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clare
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| 03/14/2010 11:24 PM |
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Since I am living at home I have to ask my dad to do anything with a guy! If I'm at work (I'm there several days of the week night and day) i don't ask dad and will meet a guy friend for coffee or hang out awhile. I can't even go on "fun dates " without having to ask dad and having my dad have a sit down with the guy.
The first guy who ever asked me to date asked if we could go out and do something and maybe go eat. I never go asked out before and looked at him dumbfounded and said "what? why?" he was so nervous, and I left. Later I texted and said I don't just hang out with guys alone like that. It wasn't until his sister in law texted me that I realized he was asking me to go on a date. (a month later we did start dating)lol |
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Grant I.
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| 03/14/2010 11:55 PM |
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Posted By **Jes :-) on 03/14/2010 9:26 PM
ha ha!! i was hoping for a coffee if it was worth $0.02!! LOL!! no just joking!;-)
Haha Well, I'll tell ya what, if you fly here to KS from wherever you live, I'll buy you whatever you want at your choice of coffee shop here in town. But...you have to ask your dad first. LOL 
Clare, that's hilarious, but I bet he was so nervous and shook up by your response he was about to explode!!! What? Why? Oooohhhh nnnnooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!! LOL
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Adelynn
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| 03/15/2010 9:57 AM |
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| yeah, I'm living at my parent's house while I work part-time to pay for the night classes I take. I've been looking at places to move, but I'd rather pay off college, since I can, instead of have that hanging over me, along with everything else. So, while I pretty much take care of the house, I'm also rarely around when they are, and I don't do a run-through of my day, like "today I did this and I met this person and then I went here..." because I don't even think that way! So my parents don't really know the people that I'm not close too, as in they maybe don't even know they necessarily exist, so it's strange to suddenly throw out "Oh, by the way, there is this guy I met a couple months ago and he wants to hang out..." because they don't know anything about him! So then I get grilled on him whether it's a date or not and I hate that. Which makes me not want to tell them at all, even though if I'd told them about him when I was introduced it wouldn't have been a big deal, but how should I know I should tell them??? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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artist_for_christ
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| 03/15/2010 11:35 AM |
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Update: So he came to visit me at work two weeks ago and that was the last time we talked. He bought me a plant and said that he really liked me. I invited him to come to my church's first college group service and he never showed up. I texted him that day asking if he was coming and he never responded. I think he's been lying to me because a few weeks ago, he told me that his cellphone had been stolen as well as his laptop, but if his phone was stolen, how would he have gotten my cellphone number since I didn't text him? So I think that he's ignoring me knowing that he's not getting anywhere with me (if the only reason for talking with me was to sleep with me). I honestly don't care because if he doesn't see me as a wonderful, godly woman that's his problem and he's not worth wasting my time over. I recently got a new cellphone and didn't even both putting his number in and I un friended him on facebook.
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
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clare
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| 03/15/2010 2:23 PM |
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ha, I've done that to a few guys. Un friended them on face book or threatened to block their number. I'm glad he kind of disappeared before anything happened !! it proves he was ..just a jerk...
@ Adelynn, if you're parents aren't really involved in your friend life, then it will be really awkward or weird to suddenly say "oh dad this guy wants to date me, talk to him will ya.". I suppose if your parents are really wanting to know who your friends are you could talk to them a little more. Might save on some of that grilling! I'm not sure how to do that.haha I've mentioned to mom very briefly about those of you of FYWO that I facebook and she forgot them all I think. If she knew the extent I talk to some of you she might croak. Her worse nightmare is meeting people online and having them be a scam. I guess I think I'm doing her a favor not telling how much I talk to some of you. maybe.? |
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Grant I.
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| 03/16/2010 12:43 AM |
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| Thanks for the update! Uh huh...sounds like he was "one of them." Too bad for him, good for you for watching out for it and guarding yourself. |
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artist_for_christ
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| 03/16/2010 1:33 PM |
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| Thanks for being so supportive everyone. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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**Jes :-)
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| 03/16/2010 5:39 PM |
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Posted By Grant I. on 03/14/2010 11:55 PM
Posted By **Jes :-) on 03/14/2010 9:26 PM
ha ha!! i was hoping for a coffee if it was worth $0.02!! LOL!! no just joking!;-)
Haha Well, I'll tell ya what, if you fly here to KS from wherever you live, I'll buy you whatever you want at your choice of coffee shop here in town. But...you have to ask your dad first. LOL src="/DesktopModules/NTForums/themes/_default/emoticons/wink.gif" align=absMiddle border=0>
oh come on give me a break! do i really have to ask my dad!! maybe you should ask my dad!! LOL!!! ha ha!! gotcha on that one!
but that does sound like fun going to kansas!!
anyway i gotta go! finish work and go to church!! ttyl |
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clare
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| 03/16/2010 11:02 PM |
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| I love coffee, but if I ever go to Kansas Grant, I'm going to get a ride on your crotch rocket! please |
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Grant I.
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| 03/17/2010 8:55 PM |
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Jes - Nope, no breaks! I'm a hard man. LOL Yep, gotta ask him. Nah, you were the one insinuating that you wanted a coffee. I didn't offer it. You ask him!  Haha J/K It's a good place. Ain't much to look at most of the time, but golden waves of wheat as far as the eye can see doesn't happen just anywhere, and it's awesome!
