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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 4:14 AM |
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I thought I'd share some of what I learnt, because I found it very helpful!!
There are some really important truth's in these messages, and I feel that every girl (and guy's can learn stuff too...) should know this stuff! (Guys, just apply it to your situation.... like being handsom and stuff that guy's relate to... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 4:21 AM |
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Identity:
What determines beauty?
70% of young women feel sad, lonely, depressed, shameful, guilty after reading a magazine.
Magazines are MAJORLY photoshopped (says a former model) I didnt even look like myself after they'd finished with my picture, I may as well have been a cartoon!
did you know 5% of women would give up their life to look different? How sad is that!
remember when God created man and women, He looked around and saw that everything was good. Everything! that includes you and I! we were created in God's image, so why should we be ashamed of how we look!?
Don't believe the lie about what beauty is! dont look in the mirror and see flaws!! and dont judge other's flaws, we were all made to be beautiful!
read Ezekiel 16.
God is not afraid of our messes! we are HIS!! God spared no expense on who we are! God says "You are beautiful!" you just have to trust Him! God does NOT make mistakes!
We try to use how we look/our appearance, to make people like us, to gain their approval! We dont need to prove ourselves! God thinks we are amazing!
Think of how painful it is to God when we betray Him and use what He gave us, to manipulate others and gain THEIR approval!
Our lives shouldn't be about attracting people to ourselves, but drawing them closer to God! we cant let our personality be a distraction! Beauty cannot just be about outward appearances!
Proverbs 31 v 30 says "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; buta woman who fears the LORD is to be praised!"
remember, face lifts do not deal with issues of the heart!
The beauty of our character when we are passionate about Christ, is what should be attractive!
Think about Esther's story. She was beautiful, and that's what got her her possition, but she is remembered for her sacrifice for Israel, and how she saved them, because God had given her the position.
1 Timothy 2 v 9-10 says "I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God."
When we do something, for God, we become beautiful! Think about this too... real beauty come when we are able to forgive others. It also comes with justice!
read Psalm 45
Philippians 4 v 10 says "I rejoiced greatly in the LORD that at last you renewed your concern for me. indeed, you were concerned, but you had no oppertunity to show it."
When you comfort someone who’s hurting, you are beautiful! When you love life, you're beautiful! real beauty happens, when YOU choose it!! You are beautiful when you love the skin you are in! when you are happy with who you are.
Why do we think someone else is better than us? we are, who we are meant to be! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 4:50 AM |
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Being You, and Loving It:
When you believe negative words:
Words bring life and death. You’ve got to break their power over you!
Do not live on second hand revelation, find it out, from God, yourself! Get it first hand! Straight from God’s word!!
Compare everything people say about you, with the truth in God’s word, if it doesn’t match up, it’s not true!!
But how do you believe God’s word over other people?
God’s heart is full of love, you have to remember who God is! He IS love!
Everything He says, is out of love! He only speaks the truth!
If Im not what others define as pretty, how can I feel good about myself?
Read Psalm 139.
Ask yourself “Who do I allow to speak into my life?”
When I look at myself, I don’t like what I see. My friends look better, so how do I see myself as beautiful?
What are you good at. Think about it? Have you got it? Good! Now, listen. Talents are gifts God has given us. You need to learn to unwrap the gift that you are! Don’t look back on where you were, look at where you ARE going! Don’t compare sideways either! We each have our own problems and issues to deal with and we all have our own abilities!
How do I find who I am? What makes me special? How do I find me?
Firstly, we aren’t just flesh and bone! We also have a spirit and a soul! When we look after ourselves in all aspects of our lives (body, soul, mind and spirit.) we begin to realise who we are. God places desires on your heart. Your dreams and aspirations are what make you, you! You find out who you are by diving deeper into who God is! Stay true to your dreams, don’t box yourself in from others expectations! Don’t make others happy at the expense of yourself! You gotta be who God has called you to be! Don’t ever compromise yourself!
To what extent should a girl care about her appearance?
