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Alura
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| 04/18/2010 6:16 PM |
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| My friends and I used to try not to follow the crowd - we were sort-of "extremists." Basically, the rule was to be as different as possible, which usually meant being as wierd as possible. I'm trying to change and be more normal (not necessarily following the crowd, but not specifically trying to be strange), but my friends aren't. They follow me aren't and embarrass me in front of the boy that I like (one pretends to tell him that I like him, and literally goes so far as to hit him, claiming that she didn't know that he was there, and then giving me a pointed look to let me know what she just did). Sometimes I wonder if this ruins my chances with just about anyone, because my friends seem to try to send everyone away. Like I said, I'm trying to break away, but they literally follow me everywhere and act drunk (purposely).
Jon (the boy that I like) seemed to like me back, but I think that my friends have scared him away with all the wierd things that they do.
I guess what I'm trying to ask is this: Do guys get nervous and stay away from a girl, even if they like her, because of the people around her?
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Christina
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| 04/19/2010 3:26 PM |
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Ok so I know I'm not a guy, but maybe I can help a little bit.
I think a guy definitelly takes who you hang out with into consideration. Because it shows what kind of person you are. And how you act when you aren't specifically with him.
But I think you also need to take a step back and look at your friends. If they know you like him, and are doing this purposely they aren't really respecting you or treating you the way a friend really should. It sounds like you need to really talk to your friends about the way they are acting. Because they aren't acting like true friends from the way you are talking.
Now I am not saying drop them, because obviously friends come before a guy always. But as long as this boy isn't getting in the way, or ruining your relationship then you need to get this thing with your friends figured out...
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Adelynn
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| 04/19/2010 8:41 PM |
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| I think it's so cool that you aren't conforming to either everyone or caving to pressure from your friends |
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nateynate
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| 04/19/2010 11:14 PM |
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| I wouldnt really call them friends anymore if this is how there treating you. Real friends are gonna accept you the way you are. And to answr your question, yes for somepart guys are gonna stay away at first if your friends are being messed up and making it unpleasnt around. But if he starts to like you more and things start to work out, then he probably might deal with it for so much. But i am warning you, to much and he might just leave unfortunately. But good luck with your friends though. |
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rise up you sleepy soul
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Alura
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| 04/20/2010 7:07 PM |
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Thanks for the advice. Any ideas about how to carry that out? I know that if I try to be serious with them, they won't take me seriously and will tease me more.  |
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JoJo
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| 04/29/2010 9:31 PM |
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sometimes, if friends wont change and be mature and get over how they're acting, you have to dissolve friendships...
I've had to do that a few times. it's heart breaking, but you're better off in the long run.
I mean, it's not all about yourself, but you have to be able to live each day without worrying about stuff and be at peace. maybe just say something like "look, Im sick of how you're treating me, and quite frankly, if this continues... I might not actually want to be around you guys if all you're concerned about is hurting me and making my life hell." |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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