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Jimmy
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| 11/29/2009 3:54 PM |
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| Can we clear this up? There is no STANDARD. Everyone is different and everyone thinks different. Hollywood is great for entertainment when you are bored, but lets not go overboard with them dictating on how you should look. Maybe we can post here what makes girls attracted to certain guys here? Maybe this will help with some self-esteem issues?
As for me I generally go for what I used to be or what is close to me. I'm 5'9, but I was like four foot nothing till the end of my junior year of high school. Therefore I have found to be heavily attracted to short girls (I can relate). I do not like heels on girls. I like girls staying natural and not trying to change anything major (such as a breast job). I like to feel like I can wrap my arms around her and hold her. I'm big on shy and less talkative girls. I'm skinny and in order for me to not be skinny I have to work out. If I skip a day of working out I lose a whole lot of weight. If I work out without eating a lot I lose a whole lot of weight. I do eat like crazy I just have an extremely fast metabolism. I haven't been too into really short hair on girls, but I have friends who find it very attractive. I was raised to be independent so the girl I'm looking for is someone I can actually take care of. I don't mind cooking or cleaning. I'm a very organized person and I'm not one to live in a mess comfortably. I love spending time with a girl and I love receiving that time from a girl. Touch and time = me.
I'm highly attracted to exotic attributes. I love diversity! A British accent on a woman can be a deciding factor for me with initial attraction.
So what are everyone elses thoughts? I have friends that are totally opposite of me and are attracted to the exact opposite. |
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Scifi
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| 11/29/2009 4:30 PM |
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| Interesting points, I agree with the stuff at the top- I don't like girls going out of their way to look unnatural. I prefer to see a girl as God created her, blemishes and all, or I wouldn't get to know her as God wanted me to get to know her. |
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"The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life." -- James L. Christensen
"For a small reward, a man will hurry away on a long journey; while for eternal life, many will hardly take a single step." Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471)
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Rose
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| 11/29/2009 8:19 PM |
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| Jimmy- You don't know how amazing it was to read your post. There are so many times when I feel like guys only like one type of girl... you know- the outgoing, funny, flirty kind. So it's refreshing to hear that it all guys are different. And the same goes for you guys- the one I'm attracted to is usually totally different than the ones my friends are attracted to. I prefer the calm, sweet guy. One of my friends is attracted to the one that will charm her to another land. Another of my friends likes the funny one that can make a joke out of any situation. AND... looks are the same. While I'm attracted to brunettes, some of my friends like blondes, and some like redheads. EACH GIRL IS SO DIFFERENT. Please, please, please just love God and be yourself and I guarantee you, there will be some girl that comes along that will find you attractive. |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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Rose
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| 11/29/2009 8:21 PM |
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| Oh, and another thing Jimmy-- Please don't feel like you have to work out every day to get a girl. Spend the time when you would have been lifting weights reading your Bible instead, and God will bring you the girl of your dreams. :] |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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David
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| 11/29/2009 9:31 PM |
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| Rose, I'd like to believe you, but I have yet to meet any girls who don't like the flirtatious, funny charmer. Also, I have yet to meet any girls who are physically attracted to anything other than six feet or over with dark hair. Further, I've yet to meet the girl who would choose the chunky guy over the muscular guy, even if the chunky guy was a better person. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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AllieRay
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| 11/29/2009 10:23 PM |
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David,
i just wanted to say that like rose, i'm not attracted to a guy who flirts with a bunch of girls. yeah i want him to charm me and be funny, but a serious turn off for me is if he flirts with lots of girls. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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David
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| 11/29/2009 10:45 PM |
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| "Flirtatious" doesn't necessarily mean he flirts with a lot of girls. It could mean exactly what you describe you like: he flirts with you. Let me ask you this, AllieRay, what is a guy to do if he is a fantastic guy, would make an amazing boyfriend/husband, but just isn't very good at flirting or being funny around a girl he's not already dating? Or, what if he is one of the many guys who just isn't gifted with humor? |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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clare
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| 11/30/2009 12:34 AM |
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Everyone has some kind of humor!!!!Sacrasctic, dry, loud, rude, clownish, flirty, everyone has some kind of humor. Yes girls do like guys who flirt with them but when it gets serious, those are just friends, she doesn't want the guy that is attractive to everyone. I think that goes for guys too, they like being friends with fun girls, but when it gets into serious liking they are more particular.
For me, I am attracted to quiet, shy guys who aren't the first to vioce an opinion who read and love the outdoors and who doesn't expect the wife to have a job, a man who puts God first, and very importantly, a man who accepts me for the way I dress and look. I rarely wear make up, my hair is long and no fancy highlights or styles, and I wear skirts because they're pretty and comfortable and modest. So I want to find a man who doesn't harp on me for "being plain and a country girl". All my brothers are over 6 foot and dark and very handsome, so naturally I like dark guys, and I am 5'4" so I like tall guys. But it's not a big issue! And I hope the man God brings me will have a heart for helping other people, I love serving.
Maybe I'm just a weirdo David, but I did choose the very chunky guy. He was tall but not dark and not muscular! true we aren't dating anymore but it was deffinately not because of his looks. You often bring up the issue of what if a man doesn't have a sense of humor or just isn't funny. Do you feel you are that way?