Don’t let fashions become who you are/what defines you! Fashion is great, but don’t let it rule your life! Fashion should compliment who you are! Stop and think “what is dictating how I act, how I feel?” but don’t hide your individuality either!
Stand infront of the mirror and ask yourself “Why am I wearing what I’m wearing? To look hot, to look irresistible, or to honour God?” Check your motives!
Girls are so focused on how they look (and guys probably are too.) but there is so much more to each and every one of us! Bring people along side you who can be honest about you, who tell it straight, like “hey, I think that outfit may be a bit too suggestive” or “actually, you look a lot better in this colour, because it brings out your eyes.” Etc. Most importantly, find your affirmation in God, don’t look to guys (or girls) to define you!
But how do we get that tangible affirmation from God?
Don’t NOT go to church, just because something happened. Join a small group or a youth group, or both. Continue running after God. We cant comprehend how much God loves us, just think of what Jesus went through. How would you feel if you did what He did, or if you sent your one and only son to die for something you created. You’d have to really love what you created to do that! It’s not about what WE do, but about what God has done for us! Never feel ashamed or guilty. Instead, run to God. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 5:11 AM |
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Relationships:
(The person was talking about his relationship with his daughter, and how it is similar to our relationship with God. I think it has some tuff about boy/girl relationships too…)
You need someone in your life who loves you enough to set up boundaries and discipline you.
Dating is like a game… but it’s a game where people get hurt! You need to rather observe, and be real. Get to know someone first to see wether it’s worth investing your time and feelings into a relationship.
Remember, a guy (or a girl) needs to earn your trust and respect, don’t automatically give it to them.
When you date/court, you need to love the other person more than yourself! It’s not about “ME ME ME” but about “how can I make them happy?”
Everyone has a GOD shaped hole in their heart, and no relationship will ever fill that hole, so don’t think “If I only got married, I wouldn’t need God.” You’d still need Him anyway!
If someone shares their opinion with you, you are lucky. It means they value you enough to tell you exactly what they think. People only share opinions with people they deem worthy! They also value you opinions!
Remember, no matter what you do, someone will always love you. If I crashed my car, my dad would still love me. If I stole $1,000,000, and got arrested, my dad would still love me! He might not love what I did, but he will still love me.
You need to know boundaries, and you need to know conviction. How else will you know what is harmful to you?
If you cant do something in front of your parents, don’t do it at all! You know better, so choose better!
Always talk to God about everything, and keep up your relationship. You NEED to be valued, and only healthy relationships give you the value you need!
God isn’t harsh. He says “No, I don’t like what you did/what you’re doing, but I love you anyway. Just try to not do it again.”
Don’t step over boundaries, but if you have, seek forgiveness and repent. Even when you mess up, run to God, not from Him. He will make you clean and you will learn from past mistakes! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.
God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 5:41 AM |
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The Lowdown on Guys (Ill add in girls answers too for you guys…)
- stuff that you may not have read in fywo or fymo.
• Christian guys like girls who love God (and vice versa!!)
• Your girlfriend/boyfriend should be your best friend.
• If a girl/guy wants to make the first move, you should preferably tell them to their face!
• If you like someone, they’d prefer to be the first to know, not have to hear it from a friend.
• Girls also feel rejection, as well as guys.
• Guys are dumb (said by a guy, so don’t blame me… and he was a youth pastor too.) make it obvious. And girls may throw mixed signals, so if you want them to be honest, be honest to them about exactly how you feel.
• Understand each others point of view on where your relationship is going!
• Be yourself and don’t throw away your confidence!
• Guy’s notice ALL girls, and girls don’t obsess over how a guy looks. They tend to notice, rather, how he treats her.
• Don’t dumb yourself down.
• Don’t ever try to prove yourself!
• Don’t give guys stuff to look at and boys, don’t play with girls hearts, they tend to get emotionally attached quite quickly!
• Help each other not to stumble.
• It depends on your relationship as to how things effect each other, like for instance, I wouldn’t look at my brother the way I might look at a potential future husband and vice versa.
• You gotta look after yourself. This doesn’t mean being a size 2, it just means being healthy, and guys it doesn’t mean having a bazillion muscles (some girls actually get turned off by it…) but being fit.
