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SO1
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| 10/16/2009 8:53 PM |
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okay so, about 2 months ago i started talking to this 1 girl, and i liked her. my parents said i could call her and i even got to go 2 her house, but then my older sister and her boyfriend broke up and now my parents got super protective and wont let me go to her house or even call her....so i have like no idea what to do cause i really like her and i don't understand why my sisters problems are coming down on me and affecting my life...and i prefer talking in real life compared to over the internet which we do everyday...so i want to talk to my parents about this but it seems like my mom is in her mid-life crisis and lately whenever i talk to her now it ends in an argument...so i'm basically asking for any advice, i've been praying about it, and i'm really confused w/ my parents.....if u have any q's about this i'll answer them and any advice is appreciated  |
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Dream big dreams and trust the Planner of the universe to bring you your big love!! |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 10/17/2009 10:05 AM |
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| I'm sure right now your mom is just concerned. She might be realizing that allowing her kids to get into relationships is causing them pain. No mom wants to see thier kids hurt. However, sometimes its necessary. Just go to your mom very humbly and tell her how you feel. Say that you understand your moms worry about you getting hurt or doing bad things, but that you really like this girl and would really love if she would allow you to see her again. Just be very respectful and dont raise your voice - i hope this helps! |
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Ngaio
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| 10/22/2009 1:41 AM |
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Yer that kind of sucks b/c its not really your fault, maybe like mylifehiswill said nicely talk to her and let her know how you really feel about this whole situation and how you feel about her, be mature about it because it will show that you are growing up.
if you are older (like 16+) then you could (after asking your mum) invite her over for afternoon tea or lunch maybe, so that your parents and older sister can meet her
If this dosen't work then just stick to being friends and wait untill your mum is happier with you being 'special friends' with someone because your mum really is just looking out for you because she loves you heaps |
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Nicole
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| 10/24/2009 9:47 PM |
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Well, Steven, i have to say that I can feel for you. If i were in your shoes, i would probably be a little confused and maybe even more. I honestly think your mom is just trying to protect you, if not good intentions behind her decision. It could also be that she's trying to be sensitive to your sister's feelings, just after her breakup. As the older sister in my family, sometimes what i do, or how i feel really impacts my mom's decisions about what my younger sister does. To which my sister sometimes responds: "but that's Nicole..." I think i like the idea of you inviting her over to hang out at your house, getting to know your sisters, mom, dad... Other than that, I think it's a good idea to just talk to your mom, nicely tell her how you feel, communication is always good. Umm maybe you could talk to your sister and see how she feels, and maybe ask her to talk to your mom on your behalf?? I say that because my sister sometimes asks me to talk to mom/dad (or someone else) on her behalf if she doesn't have the words to say. (What are big sisters for right?) 
I hope everything works out for you. I will be praying.  |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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SO1
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| 10/25/2009 1:50 PM |
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| hey tahnks for the advice! i finally got the guts 2 go and talk 2 my mom the one night, and we got talking and she said i can call her every once in a while! XD she said she doesn't want me going to her house or her going to my house though cause we're too young, which i totally understand, anywho thanks for the advice!!!! |
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Dream big dreams and trust the Planner of the universe to bring you your big love!! |
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Nicole
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| 11/06/2009 11:42 PM |
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| Awesome! I'm very happy for you Steven! I'm glad it all worked out. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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wolf
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| 06/19/2010 12:30 PM |
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| Do you know if she likes you back? |
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