CowCud1992
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| 01/07/2010 10:48 PM |
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Well i feel kinda Cliche asking about the same topic as every other person here but here it goes . Well as you can tell im new here. This here is my first post! Ive replied a little but it seems this place is empty. (in other words no replies back)
Anyways, i met this girl about a year ago and over a summer camp called Shasta we became really great friends. For a really long time we just remained friends but over the months of hanging out all the time i started to feel a strong affection for her. I just really care about her and i want to spend more time together. We have an absolute blast together everytime we hang out and im getting a vibe she likes me too. Were really close friends so my question is, should i jeapordize a friendship that is so great to pursue her and maybe have a relationship that is more than friends? Thanks guys! God Bless! |
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Liz
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| 01/08/2010 1:19 PM |
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Well, how old are you? If you're under the age of...say 18, I'd definately say wait a while.
But... If you really feel you're mature enough to start a long-term relationship, and you feel like you could marry her someday, then I say talk to your parents, or a close adult friend, before you talk to her. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Roelize
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| 01/09/2010 7:58 AM |
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I have the same problem at this moment but all I know is that whenever I was great friends with a guy and we started to date and it didn't work out we couldn't be so close friends again... Just something to think about |
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Ian J.L.
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| 01/09/2010 10:43 AM |
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| I told one of my friends I liked her but she told me she just see me as a close friend or brother nothing else then it all went back to normal so I guess it deppeneds on the person |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/09/2010 3:19 PM |
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Im seventeen and a junior at Rancho Buena Vista High School in Vista, CA. yeah i see where you guys are coming from. I think im going to go for it. I been thinking about it and praying about it and if i don't then i think i will go crazy. you know what i mean? I think im going to go on a double date with my buddy and his girl. Any good double date ideas? |
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Nicole
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| 01/09/2010 6:53 PM |
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Hey go for it!  You never know what'll happen. Even if things don't turn out the way you expected or hoped, she'll (probably) appreciate the time you took to actually ask her out. Double dates are an awesome idea! I would say go out to eat somewhere that's not expensive; maybe go see a game at your school (if you have sports games that is ) or you could go to the park and have a picnic and go roller blading maybe? The beach is always fun too I live about an hour or so from the beach where i am in Mentone, CA Sometimes the best hang out place is at someone's house- order pizza or take out, and play a bunch of games |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/10/2010 8:23 PM |
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| Those are some great ideas thanks!!! I will be sure to try some of them out thanks a bunch! Well now i have another delema. I really am going to ask this girl out but i can't do it in the next two to three weeks because of finals and ive got a lot on my plate. I was wondering if i should like let her know somehow that i like her and i want to go out but i can't right now. The problem is what if she doesn't want to? If i should tell her what should i say and how should i go about doing it? Its scary and the thought of it makes me instantly get butterflies and get extremely nervous! |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/10/2010 8:23 PM |
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| Those are some great ideas thanks!!! I will be sure to try some of them out thanks a bunch! Well now i have another delema. I really am going to ask this girl out but i can't do it in the next two to three weeks because of finals and ive got a lot on my plate. I was wondering if i should like let her know somehow that i like her and i want to go out but i can't right now. The problem is what if she doesn't want to? If i should tell her what should i say and how should i go about doing it? Its scary and the thought of it makes me instantly get butterflies and get extremely nervous! |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/10/2010 8:23 PM |
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| Those are some great ideas thanks!!! I will be sure to try some of them out thanks a bunch! Well now i have another delema. I really am going to ask this girl out but i can't do it in the next two to three weeks because of finals and ive got a lot on my plate. I was wondering if i should like let her know somehow that i like her and i want to go out but i can't right now. The problem is what if she doesn't want to? If i should tell her what should i say and how should i go about doing it? Its scary and the thought of it makes me instantly get butterflies and get extremely nervous! |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/10/2010 8:24 PM |
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| woops didn't mean to post twice. XD |
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nateynate
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| 01/11/2010 8:18 PM |
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| Dude go for it. If it doesnt work out then sorry. But you dont want to look back and be wondering "what if..." that is the worst feeling ever. But good luck. Now this is off topic but dude thank you for being from south cali ha i have not seen anyone else on here from southern california. I was starting to think i was the only one haha |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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clare
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| 01/11/2010 8:25 PM |
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| Go for it! I hope things go well for you. I've never gone on double dates so can't help you on that one. Hey you guys are ate least on the west end of the US. I don't think anyone on here is from my area. I'm two states north of you. |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/12/2010 1:17 AM |
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| Well at the moment i am completely nervous out of my mind! I am pretty much awaiting the girls reaction to my hint tomorrow. So pray for me guys. if all goes well i will ask her on a date!! OMG! yeah i was thinking the same thing Nate. Everyone is so spread out on this website!! Where in southern CA do you live? I live in Vista in San Diego! Clare do you live in Washington? I went there over summer and it was awesome! Wich me luck guys. Im SOOO NERVOUS. whatever god has planned. i will go with the flow |
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nateynate
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| 01/12/2010 10:56 AM |
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| good luck man i live in san marcos ha i actually go to mission hills haha |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
Enter Your Gates |
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Liz
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| 01/12/2010 3:23 PM |
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| You know, you guys shouldn't really share all that personal information. One of us might be a stalker. (maniacal laughter fading in the background) |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/12/2010 8:26 PM |
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| I know but its not that personal though. hey if anyone wants my social security number just hit me up! joking. Nate thats hilarious that you live so close! and everything went well im going for it most definitely! yeah man yeah!!!!!! |
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CowCud1992
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| 01/12/2010 8:26 PM |
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| I know but its not that personal though. hey if anyone wants my social security number just hit me up! joking. Nate thats hilarious that you live so close! and everything went well im going for it most definitely! yeah man yeah!!!!!! |
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TessyKate
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| 01/12/2010 9:11 PM |
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Hey, Jst thought I would add my opinion here My guess is that seeing as she has been so comfortable with hanging out with you for so long - that she is actually holding out for you to make a move??! I rescently reconnected with a guy that I have know since I was 1 and 4 mths ago we met up again (Im 18, he's 23). Anyways, we hang out all the time with groups and are always in contact with each other. I haven't made a move because I personally believe that it is a man's job to pursue and initiate the progression of the relationship - anyway, after 4 mths of thought he is finally making a move and it feels great!!!
So, give it a go. Be sincere and honest about your feelings for her. Make her feel like the most incredibly important person in your life. Committ the situation to God and I am sure that it will all work out according to his will for both of your lives!!!
God Bless, Tess |
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Trust in the LORD with all of your HEART!!! |
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TessyKate
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| 01/12/2010 9:11 PM |
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Hey, Jst thought I would add my opinion here My guess is that seeing as she has been so comfortable with hanging out with you for so long - that she is actually holding out for you to make a move??! I rescently reconnected with a guy that I have know since I was 1 and 4 mths ago we met up again (Im 18, he's 23). Anyways, we hang out all the time with groups and are always in contact with each other. I haven't made a move because I personally believe that it is a man's job to pursue and initiate the progression of the relationship - anyway, after 4 mths of thought he is finally making a move and it feels great!!!
So, give it a go. Be sincere and honest about your feelings for her. Make her feel like the most incredibly important person in your life. Committ the situation to God and I am sure that it will all work out according to his will for both of your lives!!!
God Bless, Tess |
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Trust in the LORD with all of your HEART!!! |
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TessyKate
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| 01/12/2010 9:15 PM |
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| Oh and Jst to add to the geographical discussion.... I live in New Zealand!!!! lol |
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Trust in the LORD with all of your HEART!!! |
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