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David
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| 04/14/2010 5:24 AM |
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over ayear ago i was rejected by a girl. Since then i have still tried to flirt with her. On the last school holidays i made a promise to myself i would stop with this (obseesion) and find someone new. But every time i see her a part of me still yerns for her. How do I make it go away. |
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David
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| 04/14/2010 6:58 AM |
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| p.s. please forgive spelling |
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dqchristian
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| 04/14/2010 12:10 PM |
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| I really wish I knew as well... I got rejected yesterday by one of my friend girls (who, thankfully, is still a great friend). I suppose the best thing to do would be to pray about it. |
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"Life is not a matter of holding good cards, it's playing a poor hand well."
Let’s stop trying to FIND the right match and instead BE the right match. |
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Liz
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| 04/14/2010 9:44 PM |
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God could be using this as a way to draw you closer to Him!
How about each time you see this girl or think of her, try saying a Bible verse you want to memorize, or say a prayer for a friend or family member. Something to take your mind off her and put it on God.
Remember: God's power is made perfect in weakness!! (2 Corinthians 12:9) |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Christina
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| 04/15/2010 2:40 PM |
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Ok so there is something that I thought of in the middle of the night last night when i couldn't sleep.
Something that I was going through and I see a freind going through spurred this, Maybe it'll help.
"Sometimes, the best way to get through to the other side of something is to go straight through it, get into it and get dirty. If you try to go around it, avoid it,, it is always slower, and usually you don't know when to let go, and you keep going in circles.
Something that I did in dealing with my ex, was everytime I thought about him, I would pray about him. That he is doing ok, is happy ect... It helped me get past those feelings, and now when I do see him, I see him as just a friend. |
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Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will recieve the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
James 1:12
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Adelynn
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| 04/16/2010 8:04 AM |
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Liz has a fantastic suggestion!
I can't list how many times I've gone after what I wanted, only to have it be the worst thing that could have happened. The times I give it back to God, though, telling Him that I want this, but only let it happen if He also wants it, He has done the most extraordinary, amazing things! |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 04/17/2010 6:22 PM |
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Christina is right on! it has been months since i broke up with my ex...and I wonder if I'll ever get over it!!! He is dating another girl and I called him the other day...glad I did cuz it reminded me WHY i broke up with him...I start to remember all the good points and forget the really big issues!!! When I think of him...I'll pray...but here is an interesting think to think about...
When trying to get over someone..some times the best thing to do is NOT pray for them. YA! It could be different for each person. But if you keep praying and praying for this person, in a way you still feel a connection or a kind of bond with them. For the first few months it helps to pray for the person when you think of them. But then comes a point where you need to leave it all in God's hands and stop praying and move on.
I'm having a hard time getting what I'm thinking out how I want!!!! LOL I hope that kind of made some sense and not too confusing  |
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David
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| 04/20/2010 4:14 AM |
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| But next year i am going over seas with a group of kids from school and shes in it.it will drive me crazy. |
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Liz
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| 04/20/2010 12:18 PM |
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| Well...if you're wanting to take drastic measures...you could just not go. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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JoJo
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| 04/29/2010 9:37 PM |
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well, i donno, start thinking of her as just your sister, dont think about her in any other way than you would your sister.
I had to do that with a guy I liked who ended up getting himself another gf cuz he thought i wasn't interested... it takes a while, but now i can have an honest convo with him, and I only see him as a great guy friend.
I really know what it's like just wishing you could move on...
listen to "Wishes" by super chick. awesome song.
Pray and ask God to help you to only see her as your fellow sister in Christ and to take these feelings away and only bring them back if it's His will that they come back. (bare in mind, this can take a while. took me about 6 months)
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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