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| 10/17/2008 9:14 PM |
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i have always had this idea in my head that i would save everything for marriage (sex) or serious dating (kissing, hugging) . and it was easy to follow, because nobody really pressured me into anything. but now it's getting really harder. my crush just put his arm around me in the movies and held me real close, and i actually craved more. it just made me relaize, if it we got closer.. heat in the moment thing, i probally would have done things i would regret. im not so sure how strong i really am now, you know? i really like this guy, and sometimes i think id do almost anything for him, even if he is a godly guy |
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JoJo
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| 10/17/2008 9:48 PM |
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hmmm yeah, I know that feeling. you just feel so awesome when they hold you. but i think a big thing you can do is put up restrictions, talk to him about your limits and agree that you wont go past them and then, dont step over your limits.
I've even had the feeling that Id move 9 hrs away from where I live,just to be close to this one guy. but Im glad I didnt now, because it would have been so weird. Never compromise your morals and values for a guy!
I thought if I didnt do something for him, I'd lose him forever, now, looking back, I realise that when I let it go and gave it over to God, I felt way different about the whole relationship. I didnt feel likeI needed him by my side 24/7 anymore or that I even needed to hear him say my name.
I'd much rather work on the friendship first. that way, im not giving my heart to every guy who shows interest. I was going insane not seeing him, or hearing him etc, but giving it over to God helped so much!!
Maybe make it straight, that you really want to have a great, strong relationship with him and that to do that, you need some set of rules to follow. tell him, you want to love who he is first by getting to know him alot better, before anything else, and if he's a christian, you want God to be in the picture and be the glue that holds you two together.
I hope I could help. feel free to message me if you need morehelp, or someone to talk to  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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faythe
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| 11/04/2008 9:16 PM |
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hoky i know exactly what you are going through!!!
i am in the same boat, i have huge tempations all the time with my boyfriend, especially when watching movies and stuff...
im having a hard time b/c we both have the temptation to kiss alot and it might be because we are getting more physically close..
i've been thinking a lot about talking to him about redrawing our boundaries because im having a really hard time keeping my mind pure and stuff.
I thought i would do anything for him, but now that im there, i am almost regretting going this far (even though there has been nothing 'wrong')
soo ya, im going to pray about it some more, and i think that would be a good thing for us all
God bless!!
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Loved by God,
faythe
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