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**Jes :-)
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| 11/05/2008 12:46 PM |
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What do you do if there is someone you love and your family thinks he'd be the right one? but it doesn't seem like you get must response from him sometimes but then next time i'm not sure. we're both sunday school teachers in the same church. we often hang out during sundays and we often see each other during the week at church and sunday school meetings. what i see in him is his love for the Lord and passion for other people. and so often in discussions if we will both speak our minds we'll have been thinkingthe same thing...how do you no???
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wjr1991
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| 11/05/2008 2:06 PM |
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... You wait. I think the phrase "True Love Waits" is true in more ways than we normally use it in. We normally put it only in the connotation of waiting for sex... but then, I don't think that's really what Paul was referring to when he said "Love is patient". Unless you want to jump the gun, you really don't have that many other options- you can wait, or you can make the first move... and I think you've already agreed elsewhere that that's not a good idea.
How do you know what? If he loves you in the same way in return? Well, if he loves you enough, he'll make the first move- or he'll be waiting for something before making that move. Guys always have a reason for not making the first move- it could be an utterly lame reason (like, we chickened out), or it could be that we see something you don't, or we could be waiting for something... (like, we know that we're going to different colleges and don't want to have to split up for a little while over that... or we're waiting for an opportune moment to surprise you).
But that said, do you really want to know without him telling you? Certainly there are libraries full of books on how to read body language, or tell if it's likely someone has a crush on you. But why would you want to know? I seriously don't get why- certainly it'd be less risky if I knew a girl was in love with me before I made a move... but that takes the adventure out of it- it's a risk, and that's one of the reasons it's fascinating!
So, I suggest you earn a Ph.D. in patience :-) |
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Amethyst90
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| 11/05/2008 3:42 PM |
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That's a cool reply, wjr1991  Very enlightening...we girls just get impatient sometimes...idk why. I guess we just really want to find our dream prince..lol But, anything truly desirable usually requires patience, and it's worth the wait! But, you're not alone, Hylda...all of us girls feel the same way at some point, so I'm so glad that we have FYWO to help us better understand these boys! lol |
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JoJo
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| 11/05/2008 10:37 PM |
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yeah it is hard. I felt the same way earlier this year... now, after not seeing the guy for a while, Ive realized he wasnt the right one. but that's another story. If i had told him how I felt at the time, i have no idea what would have happened, I might be in a relationship heading for the rocks etc. but yeah. sometimes our heart lies to us. It tells us we are in love and it's the only time we've ever felt like this and somehow it's different this time. what we need to do is rather than jump the gun, look at it logically. in a book called "Bloom a girls guide to growing up" it says check your motives for why you want to become exclusive. do you feel like you'll lose him if you dont, are you trying to get at someone through the relationship etc. none of those are a good reason to start a relationship. (and here I am sounding like dr phil) lol. a real relationship is looking to marry someone, it's not so you can feel awesome and see how much the person can do for you, it's about making them happy and loving them no matter what happens (sickness etc.) but dont be illogical about decisions cuz some guys take advantage and then start demanding stuff from you. it goes both ways, they make you happy and you make them happy.
I dont know what else to say... I hope i made my point though... Im a bit confused myself lol
hope i could help! God Bless! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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Mwah XOXO
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Julie Fidler
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| 11/11/2008 7:44 PM |
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Know how I knew my husband was "the one"? He was the only guy I'd ever dated who DIDN'T make me question things, and didn't give me a gnawing feeling in the pit of my stomach.
When it's the right one - I know it sounds cliche - but you WILL know!
-Julie 
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Whbit
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| 01/04/2009 3:35 AM |
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Will- I observed that that must be your name.  haha Anywho, that was really uplifting and very well said. Thank you. Its funny how you read something completely random on the internet or in a book or see in person or hear and it wasn't the person's intention for it to help you necessarily. But I think its cool that somehow it fits sometimes and works. Anyway, thank you. |
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