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Scifi
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| 11/30/2009 1:45 AM |
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| That last sentence of yours is exactly what I was thinking, Clare. |
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"The purpose of Christianity is not to avoid difficulty, but to produce a character adequate to meet it when it comes. It does not make life easy; rather it tries to make us great enough for life." -- James L. Christensen
"For a small reward, a man will hurry away on a long journey; while for eternal life, many will hardly take a single step." Thomas a' Kempis (1380-1471)
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clare
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| 11/30/2009 2:42 AM |
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| I'm not trying to corner you David, I just keep picking up that you think you really lack in the humor area! maybe not... |
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Adelynn
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| 11/30/2009 8:33 AM |
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a guy who flirts with me will initially get my attention, but I've found that the guys who are expert at flirting are usually expert at it for a reason- and that I can't necessarily trust them to not flirt with a bunch of other girls and not just me (In my experience). The guys who don't flirt with me but just talk with me like a friend I trust so much more. The thing is, the guys who are so amazing, who treat me like a person who matters and not an object, are usually taken.
And I've always been attracted to shorter guys. Seriously, over 5'9 is a turn-off for me. This sounds so cheesy, but I want to be able to lean on my guys shoulder... and so he'd have to be on the shorter side... =D |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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David
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| 11/30/2009 10:26 AM |
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| To answer your question Clare, of course I think that, haha. I think I mentioned that once before? I don't know. I grew up with a brother who was extremely funny and who girls just fell head over heels for in droves, whereas I was never very funny and couldn't get a girl to even look my way. However, my thinking that isn't the only reason for my bringing it up. It simply helped me realize the problem, so I bring it up not just for me personally, but also to address a much larger issue. I don't know if that makes sense. |
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clare
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| 11/30/2009 12:13 PM |
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Ya it does. I know what it's like to live in the shadow of a "perfect" sibling. My older sister was friendly, sweet, helpful and everyone always commented on her while I was clumsy, blunt, not very sociable, or friendly. It wasn't until she was 21 and I 18 that I got over the fact that I'm not expected to be her, but myself. (I'm slow
I don't know of any guy that is totally humorless! I know a few that are very close, but even they can sometimes get everyone to laugh now and then. My older brother is extremely quiet and very serious, but he has the most amazing wit and humor, while my other brother says "he just sticks his foot in his mouth".
You seem like someone who is a reader, deep thinker, and loves learning and writtng. Maybe? No one can say without knowing you personally, but I really doubt you are dried up, boring and can't laugh at all. If you know how to laugh then you cartainly can make others. I laugh at what you write sometimes, even when I know you are dead serious, it cracks me up anyway! |
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Rose
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| 11/30/2009 12:52 PM |
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| David-- You said that you've yet to find a girl that's attracted to the more quiet, serious type. But many of the girls who post on this site, including me, are saying that they're drawn to precisely that type of guy. Although they may be rare, they're certainly not extinct. |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
~2 Timothy 1:7-8 |
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clare
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| 11/30/2009 3:38 PM |
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| Lets hope they aren't extinct! |
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KelseyLiza
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| 11/30/2009 4:52 PM |
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David, I thought I should tell you that I have really enjoyed your posts and I've actually found you to be quite funny! In fact, was showing my sister a couple things you said and we both thought you sounded like my older brother who is "Mr. Funny Guy" and is very entertaining.
I don't think it's so true that girls like funny guys as it is that they want "their guy" to be able to make them laugh. This is how I am. I am not necessarily attracted to funny guys, and the guy I like right now isn't generally considered to be so, but he makes me laugh, and that's really what I care about. Does that make sense? |
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Jimmy
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| 11/30/2009 10:44 PM |
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Thanks Rose for your comment on my post. I appreciated that. Hah, and the working out thing does more for me now. I don't like doing it (takes discipline like martial arts), but at the same time it brings me confidence, makes me feel much more energized (I work in a cubicle all day), helps relieve stress, and it's overall great for your body!
And David the reason you haven't met them is because sometimes you have to find them. The cool thing about girls is a guy can grow on them. |
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Jimmy
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| 11/30/2009 10:46 PM |
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| And by grow I mean they are very observant and start to analyze situations and how their future might be with a particular guy. That's why it is good to not screw up because one mistake can kill your chances. But if you believe God will bring the perfectly matched woman to you. |
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clare
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| 11/30/2009 11:33 PM |
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I never thought of that but it's true, guys do certainly grow on us. I wouldn't say if you blow it once you're lost for ever, but like with anyone if you let them down or hurt them it takes time to heal. No one is perfect and we all will fail
I think girls make it sound like they want he funny guys and are interested so it makes guys feel they are expected to be that way. I jsut wish I knew more serious quiet guys who aren't exerting themselves all the time to be funny,
You sound like my brohter Jimmy. He is very thin and was bemoaning the fact that he "got the thin hair from mom's side, and the inability to have any kind of muscle from dad's side" we had to laugh, he can't gain a pound or earn a muscle no matter how much he tries! |
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Jimmy
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| 12/01/2009 12:34 AM |
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| He can gain muscle he just will have to eat like crazy and maintain a beneficial diet. Protein shakes aren't bad. I have about seven small meals a day. |
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