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David
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| 02/21/2010 4:32 AM |
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well i am still single my last try ended badly. I would reallly like to get into a relationship but every time I try i seeem to fail i would like to know how to really get a girls attention. |
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Adelynn
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| 02/21/2010 10:16 AM |
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| the guys explain this so much better than I could... |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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rachel
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| 02/21/2010 3:02 PM |
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well, a guy gets my attention by being nice to people, ya know? i mean a little kindness really does go a long way and when i see a guy being sweet and inclusive to everyone it makes me want to be around that kind of guy. actually it makes me want to be around that kind of person in general. also, study her (and i dont' mean in like a stalkerish way). i mean if you like a girl, study what she likes, because every girl is different. just get to know her as a friend, know what makes her tick and what makes her melt. because thats definitely the key. just cuz one girl likes one thing doesn't mean a different girl likes the same thing.
i think thats the best i can think of right now....dont' worry bud, it'll work out. eventually the right girl'll come.
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"The difference between involvement and commitment is like a eggs and ham breakfast: the chicken was involved-the pig was committed." |
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David
Posts:57
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| 02/22/2010 5:16 AM |
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i am tired of waiting,but i will try what u said and i know all girls are different. But remember guys can only take so much disapointment also. |
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Adelynn
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| 02/22/2010 8:31 AM |
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but, I will try.
Why are you looking for a relationship? Sure they are fun and exciting- but so are friends. Being friends with lots of girls sets you up to learn what you want eventually in a wife, to learn about different personalities without becoming really good at just moving on when you decide it's "not working," which is only practice for divorce. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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artist_for_christ
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| 02/23/2010 10:27 AM |
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| Be friendly, and nice- don't jump to a relationship more then friendship until you feel that the two of you are ready. And if you want to get extra brownie points, ask her Father's permission to date his daughter. But I would recommend being a good friend first and become someone who is worthy to date. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
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maddiegirl
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| 02/25/2010 11:14 AM |
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well, to impress me, and i'm a girl (duh, lol), be a good friend before you start anything romantic. i know awesome guys in the past have freaked me out and made things awkward because i'll be thinking we're friends, and he'll be thinking we're more. so, become friends first, it makes things a lot easier.
umm, don't force her to do anything physically. be a gentleman, like hold doors open for her, etc. that really impresses me, in today's culture. don't just talk about surface-y, superficial things, try to have some deep conversations. that's all i got right now, hope it helps!  |
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if uturnchic
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| 02/25/2010 7:38 PM |
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To impress me, a guy had to be kind. I want him to include everyone and not shun anyone (because i know how it is to not be included). Also, I want a guy with an awesome walk with God. I want to be able to come to him if I need ever want to talk about spiritual things. Also, a guy that is funny. I love it when a guy is himself. If you have to pretend to be someone your not to impress a girl, then she isn't worth your time. The one that God has for you will love you for who you are on the inside.
I also agree with maddiegirl. Don't try to go too fast. I have had guys do that, and I got freaked out. Just become really good friends with her, and get to know her a little more. Be nice to her. Compliment her (real compliments all girls like them). And try to have a serious conversation instead of a goofy one, and she will respect you more.
Hope this helps you out. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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AllieRay
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| 02/26/2010 10:02 AM |
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| This is how a guy impresses me: Be manly, gives me compliments without overdoing it, he lets me do stuff on my own, but when i ask him he will carry stuff for me. He holds open doors for me. He doesnt brag on himself which is one of my hugeee pet peeves. He is really sweet and loves to talk to me. There. There is my advise. lol |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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dqchristian
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| 02/26/2010 12:25 PM |
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| Hey, I feel your situation (in more ways than one; my name's David as well!) From recent experience, what everyone is saying on here seems to be true. |
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"Life is not a matter of holding good cards, it's playing a poor hand well."
Let’s stop trying to FIND the right match and instead BE the right match. |
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David
Posts:57
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| 02/28/2010 4:17 AM |
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well guys i am not fast into a relationship i did try on one for a year and a half,two i am always a gentleman but to all the girls not just this one and three........my name isn't really david.So is there anything else i can try. |
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clare
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| 02/28/2010 6:08 PM |
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How old are you? I love asking that question and maybe God doesn't want you in a relationship. I am becoming the pro at failed relationships, and I'm realizing that God doesn't want that for me now! Just I do... |
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Elaina
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| 02/28/2010 6:22 PM |
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Hey, bro, I feel for ya! I can totally understand wanting a relationship - sometimes I find myself DYING for a guy in my life!
