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05/01/2011 6:59 PM
Yes it sounds vulgar but I honestly have a legitimate question about it. Is it actually a sin to engage in oral sex with my girlfriend? Or is it just frowned upon a lot by Christians? If it is actually a sin, can someone give me some scriptures from the Bible to for reference? I would like to see where it says it is in the Bible. I know it sounds horrible to engage in oral sex before marriage, but is it really wrong? I mean, it's not sex and its in between kissing and sex. Since sex is actually listed as a sin if it is before marriage I can understand why it is wrong; however, I do not recall seeing oral sex listed as a sin.

JoJo

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05/02/2011 7:18 AM
ok well, I will have to go and actually look up the verses as I cannot remember exactly where they are etc... just fyi, in the times the bible was written, there most likely was no such thing as oral sex... i think it's a new thing, ie this past century or maybe the one b4... idk, i dont study such things much... paraphrasing from what I can recall in my mind about what the bible says about it... it says "if you think it, it's like you've done it" and I think the oral sex thing falls in the same category as lusting after (and having those thoughts) about someone who is not your spouse. cuz I bet, you cant actually have oral sex without all those thoughts etc. it might not physically be the act, but it mentally is... and spiritually is.... it also says to not put yourself in situations that are going to push you furthur down the path towards "sinning" like if you dont wanna sleep around b4 marriage (just as an example), you dont go and put yourself in a dark room, alone with said person and are both under the same blanket.... once hormones get going, it is really hard to stop them. but I'll get back to you about the scriptures, once I've found them haha. it also comes down to a thing about "soul ties" and even something like kissing can cause them to bind 2 people together. (not that kissing is wrong... but it's like the first step down the road.) also, have you heard about something called "the relate show?" Pastor John Burns knows alot about these kinda topics and he might have something on it somewhere... I think their website is therelateshow.com but I cant remember... and you also have the oppertunity to submit your own questions for answers. just because I haven't actually studied the oral sex thing alot, haha. and it's not exactly a question you bring up to a trusted older christian, cuz then they think it's you who is debating doing it haha.so I, myself wouldn't bring up the question to them hope someone else has something else to say on the subject while I research scripture haha

Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out 'Cause you won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live .-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-. God Bless! Mwah XOXO JoJo

Rose

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05/02/2011 4:48 PM
The way I see it is this: every intimate act that takes place between you and your girl/boy friend is another thing that won't be special to you once you're married. The more you save, the stronger your relationship will be with your spouse. This includes kissing, oral sex, heavy petting, and even saying "I love you." Like Jojo said, each of these things makes you two feel closer than you actually are. Physical intimacy is a liar: your emotions are telling you that you're really close to the other person, when in reality (when you take away all the physical, sentimental stuff) you are not. The Bible doesn't say anything about drug abuse. One could argue that because the Bible doesn't specifically mention drugs, getting high is totally fine. However, we know that God was opposed to drunkenness, and since the two have similar results we know that God wouldn't want us to do drugs. Also, the Bible never once mentions the word "intercourse." It is always referred to as "sexual immorality." And since oral sex is a sexual act, we can infer that when the Bible forbids sexual immorality, it is also speaking against oral sex. Here are a few verses to help you out: "The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God." ~Galatians 5:22-26 "For everything in the world--the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does--comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever." ~1 John 2:16-17 "That is why I say to run from sexual sin. No other sin affects the body as this one does. When you sin this sin it is against your own body." ~1 Corinthians 6:8 BE STRONG! Don't compromise with sin or try to go as close to the line as possible. God promises that when we flee from all forms of sexual immorality, he will bless us richly. "Happy is the man who doesn't give in and do wrong when he is tempted, for afterwards he will get as his reward the crown of life that God has promised those who love him." ~James 1:12

God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD. ~2 Timothy 1:7-8

Posts:137

05/05/2011 10:48 PM
Hey I can't think of anything Biblically wrong with oral sex but I just found this, kinda interesting, http://www.religioustolerance.org/pornea.htm I like it because it shows several different views of the words fornication (some of the definitions even seem to allow pre-marital sex?) not that I really have an opinion on this subject just that I wouldn't be partaking in oral sex before marriage, remember that pregnancies still happen and diseases still get spread with oral.

clare

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05/07/2011 7:20 PM
Well said Rose. The Bible doesn't say "no holding hands." or "no hugging" like Rose mentioned, it says abstain from ALL sexual immorality. Doing oral, you're exposing yourself to someone who isn't your wife, you're lusting, you're creating a physical bond that will be damaging, and engaging in such physical acts creates a wall between you and God. Mom always told me "if it's harder not to do something than to do it, it's probably wrong. It takes a stronger person to say no" once you've crossed a physical line, it will be extremely hard to take it back. Believe me I know. Also, you are not a virgin anymore, neither is she. (assuming you've never had intercourse and you don't need to say) you have exposed, seen, touched, and explored and any purity of your mind, heart, hands, mouth, is gone. Just not having intercourse doesn't make you a virgin. (I hope this isn't too explicit..) how can it be less wrong to penetrate a girl with your hand or mouth than to use your male organ??

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05/12/2011 4:25 PM
@Clare in that first part of what you said are you saying that holding hands and/or hugging the oppisite sex isn't okay? Just wondering...I get confused easily