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Cerno4500
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| 01/26/2010 5:33 PM |
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Its cerno4500 again and thanks for all the advice on here. I do need
help though. I told my dream girl I liked her last week and she reacted
with the same feelings and more. It was fun for me too, because i
finally got a "yes" so to speak reaction after never giving up and
believing greater. Anyways that weekend I feel like I messed up because
of bad planning and her not being able to go to see a movie with me. we
did plan it, but it was just timing and everything lol. After that
incident part of me felt like everything that we talked about. Everything that we shared personally doesn't matter. She wasn't upset about it. But for a whole week I felt upset about it. Wondering if the feelings are still there. Its all good now. But what can I do and think when I'm feeling this way.
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AllieRay
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| 01/26/2010 5:43 PM |
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Ok. Here is my advice for what it is worth! I think if she isnt mad about it you are good. You know she likes you and you like her. And ya know, sometimes miscommunications happen! Its just a fact of life! So just plan another date with her and move on |
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Adelynn
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| 01/26/2010 9:44 PM |
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I cannot emphasize this enough- ask her!
I know it's hard to know when someone is really upset vs. when they are only holding back, but I know that if I'm upset and even if I'm not ready to talk about it, I appreciate that the other person cares enough about our relationship to get things sorted out. And if I'm not upset about it and have forgotten it, I still appreciate that they care to sort it out, and I know that it must still be bothering them if they have brought it up again, so we can sort through what they are thinking |
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TessyKate
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| 01/27/2010 9:17 PM |
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Hey Hey Cerno4500!!!
So, I recognise this situation lol. I'm thinking (and its just an idea) - that she has probably liked you for awhile. All that time she has been thinking, processing, imagining, dreaming.... about what it would be like if you had the same interest in her. Now that she knows you do, she is most likely feeling a strong sense of relief... but at the same time a sense of worry about how to take the next step forward. She may just feel a tad bit awkward after pouring her heart out to you, in the sense that you now know her enough to hurt her (she has let her security wall come down). So, I just suggest that you show her that you respect her for sharing how she feels about you and your relationship and ask her on an 'official' first date! Talk heaps, don't judge or take too personally anything that she says and make her feel like the most incredibly important person in your life - without being too cheesy!!!!
Anyway, I hope it all works out for you God Bless |
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Trust in the LORD with all of your HEART!!! |
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Cerno4500
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| 01/28/2010 5:13 PM |
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Hey TessyKate
Thanks for the advice =)
Although, How do I let her know that I still like her and care for her. |
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Cerno4500
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| 01/28/2010 5:15 PM |
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| Oh yea sorry I forgot to add this question. When do i tell her I want to be in a relationship with her. I mean cuz we both already like eachother. |
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wjr1991
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| 01/29/2010 9:55 AM |
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Ok, can I call the post just above me, girls? Correct me if I'm wrong, but you basically just did tell her you want to be in a relationship with her. That's kinda the definition of "like," right? I'd say your cards are already on the table. In other words, if you want to officially ask her to be your girlfriend, anytime now would work.
That said, wait for Jo, Emily, Adelynn or the like to second me on that. Just to have a girl's perspective. |
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Adelynn
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| 01/29/2010 5:38 PM |
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| haha yeah Will is totally right (as usual ;-) |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 01/30/2010 7:37 PM |
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| you're stressing out Cerno! I think so far you've done everything just right it sounds like. As far as the bad planning, that happens. If it was just a movie she isn't going to quit liking you. And if you made it clear you messed up, the it's over. If you brushed it off like oops oh well then you'd have more concern for her to not like you! I agree with Will, you can take the next step any time. Good Luck |
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TessyKate
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| 02/02/2010 3:34 AM |
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| Hey... sorry bout the super late reply (I was at Parachute Christian Music Festival here in NZ Umm... so, Im with the others... your cards are on the table and she is probably holding out waiting for you to ask. Maybe instead of just putting it out there, "Do u want to be by girlfriend?"... possibly just start chatting about what you both want from life or something like that and then just drop it in there, "So, we have a lot in common, I'd be keen to get to know each other better on a more official level... what do u think??" Its just an idea!!! Hope it goes great!!! |
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