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**Jes :-)
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| 06/05/2010 11:26 PM |
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| how can yo tell how a guy feels about something? i had to kinda discuss something with one of my friends. sorta concerning what he was doing. and i tried to do it in the most polite affirming way. but i don't no how he feels about it! i asked him how he felt about it, isaid that i new men didn't like to admit if they felt hurt about it or something like that, but i said it was ok for him to admit to it. it didn't degrade him as a man. we talked more about things but i coldn't get heads or tails about it how he felt?????? any suggestions?? |
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Grant I.
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| 06/07/2010 12:59 AM |
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| Sometimes you just can't. As for myself, if someone said something that hurt me(I'm pretty sensitive about that), and asked me if it did, I'd tell 'em exactly what I was thinking and no less. If it was something that kinda chapped me, but not a huge deal, I'd just say it's ok, and walk away because there's nothing more to say. If there's no hurt, I'd just tell someone that everything's perfectly fine, don't worry about anything at all! You do need to realize that I think guys generally take longer to process feelings than girls to to come up with an answer or conclude how they feel about something. So...don't expect a guy to just have an answer right away. Guys like me will tell someone something when we're darn good and ready, and not a second before. That said, if a girl we like tries relentlessly to drag something out of us, we'll probably say, but probably not very happily. IMHO, you've said your bit, maybe casually ask him sometime later, but otherwise, wait until he wants to talk. That's just the view from my side. In other words, if you want to know what he thinks, let him know, then don't just pester him over and over about it, and if he wants you to know, he'll tell you. If he doesn't, he won't. |
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Miana
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| 06/07/2010 2:33 AM |
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| and i think it depends on the guy. I have several guy friends that are like brothers to me. Some admit they were hurt, or angry other's just shrugged. If they're comfortable with you and trust you completely(like one guy, who's my best friend) he'll admit when he's angry or hurt or things just aren't going so well. I had to tell this guy to be careful about something, I asked to be honest with him and he said yes. So I plunged right into it, it took him awhile to see my point. But when he did, he agreed with me and thanked me for having the courage to tell him. So, yeah it all depends on the guy...though I'm not a guy, I'm just speaking from experience. |
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**Jes :-)
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| 06/13/2010 3:57 PM |
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| ya that is what i tried to do, i told him my side of the story and i told him that i had told him my side now it was his turn. and i also asked him how he felt about what i had said. if he felt hurt about it. i said it was ok for him to admit to it, it didn't make him any less a man if he admited to it, cuz i no men didn't like to admit to it if they felt hurt. but he never said anything(the whole story was in regards of him{long story}) and i later on asked him how he felt but he never wrote back so i thought fine! guy i have opened the door, i was willing to hear your side of the story and you didn't say anything so anything that is on you part you will have to deal with it. cuz i was willing to hear it. but he never said anything. now it seems good tho he'll comment on facebook. so hopefully it's all good then |
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**Jes :-)
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| 06/13/2010 3:59 PM |
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| ya thanks for answer grant! you always seem to hit the nail. wish all guys would be so up front and honest about things! but then guys would pry turn around and say i hid to many things to!!;( someone once told me i did.... |
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