Clare - Nope, just coffee. Gotta do some work on it first. |
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Adelynn
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| 03/17/2010 10:01 PM |
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| I feel so vulnerable under Kansas skies, as though a huge bird could come and pick me up and fly off with me in its claws... it scares me. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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**Jes :-)
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| 03/17/2010 10:26 PM |
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| ya you sound like a hard one!! LOL!!! no just joking;-)) thought it'd give you some practice for when you are going to ask your girlfriends dad!!ha ha!! no i'm not going to come out there for a coffee. don't worry! do you get a lot of snow there during the winter? or no snow at all? cuz i seen you like going boarding! i love it too! haven't had much time this year tho but it's gr8! |
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Adelynn
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| 03/18/2010 12:35 PM |
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| Lauren, good for you for deciding that! It can be so hard sometimes to completely give something up like that- for whatever reason it's especially hard to give up guys. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 03/18/2010 3:39 PM |
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@ Grant, what happened to it now? you didn't wreak it again! I'll take the coffee, but id rather the ride. You don't have to go over 80 like I was begging
@ Adelynn, know what you mean! I love the mountains around here, whenever I go somewhere where there's just flat land...I feel like someone is watching me.lol ya why is it so hard to give up guys!!
The mountains are shutting down their lifts in a few weeks and it's free the last week. I'm giong to go up there every chance I get! |
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Grant I.
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| 03/19/2010 1:16 AM |
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Adelynn - Hahahaha! You crack me up! I've lived here 21 years and never heard of that happening yet. Just think...out here, you can see danger coming a mile away, and prepare for it! Have you been watching too many Lord Of The Rings battle scenes?
Jes - Thanks for the offer, but I think I'm gonna have enough trouble asking her dad that a practice run won't help matters. haha! We don't get much snow here usually, but we got hammered pretty good several times this winter. It varies alot. The only boarding we do here is hanging on to a long rope behind a 4X 4 vehicle riding in the ditches, or over tiny jumps we make. LOL We go to Monarch Mountain, CO. My bro lives about 45 min. away right now. It's awesome!!!
Clare - Nothing really...need to replace my fork seals and top off the fork oil, get the valves adjusted, new drive chain, and new tires. Haha What's the use of having a rocket if you never go over 80? 140's as fast she's galloped, and she kinda scared me. 8-) I won't be doing that again anytime soon. I'm actually kinda skittish about giving rides these days. Last summer one of my friends, a really sweet 16 YO girl was killed while going on a bike ride with another guy in TX during the youth fellowship meetings. If I kill myself, fine. I couldn't live with myself being responsible for a girl's death.
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artist_for_christ
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| 03/19/2010 2:14 PM |
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Posted By Grant I. on 03/14/2010 4:19 PM
Nervous! A girl's protective dad is any guy's worst nightmare, at least if he doesn't know him. LOL I used to hate the idea of that policy of having to ask her dad first, and I know that many people don't do that anymore, but the older I get, the more I say it's a good idea.
Grant, I don't know how many guys would want to have "the meeting" with my dad. There is a tradition at my church with the fathers on staff or a deacon, where the boy has to come have "the meeting" with the dad of the lovely daughter and when they do, Dear Daddy hides something under the desk. When The Boy is finished asking to date Lovely Daughter, Dear Daddy pulls out a shot gun from under his desk and tells the boy that if he does anything to Lovely Daughter, The Boy will be held personally responsible and will be shot, killed, and buried or thrown to the bottom of the ocean (since LI has the sound on one side and the great south bay on the other which both lead to the ocean).
My youth pastor was found polishing the gun on the front porch when his daughter's best guy friend came to pick her up for prom.
One of the deacons walked into the room with the gun, using it to point as he told his daughter's boyfriend that he wanted to take the boyfriend to check out some property upstate.
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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Grant I.
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| 03/19/2010 7:09 PM |
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Hahaha that's great! I'd hate to be on the receiving end, but I am SO gonna do that if I ever have a daughter. LOL It's just too bad that I'll have to go through it before I can do it! Now I really wish that guy would have come to ask your dad, because then you'd have a great story to tell us!
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clare
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| 03/20/2010 1:46 AM |
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Dad always threatened to do that but so far he hasn't. I'd strangle him if he did. He knows it's scary enough. Nope Grant don't do that to your daughters. That's only for the men that aren't intimidating and are trying to look like they are. One look at my dad and you know you don't mess with him or play any games. He will beat you up with his own two fists if need be. And the need did almost become...
Well I know it's not as scary as it is for the guy, but for the girl meeting his mom and sisters is terrifying! The one guy had a very scary mom...the other didn't. whew! |
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Adelynn
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| 03/20/2010 10:47 AM |
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| When my dad first heard "Cleaning this Gun" by Rodney Atkins he started laughing so hard... =] |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Rose
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| 03/20/2010 11:30 AM |
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| My dad isn't quite that intense, but before a guy can take me out on a date he has to come over for dinner with my family (My sister's poor boyfriend was shaking when he arrived for dinner that first night!). I used to think this was a crazy rule, but now I'm glad for it. If a guy is willing to have dinner with my parents watching his every move, it's an indicator that he really likes me. |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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