First off, I think the best way to impress any girl is to just be yourself. Any girl that becomes impressed with you acting in a way that isn't really you, doesn't love the real you. I mean, I know there's room for improvement in all of us - but I think you should just be yourself and be happy with yourself. I think that's probably the #1 thing I would find attractive in any guy!
However, I think you're asking the wrong question. I think that constantly looking for a girl in your life is only going to lead to heartache. I mean, you said you came out of a relationship with someone else, right? That means you gave a part of you heart to her. I don't believe just giving your heart to girl after girl 'till you find your wife (the person to whom your whole heart belongs) is the answer. I believe that God has designated someone to be your wife - and until you meet and marry her, you shouldn't give your heart to anyone else.
I know this is hard and somewhat radical - I mean, we're teens and our hormones are raging and we want a girl/guy in our life NOW. But it all boils down to this: do you trust God or not?
I will be praying for you and I hope this helps you!
Elaina
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David
Posts:57
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| 03/01/2010 3:02 AM |
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well guys i am 15 and in year ten. I like drawing,danceing,and acting plus i am always myself |
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dqchristian
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| 03/01/2010 11:44 AM |
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| Yeah I agree with Elaina because of recent events. I, like you, had been searching, but it just got too stressfull (especially since all I ever heard was "No" not even a maybe). Anyway, I'm just trying to learn how to be a good friend to girls and not worry about dating, though I still look forward to it. |
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"Life is not a matter of holding good cards, it's playing a poor hand well."
Let’s stop trying to FIND the right match and instead BE the right match. |
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AllieRay
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| 03/01/2010 12:49 PM |
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| wow dqchristian.. You need to teach a few guys at school a lesson or two. Guys really cant get it drilled into their heads that some girls would rather br just friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. Its soo annoying! And I agree dating will be very fun when we are ready but most of the guys that have asked me out, are So NOT ready.. at all. They dont know how to treat girls, they dont know how to even be mature at times. Like I said it is so annoying. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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clare
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| 03/01/2010 1:49 PM |
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| And they are soooo sure they're just fine and want to know what you're reasons are for saying they aren't ready then they go around saying how they were so gentlemanly and mature and you treated them like crap and abused their deep heartfelt feelings. That makes me so mad! I am realizing that you can't make an immature person realize they aren't immature!! |
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luke
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| 03/01/2010 3:37 PM |
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| I have a question. What exactly does it meen to be, "READY"? |
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Luke 6:48, (THE MESSAGE) "If you work the words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who dug deep and laid the foundation of his house on bedrock. When the river burst its banks and crashed against the house, nothing could shake it; it was built to last.
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AllieRay
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| 03/01/2010 4:39 PM |
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| Obviously "ready" is defined differently to different people, but to me, being ready to date is being mature enough to 1) know how to treat the other boy/girl, 2) being mature enough to know what in a relatioship is right, and whats wrong and 3) knowing when to let go, when to hold on, when to fight for something, and knowing when to let it fly. Does that make sense? |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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clare
Posts:932
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| 03/01/2010 11:14 PM |
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Ready...Does he have a job? How strong is he in his walk with God? Does he get me to do what he wants by down playing or playing up my emotions? What is his attitude toward those in authority over him? Does he have any bad habits such as porn? Does he spend time praying and searching for God's will, not his own? When things go his way does he face it or turn angry and run?
I realize I'm not just saying when a man is ready to date, but get married also.
Right now my ex got really PO'd at me, I told him to please don't mess with a girl and just wait on God and please stop doig porn, and sent me a really really hurtful, scathingly mean, painful email saying how stupid and worthless I am. He thinks he has been so used and I threw him away and he was the best man in the whole world. I am really really angry and very hurt. but it goes to show this man was not the man he should have been. And he wanted me to marry him. I'm so glad I didn't, but he is not being a man and is blaming it all on me. I guess that's an example of someone who wasn't really ready. |
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