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M&M
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| 11/07/2008 12:52 PM |
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Ok sorry the title is probably a little confusing but don't worry, I'll elaborate.
So, I'm 14 i go to a public high school, in my honors geometry class there's this guy, Garret. Who has the biggest crush on me, today he gave me a note telling me that he loves me.  Besides the fact that i don't like Garret at all, hes Mormon, and I'm baptist. I have NO desire to date him, plus he has way different beliefs than me and that's one thing I'm NOT going to compromise on.
I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16, and I'm fine with that. I don't see the point in dating until something could actually come of it. But there's this guy (Joe) that i REALLY REALLY like who goes to my church, and he likes me a lot too. Its been like this for a year now, and its only gotten better.  We have not gone out by our selves, but when ever our youth group goes on an event somewhere, we treat it like a group date. I've told Joe about Garret and he's taken it pretty good. He knows i don't like Garret but he's still a bit protective when ever I talk about him. Garret knows that I have a boyfriend but he's still crushing on me. So my question is how do i tell Garret of back off nicely, and keep Joe's trust?
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DaughterofEve
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| 11/07/2008 9:54 PM |
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Wow! Hard.
Maybe you can send Garret a note saying that "No offence or anything, but I would like to kindly ask you to stop sending me these notes. I don't feel comfortable when you do, and I don't accept them in the way you want me to."
I would do something like that.
If not, I would tell me parents. You know....... get old dad or someone to talk to him. That should settle it. |
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JoJo
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| 11/07/2008 10:26 PM |
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| yeah it is hard. maybe make it really obvious you see him as only a friend and nothing more. Maybe get your bf to tell him as well, then he'll realize you mean business. if worst comes to worst and he keeps bugging you just tell him "Look I tried to be nice but you're not listening, please just leave me alone." and if he still wont listen, ignore any further attempts he makes. Guys get bored if you dont play along... |
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wjr1991
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| 11/09/2008 3:44 PM |
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Well, assuming you come from a "normal" family, I'd say you should ask your dad to be your "Secretary of Boys"... like, if a guy is interested in you, they have to pass an interview with him before you "even consider" him (acknowledging the possibility that you may well already have the wedding planned)... then you don't have to worry about it- and any time a guy gets up the courage (or foolhardiness) to ask you- you direct them to your dad. (Then you run home and tell him what you think of the boy, so if you aren't interested, he either can't pass, or does so well that your dad tells you that you should reconsider.)
So yeah- that's my first advise... because really, only a dad, mature older brother, or pastor has that kind of care and knowledge for you to use... and the dad's got the most/best.
Otherwise, I know you might not like this, but be pretty straight with him. But remember, he's 14... he's got a lot of hormones- and probably a bunch of friends who've figured out that he likes you... he's probably not going to take no for an answer the first time, unless you so totally decimate him that you'll want to kill yourself... so you don't say "No, I could never like you!", you definitely could level with him on the "I won't date someone who has a different religion.", which is not bad- and opens the door for witnessing to him, which is good to do anyway... but you don't want to convert him because he likes you, especially because it'll leave a bad taste in his mouth for Christianity, and Christians... and you probably don't want to do that. (Hey- I don't want you to do that either.)
So if you must deal with it yourself, what I'd recommend is that you tell him that you can't get into a relationship until you're 16, and that if he really loves you, he'll respect that and leave you alone for that time. No, you aren't dealing with his liking you- that's something for him to deal with- you're just telling him that you don't appreciate his attention right now, and you want him to back off for the time being. By 16 he should know you like someone else... if not, he should be mature enough to respect the fact that you don't like him, and take you seriously
Hope that helps- I'm kinda being pressured by my little brother to go somewhere, so I haven't given it a thorough go-over. |
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DaughterofEve
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| 11/09/2008 8:10 PM |
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Posted By wjr1991 on 11/09/2008 3:44 PM
ask your dad to be your "Secretary of Boys"... like, if a guy is interested in you, they have to pass an interview with him before you "even consider" him (acknowledging the possibility that you may well already have the wedding planned)... then you don't have to worry about it- and any time a guy gets up the courage (or foolhardiness) to ask you- you direct them to your dad. (Then you run home and tell him what you think of the boy, so if you aren't interested, he either can't pass, or does so well that your dad tells you that you should reconsider.)
That's exactly what I'm going to do when the time comes.  |
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