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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 12/02/2009 2:22 AM |
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Posted By Adelynn on 11/28/2009 8:02 PM
hmm, think of it more this way:
"Need-love says of a woman 'I cannot live without her'; Gift-love longs to give her happiness, comfort, protection- if possible, wealth;"
Which love do you think you have for this girl?
Need-love certainly has its place, even in a marriage- but can you give her the things she needs? Society says that love is enough, but emotional love really isn't enough to make a commitment last. If you truly love an care about her, you'll do whatever will be best for her, whether that means marriage or breaking up and never speaking to her again.
I want to give her what is best for her, so, gift-love. In my eyes, I am but a speck, I don't create a change in the world, I haven't truly yet. I don't matter greatly, nothing she has done is truly signifigant worldwide, but to put simply she is everything but a speck in my eyes.
I will not die, if she leaves me permeantly. I CAN LIVE without her. I CAN'T live WITHOUT THINKING about her. It would hurt to not speak to her again but if it prefented any longterm pain from her, her friends or her family, I would.
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AllieRay
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| 12/02/2009 10:29 AM |
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Ok dude, you have a few problems here.
1) i totally agree with David. Chill Out (or as we say in southern Ohio Chillax!) take a deep breath and seriously and rationally think about this. your 14. you have atleast 4 years till you graduate highschool, and if you go to college, at LEAST another 2 years after that. you have your WHOLE life ahead of you. as my dad ALWAYS tells me "Dont wish your life away"
2) you said you could see yourself marrying this chick. again, you have your whole life ahead of you. chances are good that you will meet someone else that you like a lot, just like this girl.
3) heres my advice. im with Adelynn in that i would never set my friend up with a guy that i liked. and this is gonna sound mega brutal, but she might be trying to get you away from her. i dont know if you flirt or whatever, but if there was a guy that liked me and he was always trying to talk to me, he was always watching me and trying to do stuff for me, but i didnt like him, i would probably want to get him off of me too. like i said idk if you do that or not, you seem like a very mature guy, but thats just what i got out of reading your posts. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Ki-ol Mi-ck-Co-rd
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| 12/02/2009 2:20 PM |
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Posted By AllieRay on 12/02/2009 10:29 AM Ok dude, you have a few problems here.
1) i totally agree with David. Chill Out (or as we say in southern Ohio Chillax!) take a deep breath and seriously and rationally think about this. your 14. you have atleast 4 years till you graduate highschool, and if you go to college, at LEAST another 2 years after that. you have your WHOLE life ahead of you. as my dad ALWAYS tells me "Dont wish your life away"
2) you said you could see yourself marrying this chick. again, you have your whole life ahead of you. chances are good that you will meet someone else that you like a lot, just like this girl.
3) heres my advice. im with Adelynn in that i would never set my friend up with a guy that i liked. and this is gonna sound mega brutal, but she might be trying to get you away from her. i dont know if you flirt or whatever, but if there was a guy that liked me and he was always trying to talk to me, he was always watching me and trying to do stuff for me, but i didnt like him, i would probably want to get him off of me too. like i said idk if you do that or not, you seem like a very mature guy, but thats just what i got out of reading your posts.
1) I know, I need to chill that is one om my problems. I also know I have a long time - I said it in my other forum (Probably shouldn't have made two)
2) I am aware that this could happen. It hasn't, I choose to dwell on now not later. Sometimes I do dwell on the past, but that doesn't matter now.
3) I don't flirt... anymore. It is possible she read me. OR, she didn't know I was interested - She hasn't thought about it and her friend was truley interested. I don't know, it seems less likely that she is psychic. I don't know what the "Ocam's Razor" here is, it depends on how clear it is to her, that I like her.
I'm not sure if I should ever even mention it to her.
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