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tosin
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| 10/06/2008 8:39 PM |
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Hey people...hope y'all gud..
ok,there's this guy,we r family friends and we've known each other since we were 12 yrs old(the guy was 13)...i didnt hear from him for lyk 6 yrs after that cuz we were in high school n yeah we started talkn again,he used 2 send me txt msgs askn how my day was,wishn me a very gr8 day,praying 4 me,n even telln me he misses me when we dont hear from each other for lyk two days n i replied all his texts.I take him as a friend and a big brother not even as a boyfriend,all of a sudden,for lyk one wk now,ive not heard from this guy..the problem now is that i dont know why,is it that he's no longer interested in our friendship or he's just checking to c what i'l do ir what.I've read the book FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY but sincerely i dont understand this part of guys...i dont know what to think cuz i actually miss his friendship but i dont if he even takes me as a friend anymore...in the txt msgs,i wrote nothing that should make him stop talkn to me...hey guys,plz i need ur help so that my dear mind can be at rest...thx for readn
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/06/2008 8:47 PM |
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Hmmm..
Not quite sure in the mind of a male either. But the things that come up in my head is that
1. He may have no credit
2. He's busy?
3. He lost his phone.
I don't know. I don't think that your friendship has just gone like that because he's not replying. He sounds like a cool kind of person. If so just msg him and ask what's going on? Being stright up and forward is the only way of getting a true answer. Becuase it is from Him!! and well yeah. xD An answer from him is better than anything that I can assume. xD
Bless ya. xx |
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I've Been Spinning Around In Circles, In A Huge Field, Hands In The Air, I Don't Care, Looking To The Sky. I'm Free. Abandoned, Submitted To God. |
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tosin
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| 10/06/2008 9:33 PM |
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thx a lot Nikkinikki,i actually thought of ur answers but then i was like is it xpensive to just text a friend but u neva kno,he might actuali not av credt,or be busy...dont u think calln would make him think him afta him or sumthn cuz i read in FYWO that guys need their space..i just need ur advice,infact if u were in ma shoes,what would u do......btw r u on facebk,if u r what ur name there?...thx alot 4 listening |
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/06/2008 9:43 PM |
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Yeah i am but i sorta forgot my passwword haaha.
Uhm, if i were in your shoes.. I'd probably just msg and say
Look i've noticed that we haven't been talking in a while. I was just wondering How you are?"
or something like that, something casual. He doesn't have to reply it's just sorta a message to say "hey i'm still here. remember me?" kind of thing. Just so he knows that you're still his friend. As long as you're not over doing it and sending a msg every single day then i'm sure he won't mind that. He is a guy though and i'm stil having trouble trying to understnad some factors in their mind but they are human and i suppose that can be an advantage do both of us (male and female) we have human needs. He may be going through something, who knows. i'd just ask him whats going on if he's okay and ask whats keeping him from talking to you. Who knows his parents may have taken his phone off of him. |
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I've Been Spinning Around In Circles, In A Huge Field, Hands In The Air, I Don't Care, Looking To The Sky. I'm Free. Abandoned, Submitted To God. |
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Phlooshwaa
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| 10/07/2008 1:19 AM |
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Tosin.
Sadly, Im also in that exact same predicament atm.
I really like this guy, though, and aparently, everyone thinks he likes me back.I messaged him and txtd him for a while and then, randomly. He just stopped replying.
Ieven txtd and asked If I did anything wrong, and that i was sorry if i did, but he still hasnt replied...
Im just hoping to see him sometime soon and ask him in person. but yeah. I dont know what to do, and all i can say is that we're gonna have to just keep praying about it.
If you need more help or just need to talk about it, Look me up on facebook. Godz_girl135@hotmail.com or email...
God Bless! |
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Phlooshwaa
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| 10/07/2008 1:39 AM |
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| btw, it is Jo, not james... |
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tosin
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| 10/07/2008 7:49 AM |
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nikkinikki....i actuali sent him a txt 2dai,not expectn a reply tho...i did that so he can know i still rememba him as a friend cuz he might actuali be in some bad situation...thx girl
phlooshwaa...im glad 2 hear dat im not alone on this...k i think u should call him since u said uve only sent msgs..u neva know,he might not av credit 2 reply ur txts...u should call n i hope it goes well,tk care |
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/07/2008 10:13 AM |
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to both of you beautiful girls, one word: RELAX!
haha, but really. we, as women, tend to over-analyze everything. man, do we! i'm speaking to myself on this, too, ladies. [if you've read my lasted posted topic, you'll understand, haha.]
honestly, just try not to think much about it and leave it in God's hands. more often than not, it's probably just family issues, their phones aren't working, or something of that nature. it's hardly ever what we make it out to be, right?
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maddiegirl
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| 10/07/2008 6:50 PM |
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| id say meebe hes been busy - when im busy i usually dont answer my messages, mebbe theres something wrong with his phone,thats happened 2 me b4. just calm down and be patient.its tough but u can do it. |
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/08/2008 12:02 AM |
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totally.
We do over analysis evrything!!
I may make a facebook now. =]
who knows? lol. xD |
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tosin
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| 10/08/2008 8:01 AM |
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| hey ppl.i think we're actually meant 2 relax cuz the situation might not b the way we're thinkn it is....the guy im talkn bout replied the txt i sent 2 him on monday n he was lyk he has exams this week so he's been busy with his books...and i called as well, so i dont thnk we should overanalyse things really...i now understand |
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tlah
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| 10/10/2008 1:54 PM |
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Hi,
I have not bought this book. I am an old guy, who mentors young men in University and High School in England. I am from Pittsburgh, PA. I was meeting with three guys in a group for three years and the conversations were funny, amazing, and insightful. All three guys were at very different emotional places. One guy was so in touch with an amazing variety of feelings, he was very courageous and gentle at the same time. Another guy who was the most musically talented young men I ever met and was a woman magnet, girls threw themselves at this guy almost every day. He wasn't at all interested in girls, he was wrestling with other stuff and wise enough to wait for the one for him. The other guy said the first year that he really didn't know if he had feelings in any way, he was never angry, sad, jealous, etc.. At the end of the 3rd year he had come alive.
My best advice for anyone spending time with men is to help them to identify and develop an emotional vocabulary for what is happening inside of them. Most guys can get to anger, what they can't get to and readily admit, is sadness, insecurity, inadequate, jealously, bitterness, fear, etc....But once they start to come and understand this stuff, they really develop and have a vocabulary for what is going on inside of them.
I am ordering a handfull of this book to give tothe guys I am working with in Uni in England.
Tim |
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tosin
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| 10/12/2008 9:30 PM |
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thx for your contribution Tim...what uve said about guys is actually true.i read that in the book FOR YOUNG WOMEN ONLY....it will be a very good idea if the guys can also read this book:FOR YOUNG MEN ONLY,so they can get 2 know what actually goes on in the mind of girls..
God bless you |
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