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Beckah
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| 04/20/2010 12:04 AM |
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Ok so me and a friend were thinking......You know how some girls try make an effort to stay pure for when they get married(not saying guys dont) but like when i get married i will have stayed pure for him. do guys think about staying pure for their future wife? (sorry 4 bad spelling)
I wouldnt want anyone to have kissed my future husband and then me to marry him.. know what i mean??? like if i started to date a guy that seems like it could be the right guy, would i just come out front and ask him are you pure...? that would be awkword................. |
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Grant I.
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| 04/21/2010 9:35 PM |
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Some do, many don't. For many of us, it's a daily battle on a lot of battlefields. I wear a purity ring to remind myself 24/7 that I have committed myself to stay pure until marriage. I wish I could say my eyes and mind have always been pure, but that's water under the bridge, and I've moved on.
I know what you mean, it would be awesome if I would be the first man ever to lock lips with my future wife on our wedding day!  However, while that would be very special, we have to face the fact that we are humans, and some of us have messed up, and I don't think we should just immediately write someone off just because they've kissed someone else. I personally haven't kissed a girl(besides a peck on the cheek), but I won't hold it against a girl if she has kissed someone else, as long as she is doing her best to keep herself pure until marriage after that.
As for that question...Yes, that would be very awkward. If you wanna know, ask your dad to ask him about that when he asks your dad's permission to date you, and if someone asks you, tell them to talk to your dad. |
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clare
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| 04/24/2010 12:01 AM |
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Don't write a guy off if he kissed a girl!!! Or even if he had sex...see where his heart is! And dad's detect faster than any girl where a guy's true heart is. Brothers are good at that too.
Very few guys or girls ever really consider waiting to kiss till their married. The first guy I dated (and kissed) had never dated a girl and not really kissed a girl either. The other guy..he had dated another girl and kissed her too. And when I kissed him...it was weird knowing someone else had...now I know how it feels...and now I wish I had waited  There's a lot a wish I could go back and change..
It might be awkward...but asking if a guy is pure or not needs to be done! I've done it! I've had it asked of me, and though it might feel weird, you'll feel better to get it out and asked!!! |
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JoJo
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| 04/29/2010 9:08 PM |
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well, that being said, I'm trying my best to also save my first kiss for my future husband, though, after we're engaged, I'd probably kiss him, cuz for me only kissing him on my wedding day is a bit too much to handle along with other stuff all in one day... Nuff said...
AHEM
The guy I'm interested in (been interested in him for about a year and a half now) has had other girlfriends and kissed a few girls... but he hasn't slept with anyone... but I haven't really asked him more than that seeing as we're only friends at this point, and it's not really my place to ask 
but I'd gladly marry him (if that was God's will). I mean it would be special to be each other's first kiss, but in this day and age, it's kinda hard to fnd a great Godly young man who hasn't... |
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**Jes :-)
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| 05/08/2010 7:47 PM |
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| for me i would want to do that to save it till marriage. but if i had a boyfriend who had kissed someone before, i don't think it would matter to me, sure it would be better of it wasn't like that but it is his past and if he wants to put that in the past then let it rest and go into the past. |
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nateynate
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| 05/08/2010 10:36 PM |
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| Well... do you consider kissing your girl or boyfriend wrong or unpure cause i dont see anything wrong with that and have never considered it unpure. But once you hit second, unless your married thats wrong and unpure. But for the question, yea that would be awkward if asked, but i wouldnt ask cause honestly, i wouldnt want to know. If my future wife has been unpure, thats between her and God. Ive got no buisness there. |
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wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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Adelynn
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| 05/09/2010 8:19 AM |
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why is kissing okay but nothing "more"? Who decides these boundaries?
I'm not calling anyone out, I'm just wondering... why is one thing okay but something else isn't? I used to compare myself to what everyone else was doing, and I wasn't doing a lot of the things they were doing so I thought I was all right, but then I compared myself to God's standards, and I realized that anything that could get me in trouble probably will. I'm only human, why would I not give in to "just a little more" each time? Besides, God doesn't look at it as "It's not unHoly," He looks at it as "Is it Holy?" |
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clare
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| 05/09/2010 4:56 PM |
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good point!
No one can decide rules and have them apply to everyone. It's different with every couple. Tho the more you allow the more risky it gets! It's all where your heart is.One couple can keep things at a simple kiss, and another couple can't, they go farther every time. I think the less you allow the better off you are |
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smileybookworm
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| 05/10/2010 7:59 PM |
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few questions.
First off, I never understood the "bases metaphor" clearing up or too embarrassed?
Secondly, (i know it's weird) but why would you want to kiss someone? I mean, there are so many germs in their mouth, bad breath, school lunch is bad enough before it get's to your mouth....
Thirdly, are you keeping yourselves pule (kisses counting) for your husband for you, God, or him? Just wondering |
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clare
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| 05/12/2010 11:22 PM |
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The only way it will work is if you're keeping yourself pure for God, other wise it's 'convenient' to change the 'rules'
LOL you're too good...once you kiss a guy then you'll know why!! You make it sound horrible!! But maybe it's good you just keep it that way  |
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Adelynn
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| 05/13/2010 7:52 AM |
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| haha are we allowed to explain the bases on here? I guess worse things have been posted... it's a fairly disrespectful (if you think about the context it's used in- comparing a woman's body to a sport... we are not a game) way of talking about how far you've gone physically, first kissing, second base is fondling (usually a female's chest), then sexual intimacy. Unless it's changed since I was in high school... |
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nateynate
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| 05/16/2010 12:17 AM |
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| nah its still the same i dont think it was made up to compare girls to a sport really from wat i hear from hen other guys talk, its knda like a way to say how far youve gone i dont know why its really just stupid all around |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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Beckah
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| 05/17/2010 5:11 PM |
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| I really dont worry about kissing, i have never dated and no guy has asked me out either, i think i'm on the safe,,so why worry if theres no reason to.....plus kissing is just gross..... |
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