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JoJo
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| 08/19/2009 3:23 AM |
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LOL thought it was about time we had one of these 
What are your thoughts on long distance relationships and say you want to be in one, what/how would you go about it
any ideas on anything to do with long distance relationships welcome 
lol can't think of any more questions atm 
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 08/19/2009 7:23 PM |
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well, I'm kinda-sorta in one right now? I know I've said on here before that it's not good to be in a "grey area", but it's not like that at all. with my guy friend, we've clearly stated what we want right now, and it's not a serious relationship. we're still just friends, though we like each other alot. but he's going off for missions (YWAM - Youth With a Mission) in Taiwan (I live in the US) for 15 months on September 1st. so starting anything now would just blow up in our faces, we understand that fully. and we know that he could very well meet his future spouse in Taiwan or I could meet mine here while he's gone. with limited communication, we don't want a huge emotional attachment to stop us from pursuing God's destiny for us. if we still have the same feelings when he returns, it's definitely very probable that we'll pursue a serious relationship. but that's, again, 15 months down the road. (I hope time flies!)
so, my advice would be, how serious are you to BE serious? is it just, "yeah, it's cool that he likes me. I like him, too. I guess we could date..." or have you prayed about it alot, talked to your parents, any mentors, close friends, etc.? the latter would be much, much wiser. some long distance relationships work out really well. for me, I'm still young (17) and so is my guy friend (19). 15 months really isn't THAT long, and we've felt led to wait until he has his schooling out of the way to start anything between us. but it's different for every couple. praying and talking it out with those closest to you is the best advice I can give you! |
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JoJo
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| 08/19/2009 10:33 PM |
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yeah exactly and I respect what you're doing Emily it's really cool!
Plus if you can both withstand the distance, and you do end up together, you will have all that trust etc to lean on |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 08/20/2009 4:46 PM |
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| If my bf were to leave for a long time right now it would be so hard on me!! I left for a week to visit a friend and omg I miss him so much even though we txt and call a lot. Anyway, it would be very hard for me to have a long distance relationship, one of my love languages is quality time and spending time with people I live is very important. My sister was dating a young man from the other side of the US and I don't think I could do that...I admire you Emily! I'm starting to realize that I need to come to the place with my God and my Bf that I would be willing to give him up if God should so ask. That is so hard! |
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emilyjanelle
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| 08/21/2009 11:07 AM |
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| yeahh, that's really what it's come down to, Clare. this is my senior year of highschool, and I'm hoping it's gonna fly by, then I'll be going to Missouri for school (www.revolutionschool.com). it's come to, "do I care enough for him (my friend) and love God enough that I'm willing to give it up, though I've waited so long for this, for another year and 3 months? yes." |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 08/21/2009 5:55 PM |
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| AHHHHHHHHHHHHH MISSOURI!!!! haha sorry emilyjannelle. Well my boyfriend's ex actullay moved to Missouri about a year into thier relationship. This started thier "long-distance" thing (Missouri is about 2,000 miles from us). Well....about 10 more months later they broke up. He was 14 and her 15 when this whole thing started. Soo it depends alot on age and committment as was pointed out before |
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Zachariah
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| 08/23/2009 6:32 PM |
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| haha ya i dated this girl for a 1 yr and 10 months (b4 we broke up) and 10 months in2 it she moved 2 missouri which i had down 2 the foot how far away it was and we had plans 4 our future and it was all planned but its just way 2 crazy unless you have a definate plan and are rele close 2 making ur relationship 4ever...just live the life God has put you in cuz there could be some1 right next 2 you you cant live w/o <3 |
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JoJo
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| 08/24/2009 8:18 PM |
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| LOL yeah cuz my parents had an LDR and it worked out o.k. but dad had to wait for years before they could get married... haha but they would have still been together now (mum died a few years back...) so I guess they can work, but you've gotta be in it for the long run |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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continulyjoy
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| 08/24/2009 10:08 PM |
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| To be honest, I think I'd prefer a long-distance relationship. We could talk about convictions, life goals and issues, therefore getting to know what we're made of on the inside instead of what we look like. If that makes any sense. And when we'd be together, it would be that much more special! |
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JoJo
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| 08/24/2009 11:48 PM |
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| LOL that's exactly what I was thinking...for myself like then you don't have all this pressure on you to hold hands/have your first kiss or whatever... though it would be hard not seeing them often... but as long as we were in contact, like emails, txts, phonecalls, it wouldn't be so bad... (especially cuz all the decent guys live @ least 2 hours away from where I live ) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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continulyjoy
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| 08/25/2009 11:42 AM |
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wow JoJo I had some very similar thoughts and just hadn't included them in my reply! LOL especially the part about the decent guys living at least two hours away!  |
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JoJo
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| 08/25/2009 6:08 PM |
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wow JoJo I had some very similar thoughts and just hadn't included them in my reply! LOL especially the part about the decent guys living at least two hours away!
LOL that's cool!
also I had thought that something you mentioned in a previous post about only recently meeting a guy who asked for your email... lol I had the same thing happen to me
or at least, i think it was you who said it... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 08/25/2009 6:28 PM |
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| oh I cant find the topic... oh well... maybe is wasn't you but yeah... all the decent guys live 2 hrs + away my town is a hole and is full of hoodrats |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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continulyjoy
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| 08/26/2009 12:05 AM |
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| haha i don't think it was me but it could almost have been... |
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i live.