• Don’t be a nag. Don’t say “where were you, how come you never answer your phone, I saw you with so and so…” It’s o.k. to ask once, but don’t keep ON AND ON about it. And guys, don’t ignore your girlfriend/ gal friends. They tend to get the wrong message if you do.
• When you are too preoccupied with your looks, it shows that you are insecure in who you are.
• Remember, God loves you the way you are!
• Boyfriends and girlfriends are an added bonus in life, you don’t NEED them. You can function without them!
• SEEK GOD FIRST!
• If you’re dating a non Christian, firstly pray about it, and if they are causing you to lose your relationship with God, break it off.
• Girls, DON’T BE CLINGY! If a guy needs you to be clingy, he has issues! And guys, don’t be so overprotective that your girlfriend cant have any conversations with another guy, she might run away!!
• Don’t obsess and think about the guy or girl 24/7. Its unhealthy!
• Have boundaries with “just friends” too. So they know where you stand!
• If your gf/bf pressures you, it’s not worth it! Remember, there are plenty of other people out there to choose from!
• Don’t date non Christians as a general rule, unless God specifically says you can. They should be fully committed Christians first. If you are dating a non Christian, first talk to God and a trusted adult about it before breaking off the relationship.
• Don’t confide in someone who is also struggling in that area, it will just make things more confusing!
• Don’t take things into your own hands, put them in God’s hands
• Dating is a trial for marriage
• Don’t date if you’re not in it for the long run, it just messes both of you up!
• Be yourself because it’s really obvious when you are being fake, and it is a turn off!
• Pursue God, it will shine through, and a worth guy or girl, will be there for you.
• Do not look for your value in relationships with guys/girls!
• True love is in Jesus, God is love! Even if your bf/gf’s love feels more tangible, God’s love is worth far more!!!! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 09/23/2008 5:44 AM |
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I hope this info is helpful. What do you all think of it??
feel free to put your own thoughts in. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JP
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| 09/29/2008 3:44 PM |
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Great info JoJo
On the Identity aspect, check out:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U it will shock you and goes right along with what you are saying.
On the Being You, and Loving It - one phenomenon that bothers me is that the accepted practice where girls are allowed complete liberty to comment negatively on photo's of themselves. I am not saying that every picture is a wonderful picture, but that negativity breeds negativity. This negativity is destructive and is usually an indication of a deeper hurt and sensitivity to physical matters than "usual" for a girl. I would challenge all girls to consider the danger of convincing yourself of physical imperfections or supporting others through constantly reinforcing it.
In addition, as a guy, some of my favorite pictures of my female friends is ones which are not "perfect", because it displays their beautiful personalities and quirks. I'll end with this quote for your musing: "You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen
Relationships and the low down on Guys/Girls: I loved every part of this! Great advice and substantial information!
I think I am going to start a thread to discuss other relational elements and reveal biblical explanations of God's love lived correctly within marriage. |
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Phlooshwaa
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| 09/30/2008 4:05 AM |
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Hey there. This is JoJo, Im using my brother's username atm cuz I cant logon for some reason... It keeps saying "That is not a correct username..." but I havent changed it...
Anyway...
I agree with what you're saying about girls thinking they look hideous is photo's. I used to be one. Then I realized that if I kept thinking I looked bad in photo's, Id never learn to love me for who I am. Now, even if the photo's arent perfect. I love them, because Im just being me. Ill never be satisfied, so why dont I just learn to love my flaws.
I think that topic would be awesome to start. I think... (If there are any other girls my age here, seeing as Im like one of the oldest teens on here... if not, the oldest...) it would be good to hear about it! and guys would greatly benifit from it too! |
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LOrii
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| 10/07/2008 3:13 AM |
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How on earth did you manage to get all that down?! haha i guess im not so much a not taker hey! and i was sitting right next to you in most of those sessions 2! hehe 
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Phlooshwaa
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| 10/07/2008 3:52 AM |
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JoJo:
I know... I was writing like CRAZY!!! HEHE  |
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