him then i just don't really view him as a possibility
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/05/2008 1:07 PM |
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that is so true that your friends that you hang out with are going to have a great effect on you so if you hang out with ungodly people you will not be able to spiritually grow
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