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Adelynn
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| 08/26/2009 9:42 PM |
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| I don't think I would like a long-distance relationship much. Quality time is important to me. Plus all my close friends and family I have inside jokes and stories with, and those don't happen as much when it's long distance. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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maddiegirl
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| 08/27/2009 6:31 PM |
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i havent been in a longggg long distance relationship, but i dont really like the idea of it b/c id miss the guy like heck!!! lol but also he could b flirting & doing stuff w/ other girls, & i wouldnt kno about it. that sounds absolutely terrible, lol, but thats happened 2 people i kno. and also things could change & you & him/her might change -- & not work anymore once u get together in person. also, it keeps me a lot more accountable & i think the guy 2 when its not long distance
lol thats just imo tho =D |
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Adelynn
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| 08/30/2009 2:31 PM |
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| That's what happened with a guy that I was "with," we met at a concert and once school started he went back to his regular life and it kind of went on without me. I hate being overbearing and I like my own space, but it's harder in a relationship to not really be in each other's lives |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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LeRohitasha
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| 08/31/2009 4:04 AM |
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I have an interesting situation that kind of fits in this section. (Please feel free to email me with a response at twinks92@hotmail.com)
I really need some advice for this "long distance relationship" thing that is pretty weird.
Spring of this year, I added this guy on myspace and I thought he was cute. I checked out his profile, and he seemed like a nice Christian guy which is something that is super rare at my small school. I never thought I'd be talking to him as much as I did. He first messaged me asking me who I was since he didn't know me, and I told him the truth and said that I just made my myspace and was planning on adding random people for fun because I just normally speak with my friends over here on the phone anyways.
We would shoot each other messages back and forth about the things we liked to do, and just basic introductions. This summer, he was online and I got to chat with him. We chatted for about 2 hours and it was really fun. We chatted again and then he gave me his number and asked me to call him, saying I was "awesome to talk to" and such. To be honest, being 17 and never in a relationship, I was really excited because I never thought that he would say something like that (he's in the same grade as me, too and lives just across the bridge in Washington state).
So I decided to call him, but I did a lot of the things I shouldn't have done that was mentioned in this website. I was not too confident and would say things like "are you sure you want to talk to me on the phone? you might get bored!" Thinking about it now, I'm embarrassed. And even more embarrassing is that I told him things about my family, like the divorce of my parents and having to cut of relationships w/ my family. I wanted to be open and honest, but I think I added intensity to the new friendship too soon. But anyways, the point is, is that I'm starting to like this guy a lot and whenever we talk, it's always a bunch of fun. I never talk to guys on the phone usually because I come from a conservative Asian home and I would be thought of to be doing something bad even though I'm just talking about . . . deep issues, like climate change and just random things =D. I've called him maybe 5 times now in total and each convo varies from 30 minutes to 2 hours depending on how many minutes I have. This doesn't include our conversations online, which have maybe been an hour on average, and we've spoken maybe 4 times that way.
My family would not accept him calling my house just yet because I'm not in a career and self sufficient (hardcore, man!) and I feel bad that he had to tell his father about where he met me (because I called and his dad picked up because he wasn't there, and then he asked me where I knew that guy, and I said "oh, i'm just his friend!" because I was nervous and didn't know what to say lol!!!!). Dude, myspace does not sound cool! The media portrays that it's a place where creepers live, but to be honest, I've met two really decent people by adding friends of friends. In my opinion, it's kind of like a leisure thing and a penpal thing at the same time.
Do you think it's okay to like someone you've never met face to face? How can you tell if they like you, too and if they want to meet you? (and I also know he's telling the truth about who he is, I've spoken with his brother, mother and father before and I've seen a video he made of himself singing lol!)
If you need any other kind of details to better answer the answer to this weird situation, please let me know lol. |
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JoJo
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| 08/31/2009 9:07 PM |
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o.k. right now, I don't have much time to fully answer/read your post, but I will answer it as soon as I have some more time
just reading the end...
yeah, I think it's possible to like someone you've never actually met... i have before
I donno if it's o.k. it depends on the enitre situation... My aunti married a man she met online etc, and they're doing fine, but then it can also go the other way too... so it really does depend
it's hard to know when anyone likes you, unless they actually tell you
17 is still young to meet someone from online by yourself... you should ask a trusted adult about it and see what they say... if you do ever meet the person, meet in a VERY public place and have 1 or 2 other people with you... especially an adult who could look after you if something were to go wrong
(Im 20 and I'd still do that if I were to meet someone from online )
I'll try to answer more soon (seeing as I've only just read the last 2 paragraphs of your post )
P.S. where's David go to? normally he jumps at these posts
and he might know better about these things than me
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 09/01/2009 1:00 AM |
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| I have alot of experience and advice I could give that may help. I don't want to sound gloomy or selfich but my own mind is way to overwhelmed with my own issues to get my thinking clear enough to help someone else..sorry! I'll answer when I'm sane... |
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