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Becky
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| 01/16/2010 11:04 PM |
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so theres this guy and he practically worships the ground i walk on(p.s. MAJOR TURNOFF!!)and it really quite annoying. our mutual guy friend has told me that he talks about me constantly when they hang out(p.s majorly uncomfortable!)and it is really rediculous. he has a friend who is really nice, but on a lesser level has the same issue(i dont think he talks about me though) and again, it is unattractive when a guy is all googoo over you. atleast for me i want to feel like he is equal, not if i told him to jump off a cliff he wouldn't think twice...my friends call them my fan club. but heres the thing. they are really good friends, it just happens to be extremely obvious they have a ginormous crush on me, so here is my question, why in the world do they like me so much, as apose to a prettier girl?, and how do i make them realize that it is unattractive and annoying? |
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"In the same way let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven"
Matthew 5:16 |
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Billiam
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| 01/16/2010 11:17 PM |
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| for the first question they probably like you for the very reason your asking how do let them know without hurting them. sure guys are attracted to pretty girls but when push comes to shove a personality gets you alot farther. they probably think your really nice. i dont know you but i could guess there are other reasons too. the second question. any way you do it they are going to get hurt. just show them that your clearly not intrested. and if they dont take a hint, you might need to confront them. but what ever you do, dont lead them on |
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Becky
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| 01/16/2010 11:42 PM |
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well, you see, i am starting to get a little desperate. they have liked me for like a year and a half and i have made it obvious that i see them as only friends, but they persist...i dont want loose their friendship but it is driving me crazy....i am currently possibly headed toward a relationship? do you think they would get the picture if i dated another guy?? i just really dont want to say anything because i really dont want to hurt them like that, and if it comes down to it, i will probably deal with it, they understand that i dont look at them that way, its mostly just the irritating me part thats difficult...
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"In the same way let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven"
Matthew 5:16 |
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Billiam
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| 01/17/2010 11:38 PM |
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| yeah well you can try that but if they dont give it up you will probabaly have to confront them.. and if you havent led them on guys get hurt most can move on |
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Adelynn
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| 01/18/2010 9:11 AM |
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| Don't get into a relationship just to get out of this =] Guys are people too and people can be annoying, but it's our responsibility to be kind to everyone. Not give in when something isn't right, but to be respectful. Sometimes it's fun to encourage it, just a little, with little comments here and there- but that isn't respectful to them and it hurts your own image. So as long as you aren't manipulating them, this isn't your problem, this is something that they need to deal with and you can just step back and live your life without them. You know how staying with a guy who does some things that aren't right will only give him the impression that it's okay whatever he is doing, because he doesn't have to change to get what he wants, he can keep doing these things and still get the girl? Giving them attention is only feeding their behavior. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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